Brother saying he would never date a British girl

[Glambow]

My brother is 27, we met up tonight for some drinks as we won’t see each other over Christmas, we aren’t especially close as there is a large age gap.
We got onto chatting about his dating life and he said “yeah I don’t know I’d just never date a British girl”, I was confused by this so pressed a bit and he expanded saying he wouldn’t date a girl who was raised in the UK or had spent most of her life in the UK. He also said he wouldn’t date Americans, Australians or Canadians. His reasoning was “accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.
This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian.

AIBU to think this is a very strange preference? Part of me can’t help but feel like there is something off about it.

I think saying that he doesn’t like British girls is just daft, they’re not all the same! So unless he doesn’t have some attraction to “foreign” accents I don’t get it.

when I was younger I’d never have dated a pint swilling, football loving type of bloke. Which might be a stereotypical view of English men in their 20s. But i wouldn’t have said that I’m not going to date English men. There’s plenty of men who don’t fit that stereotype.

i wonder what it is about British girls which he doesn’t like.

Doesn't remotely surprise me that MN can dish it out but can't take it when suddenly they're the ones in the unwanted category.

Oh dont be ridiculous, the whole sexual attraction thing is about what you like and what you dont like and that means inherently people 'cut themselves off' from possibilities.

Thread after thread on this site is about what one or other poster 'couldnt live with that' type of thing or doesnt want someone who cant do this or that etc. Also physical things like 'teeth' crop up constantly

I think it is fine and understand where he is coming from. I am with someone non-British but if I could choose again, I would love a Welsh man as I find the accent so attractive. I also have a male friend who I knew would end up with someone from another country and he married a beautiful French woman. British girls never really got him, he was always friend zoned by them. It was hard to explain why, he was a bit different, but his differences were less obvious to someone from another country and they are very happy.

@Planesmistakenforstars
He's only spoken about the Anglo countries... there's a lot more countries with white western women. E.g. the rest of Europe.

Your brother sounds like a knob.

Not from me, lots of people dont find different ethnicities attractive and some do, its ok. Lots of black people say they wouldnt date a white person, that is also ok.

You've just proven the pp right.

You're thinking too hard about it. I'm also from the UK, always found men from other countries in Europe more 'exotic and interesting'. Married someone from a different European country. Accents, different cultures etc are fascinating. Teen daughter likes Asian men. Different appearances have attracted people since we first started moving around the Earth.

if he was attracted to a specific physical attribute, like blond hair, that would be acceptable. We don't choose who we fancy - it just is.
But saying he wouldn't date a whole nationality is not a physical/attraction preference, since we are not an homogenous mass (in terms of appearance or personality), based on what our passport says. So, this is more in the realms of discrimination and gives me incel vibes.

I would be curious to know what he looks like. I bet plenty of British girls wouldn't date him.

I clicked on this thread thinking you were my sister in law talking about my brother in law but you're not. He too said 'he doesn't like British women' and likes 'exotic women' but his ex was definitely far from exotic 🤷 strange but whatever really it's his preference

These are very specific things though. And while it may be a bit shallow (fwiw I would think these things but probably refrain from saying them out loud) I think it’s very different from a sweeping ‘I don’t like British girls’. Britain is a vastly diverse country so what exactly is the brother disliking? I think the answer, if he ever admitted it, would probably turn out to be quite unpleasant.

Yes, you are right. I was applying the wording as used in online red pill circles, where what they do mean by "Western" is in fact Anglo, and (in their heads) "Western," in relation to women, is synonymous with feminism, promiscuity and not being submissive to men. I doubt they spend much time wondering whether Slovakian or Estonian women are included in their definitions, especially since they're US/Anglo-centric anyway.

Let him crack on, it sounds quite immature to base your dating preferences on just an accent but that's his business.

See, I dont think it is at all different. I have seen sweeping statements many many times on here about not dating certain professions, not dating men under 6 foot, etc etc You could argue that doctors/police arent all the same, men under 6 foot arent all the same.

It's no different. I am not saying I think what he is said is at all mature, its not, it comes across as very immature but its really no different from ruling out huge swathes of the population due to their height or their job title.

You are allowed to find anything unattractive in a partner. But his category is pretty broad! I don't think I would date a bloke with a Birmingham -type accent, but you never know .

Meh. I recall being exoticised like this when I was dating. You can spot it a mile off and it's lame.

The height thing is a case of physical attraction and fair enough. When people talk about professions it’s usually for practical considerations. Eg I wouldn’t like to date a chef because they work such unsociable hours. I wouldn’t date a pig farmer because of the smell etc… I also wouldn’t like to date a low earner - not because I couldn’t find them attractive, but because the discrepancy in our earnings would become problematic in choosing dates, holidays etc.

So I’m sorry but no, I don’t think any of your examples are comparable to writing off an entire nation.

It's just a preference and not like it's hurting anyone.

Preferences don’t appear in vacuum. And of course it’s fetishisation.

I’m not saying this is your brother at all but this is a misogynistic thing I’ve seen online where men discuss how that they can get women “out of their league” by dating women from other countries. Saying essentially that British women as attractive wouldn’t look twice at them but being British gives them a novelty value to foreign girls. Some of the comments under the photos were quietly satisfying though.

Arrogant twat or just a man with certain preferences, who also seems fairly loyal judging by the number and length of his relationships?

It’s not accents he has a preference for; it’s women who speak English as a second language as I assume he doesn’t speak Norwegian, Spanish, Italian and Armenian.

It’s interesting he specifically seeks out relationships with this immediate barrier.

I know two men who are from English nice mc backgrounds and never ever date women from same background

they both make a point of having relationships with women that are not like them as other women are so much more interesting

I find it a bit pathetic