Feel a bit weird about what my cleaner did.

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My cleaner has been with me for a few years. She’s a very nice woman, but can be a bit sensitive (if I give any feedback/ask for her to change something she does etc. she doesn’t take it well). I trust her- she has her own set of keys for my house, knows the alarm code etc. Good relationship overall- if I’m home when she’s here I’ll make us both coffee and we’ll chat.

She came on Monday for her usual cleaning appointment. I put my Christmas decorations up last weekend and she was very complimentary of them, asking where I got various bits etc. To be fair, I do go a bit OTT and love Christmas and this year’s decorations turned out especially well- I make a lot of stuff myself, and also have been collecting bits for years. We had coffee and then I needed to go out so we said our goodbyes, and I left her to it.

She lives about eight miles away from me, but we’re in the same area.

Today, I went onto Facebook and a post from a local group I’m in came up. It was a photo of someone showing off their Christmas decorations- I had to do a double take because it was my house! Pictures of my living room, hallway, landing, and sitting room, all decked out for Christmas. They were posted by my cleaner (under her own name- we’re not FB friends but both members of this group). The caption is along the lines of “not bad for a tired mum of three” and there are a few thousand likes and a several hundred comments (it’s a very big group). Lots asking where she got various items from and she’s replying, based on her asking me the same thing on Monday! In one comment she didn’t know where something was from and replied “I’ve had that for years, it was originally my Nan’s” 😮 (about a candle holder I got in Next c. 2019!!)

When I first saw it, I was a bit perplexed but didn’t dwell. Now that it’s sunk in, I’m a bit pissed off. My home isn’t instantly recognisable to strangers based on those photos, it does feel like a breach of privacy.

As I said, she can be quite sensitive so even saying this to her gently will likely result in her getting upset, and likely not coming to clean for me again. I can get another cleaner, but I don’t really want things to end this way as I’ve been happy with her until now.

In my shoes, would you be annoyed?

AIBU to be annoyed?

I wouldn’t be happy . Screenshot it and ask her to delete the post.

this is awful and would absolutely be a line in the sand for me. Feels like a total breach of privacy!!

I'd comment on it - something like - oh WOW that looks amazing

Have you seen the film single
white female?

That’s bonkers! That said, I really value a good cleaner so I might just stay quiet. I feel a bit sorry for her actually, perhaps her circumstances aren’t good this year and she is trying to live another life in a way even just for some social media likes.

Oh wow, that would make me very very angry. Who literally does that in someone else’s house? Especially someone you provide a service for?! Bizarre.

That's a sackable offence in my book.

She's fundamentally dishonest so I wouldn't want her having keys to my home!

She shouldn't do that, it's very disrespectful. Ask her to kindly take down the post and if she's upset then really that's not your issue to fix.

I wouldn’t be happy, it’s such a massive security risk especially showing off things like layouts and interiors of several rooms of your home / I’m sure it’s more identifiable to local residents than you think so I’d be absolutely livid.

I'm gobsmacked that you'd even consider letting this go. Such a betrayal of your trust and privacy.

Really weird behaviour from her! I’d have to mention it.

I don't really understand why she would do this? Even if times are tough and she is feeling crap about her own situation, surely a local group, where friends and family are likely to see it (and clients too) people will know that's not her house? Yeah this is really weird, I wouldn't feel comfortable with her back in the house after this.

Or comment on the post 😂

It’s a back handed compliment but she has to go, for reasons I’ve not worked out yet!

WTF, that’s beyond weird?! She’s being dishonest and I wouldn’t want a person that could lie so blatantly and post photos of my home so publicly in my home/ with a key to my home etc.

I would either be honest and send her a screenshot and say you’re really sorry but you’ve seen this and it’s made you feel really uncomfortable and will have to terminate the contract.

Or, lie and say money is tight come the new year and please take this as a month’s notice.

I would really struggle to have her in my home, among my personal things after this I’m afraid, it’s just blatant lying!

Sorry but I think this is hilarious!!

I don't know a part of me thinks its funny and another part of me thinks shes a complete psycho 🤔 sorry I'm actually no help here

I wouldn’t want my home posted and would find a new cleaner. Her claiming it’s hers is just a bit weird. Surely people that know her know it’s not her house.

I wouldn't be angry, but I would be freaked out. She's pretending to be you! That's bizarre. It would make me uneasy having her in my house, especially on her own, however good a cleaner she is.

Whoops clicked U when meant NBU. All a bit odd and I guess she has low self esteem and likes the likes.

We all know 90% of social media is Bullshit is it really that deep

This. Ironic that someone SO sensitive does something like this. The absolute audacity of her. Very, very out of order to do this- it’s your home.
this is your opportunity to call her out on this big time and if she dares become sensitive fire her.

I would be at her front door to collect my keys and be changing the alarm code.. totally out of order.

Yup, they'd be done ever working in my house again. Got no problem with tradespeople taking pictures of their work in my home, if they ask first, wouldn't have even minded if it's a cleaner showing their work either, but this is deranged.