Would you/have you secretly filmed at your child's Nativity?

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So our school has a policy that you aren't allowed to film/take photos at all, total blanket ban. They don't take photos or film themselves either.

My husband works away and never gets to see the plays so I secretly film them/take photos (just my child's part but there are others in the background) and I show the videos to him.

I don't put them on any social media or send them to anyone else, even Grandparents etc.

Aibu?

no need to exaggerate

It's not really "hackers" the risk with safeguarding is it.

My kids schools have never asked this of us. We even have a link to send out of any plays or performances. I can’t think of any reason that our schools are so special that they don’t request this from us. Only request is not to post on SM. Other than that we all video our kids. This must be a Mn thing

You’re not they’re all just pretending to be virtuous 🤣

Being completely honest, I think that while some schools will need a a 'no photos/filming' rule because of specific, vulnerable children, others probably are choosing it because they cannot be arsed trying to police a more nuanced or specific policy with parents who will continually push the boundaries, and think it isn't worth their time and effort to do so. And I think that is 100% reasonable.

Yep. You are wrong, for all the reasons others have said.

I think that probably does mean that their reason for telling you not to is that they want you to all put your phones away and actually concentrate on what the children are doing. Good for them.

Our school is the same, we can video or take pics but they ask us not to post them on social media which everyone seems to respect. To be fair the only person who wants to watch the video is my DS who likes watching his bits back, I can’t imagine wanting to share it with anyone else because nobody would be interested!

Several times I’ve had to watch my children’s play through someone’s iPad screen as they were sat a few rows ahead of me holding it up to film…I’d have been thrilled if our school had banned it!

I think if I raped someone it would be slightly worse....

I think this is possibly very true too. Rather than changing rules according to what dc attend their school it is easier to have a blanket ban. Apart from op of course - her wants outweigh everybody else’s

I have said that what people on here have said has made me think twice, I guess you haven't read the full thread. I'm hoping the school might allow photos or something next year so that it's not just a blanket ban on absolutely everything

Exactly.

The OP says I am capable of rational thought She's not capable of exercising any social or moral decency.

Yes this is what I'm thinking the reason is. Of course I can't be 100% sure but it wouldn't make sense to allow it sometimes but not others if this wasn't the case.

I know, I'm as bad as a rapist apparently.

I didn’t say that.

I said it was a slippery slope.

Please read what I actually said. Thank you.

But it’s people like you that meant we had to change those rules in our school-we originally said that parents could film/ take photos but don’t share on social media etc (so you understand the importance of this, we have children who are in care or are in domestic violence shelters).
Despite this, people still shared on social media, to the extent that we had to have a blanket ban.
If we found out that parents were continuing to SECRETLY film, I think we’d have to reconsider the whole idea of Christmas plays/ concerts.

It’s obvious no one agrees with you OP and others have explained their vulnerability in what would seem to be an innocuous situation.

You're wrong. You know you’re wrong, but you were hoping people would minimalist it. They haven’t.

Would the school be open to taking their own photos and sharing them with parents. You could volunteer to do it.

It's an absolute ridiculous comparison to make. I can read, you did not need to bring rape in to it FFS.

I dont think you’re bu apart from allowing other peoples kids in it.

our school allows filming as long as no one else’s kids are posted on SM

How is it?

I do not consent to being filmed but someone is going to do it anyway.

I do not consent to sex but someone is going to do it anyway.

I doubt they'd let a parent do it but hopefully they'll be open to doing it themselves and allowing parents a copy. I did once go to my Nieces play and they took group photos of the kids and you could buy them for £1

I send it to ALL our family and friends. ALL our family lives in another country and so do many of the kids in our school. And the only ones who want to watch on repeat are my kids 😅

You can get filmed in public absolutely against your consent.

I know that. But this isn’t in public. It’s in a school, at a nativity play, where the school have asked that there be no filming and where have previously been asked whether or not I consent to being filmed.