To be sick and tired of being asked where I am from

[Playdoughy]

Just that really.
I am not from the UK, I've lived here a good portion of my life, my child was born here, my husband is also not from the UK (different country than me), and every single time everywhere - restaurants, get-togethers, parties we are invited to, standing in a queue, riding a bus, paying for a book in a bookshop - I really do mean everywhere and every single time - we both get asked where are we from - nicely and in a friendly manner ofcourse.

Now, to be clear - I am proud of where I am from, I don't mind talking about my country, a lot of beautiful things to say. I also don't expect people to assume I am from around here - I am aware of my accent 😁 so it's not like I am 'offended' that I am recognised as a foreigner...
I am just simply tired of the one and the same conversation every single time, day after day, all these years. If after my response I get - 'ah interesting I was wondering about accent' - fine, topic finished. But 90 percent of the time this goes into full conversation - Oh interesting, so what about xyz, how is xyz, do you xyz, how do you xyz.

When people engage into these conversations - does it really never cross their mind that this poor person you are about to interrogate about their roots probably gets that same question all the time and maybe just maybe is tired of it.
How about a good old weather themed conversation? Or asking about where I bought my bag, or recommend a movie, or simply rant about the ridiculous prices... anything but - 'so where are you from?'
And yes I know that the default answer to my post may be - 'If you don't mind me asking but - where are you from?' It is not even funny anymore.

Also is there anything I could potentially do to communicate that these questions are not exactly welcomed, without being rude or sounding like I am trying to hide something or being a weirdo.

Move to a city?

I've lived abroad, and I used to get it all the time, plus people wanting to practice their English.

I am in London. But yes I am aware I am free to move if I don't like it somewhere. I happen to like it very much - it is just this minor conversational point really 😅

YABU because I love meeting and chatting to people from other countries - much more interesting conversation than discussing the weather or where your handbag is from.

Have you got a lovely accent? Are people curious for that reason?(edited, as missed question mark)

I don't ask people where they're from. It's been drummed into us not to, as it could offend. I lived overseas and was often asked where I'm from. I still live overseas, but not too far from the UK, and get asked where I'm from, but not as much as you seem to.

I am white British, my family for the past thousands of years were Irish, German, English, and Scottish. I have a non-regional accent, live in Scotland, have done all my life (but have also visited England regularly) and whenever I have someone meet me from England, they love to ask me where I am from “originally”. It happens to us all - but I understand why it stings happening to someone who is not “from” here

Have you tried telling them London?

I'm not from the UK but have been here most of my adult life now so don't get asked as much as when I first moved here. I sometimes say "down south" or London if I don't want to engage, seems to work.

Last year I went home and was asked where I was from because I've lost my home accent. I don't know why but I said Manchester, however the questioner had family in the UK so started questioning me more and didn't really believe me. I felt stupid then and ended up saying I've moved around a lot 😂

YANBU my mum asks it all the time as soon as she detects an unfamiliar accent. It makes me cringe every time.

Even in my hometown I get asked where I’m from. I say here. They say no but originally. I say I was born here and so were my parents, grandparents etc. Then they look uncomfortable and move on. Maybe try that so you don’t have to answer so many questions.

I do sympathise, as I get that a lot, living abroad when I'm British. How I handle it depends on my mood because I know people are just being curious and trying to be friendly, so:

"Well, I've been here 26 years, so I don't really know where I come from, ha ha, but originally Manchester. The town - if it's not the capital city - sometimes throws them off from automatic assumptions or stereotype parroting. They have to think twice, like, "What country is Gdansk in again?"

Or,

"Everybody asks me that! I've had people guessing Australia, Denmark, all sorts. My neighbour is still convinced that I'm Russian after ten years of living next door to him!"

Or,

British! But I promise you that I'm not Princess Diana's cousin or a football hooligan. I'm one of those boring ones that's kind of in the middle. I don't even drink tea. I'm diappointing aren't I?

Deflect, deflect, deflect.

You just have to put up with it mainly though. Unless they start to get really offensive and begin harping on about something absolutely ridiculous.

The worst case I ever got was a tutor on a further education course who considered herself highly cultured but everything I did or said was, "Typiquement Anglo Saxon." She was a bore.

Interesting, so it is seen as not polite?
I would have never guessed, I actually thought maybe people do this because it is polite and shows interest.
Happy to find out it is not odd that I am feeling like this about it.

It's interesting you live in London, because I got asked where I'm from a lot while I lived in London. And I'm English (although not from London), so my answer was always boring.

After a couple of years I moved to a different city in England and literally never get asked it any more. I wonder if it's a London thing.

I don't blame you for being bored of the question. I would try to turn it around on the asker as quickly as you can. Ask them where they're from and then ask questions about the place to get them to do the talking. The kind of person who goes straight for the "where are you from" line of questioning in an attempt to engage a stranger in conversation probably loves talking about themselves.

I’m wondering if you live in a small town where the majority are white British, because I really don’t think this question would be asked as frequently if you were living somewhere like London.

By the way I know my response above wasn’t exactly helpful, it just made me curious because in London where I live if people were going to talk about what country they’re from all the time then there would be no other topic of conversation because everyone here is from all over the place ☺️

Well you've said people are pleasantly asking where you're from. Surely that's just a natural curiosity and showing an interest in you?
Some people are so precious, self-centered and easily offended these days.

I lived in Miami 20y, I’m not sure a day went by without bring asked where I’m from. Moved back to the uk, I still get asked. You just need to accept it tbh.

The other classic is, "How often do you go HOME?"

"Don't you MISS it?"
"What about your FAMILY?"

Way to make me feel welcome. I even had my GP ask me after my Dad died in England, "Don't you feel guilty now?"

I'm not so good at deflection tactics with these ones, so any suggestions would be good.

It's almost a standard question in London as there such a mix of people.

I'm london born here as were both my parents but often get asked where I'm from, or where I'm from originally, or where my parents are from. More commonly by non ethnically British people interestingly.

That sounds great but please don't take this the wrong way - I am not in a supermarket (or queuing for a toilet or attending friends birthday) for someone's amusement or to entertain their curiosity.
I absolutely am aware that people who ask me so much about my country are probably genuinely interested and are not trying to make me feel uncomfortable. What I am saying is that you are completely oblivious to the fact that this is super boring and draining conversation for me because I am forced into it every other day.

I am a Lancastrian living in NZ and always asked. Followed by "you have not lost your accent have you"😁
I don't mind at all, am very proud to be a Lancastrian.🌹

Yanbu and my dad would make up the most random countries when he was asked to get people to leave him alone.

Sometimes I just say "Ilford" ;)

OP, I TOTALLY get you. I'm so done with it. I think people mean well and I get it, but I too am so sick of it.

Raise your eyebrows, look at them with slightly amused eyes and say “Excuse me?” or “I beg your pardon?”

Just tell everyone that asks you that you find them super draining and boring then. I imagine people will stop talking to you soon enough.

I moved from one end of the U.K. to the other, I get asked where I am from all of the time. I view it as people being interested