Brother saying he would never date a British girl

[Glambow]

My brother is 27, we met up tonight for some drinks as we won’t see each other over Christmas, we aren’t especially close as there is a large age gap.
We got onto chatting about his dating life and he said “yeah I don’t know I’d just never date a British girl”, I was confused by this so pressed a bit and he expanded saying he wouldn’t date a girl who was raised in the UK or had spent most of her life in the UK. He also said he wouldn’t date Americans, Australians or Canadians. His reasoning was “accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.
This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian.

AIBU to think this is a very strange preference? Part of me can’t help but feel like there is something off about it.

I read your full post.
It was ridiculous.

Just to clarify

I taught ESOL for 8 years. I met second language English speakers who had a much better grasp of grammar, punctuation and the rules of English language than the average native speaker. However, there were ALWAYS idioms and cultural references/ norms that almost all British people would know that second language speakers wouldn’t. And to compare the most elite of second language learners to English people who most likely have learning difficulties (you know it’s possible to “excel” even with a LD, right?) was ridiculous.

But people used to have preferences before YouTube and social media?
I remember over twenty years ago several female uni friends saying they wanted to meet a guy from a particular background, like the UK or Spain.

Normal relationships usually

well said!

A native speaker with no learning difficulties is ALWAYS top level proficient. Always. They have an innate fluency that transcends grammar. Even if they say "we was gunna see if you could of borrowed us some money" - thats not a lack of proficiency. Thats just their variety of english.

He’s just another shallow twat. Nothing more.

I also think, in his immaturity, he believes that telling people (anyone) this, makes them think he's complicated and sophisticated and rather superior to your run of the mill young man. At 27, he really should have grown out of that. However, if he prefers people with foreign accents, that's a preference, not a kink or a fetish. It's not harmful.

1. That’s why I used the word “proficient” - I wasn’t referring to idioms, cultural references or norms (which differ even between native speakers) although someone who has lived here for several years can pick them up by “osmosis” more easily than a native speaker can grammar
2. I said they excelled with a “standard” education i.e. not one adapted to support learning difficulties, just the education they missed out on the first time. I honestly don’t know why you’re finding it so hard to grasp that someone never learned to read or write because they just never went to school and no one ever taught them, not because they have learning difficulties. You do realise that back in the day parents could deregister their children from school under the guise of homeschooling and then teach them jack shit right? There were no checks and balances (I don’t think it’s much better now).
3. Yes I know full well those with learning disabilities can excel thanks, I have dyslexia and dyscalculia myself but still managed to get my PhD, several professional qualifications and start a successful business; I am also CELTA qualified but only taught in India for a year so not as experienced as you on that. I have made no comment about anyone who has learning difficulties even though you keep insisting I am; I have said 3 times now that I DID NOT work with adults with learning difficulties, they came to me after it was determined they did not have any as I am not a SEN specialist
4. I was not comparing them; previous posters have said that maybe OP’s brother preferred women who spoke English as a second language so he’d have the upper hand therefore inferring that he wouldn’t get away with things with native speakers - that is why I said that I know people who speak English as a second language more proficiently than some native speakers - which you agree with - therefore illustrating that might not be the case. The poster disagreed saying that’s never the case so I gave an example. At the end of the day it really doesn’t matter WHY a native speaker might be less proficient than someone who speaks it as a second language for the context of this thread; this isn’t a linguistics thread, it’s about OP’s brother potentially having the upper hand with a “foreigner” compared to a native speaker.

My aunt married the boy next door. Divorced. Different reasons than you mention, but the result is the same.

Have you considered the possibility that the women like the fact that your brother isn’t from their country too?

Agree.
Plus the ability to understand English being spoken in a huge variety of other accents/ dialects etc.

The age gap scenario doesn’t make a great comparison from my perspective. I wouldn’t form a long-term relationship with someone 25 years older than me simply because the likelihood is that they’ll die a long time before I do. Yes, people can die at any age but probability is a thing.

I wouldn’t date someone 25 years younger because I wouldn’t get the chance. 😂 And also because they would be almost the same age as my children which would make me feel like I was being inappropriate. And I don’t think a younger man would want to end up as my carer- nor would I want him to.

So my preference for people around my own age has logical reasoning behind it.

But not all preferences have reasons or explanations- I get that. I have often been attracted to really skinny, geeky men. It’s just appealing to me but then hardly any of my boyfriends have actually fitted that description! So while it was a ‘preference’ of sorts, it certainly didn’t mean that was the only ‘type’ I would find attractive and date- far from it.

Maybe he reads what all the British women wrote on MN?

My sister said she wouldn't date a brit again.
We are brits born and raised.
She has been with her current partner 6 years now.
He's from Romania and he's lovely.
We all have a preference.

I however dont date but I've sleep with a few men from different cultures.
Just fun to me nothing serious.
Some people are just not attractive to others.

So true.

Brilliant!!!

🤣

Dating is by definition discriminatory. I've rejected men for all kinds of "mean" and immature reasons.

Don't think this applies to Norwegians, or Italians and Argentinians either tbh

I agree - one of the many reasons he is an idiot - but as I understand it it is the English speaking nations that gets seen as particularly bad for feminism in the wonderful manosphere. For everyone who does think this is the reason - what’s the alternative that makes sense - clearly it can’t be about physical type given the range of ethnicities in those four countries, and if it was just about someone who had travelled to another country why exclude Americans/australians/Canadians.

I think it’s pretty well acknowledged that some countries produce more conventionally attractive people. British women (myself included) aren’t up there in my opinion so I can see why your brother, being attractive, has chosen to go for other nationalities.

That’s ok, it’s his life, his choice.

I agree with this too. Whenever I go on holiday I am always struck by the quite startling difference between Brits and other nationalities. I love the UK but we are certainly not the most attractive nation of people 🤣

Lucky British Girls!!!!

It sounds like an immature view. I knew someone like this in secondary school, she said she could only ever date east Asian men but not like British Asian, they actually had to be from that region of the world. It’s the sort of naive view that’s acceptable at that age but at 27 it’s a bit infantile.