Brother saying he would never date a British girl

[Glambow]

My brother is 27, we met up tonight for some drinks as we won’t see each other over Christmas, we aren’t especially close as there is a large age gap.
We got onto chatting about his dating life and he said “yeah I don’t know I’d just never date a British girl”, I was confused by this so pressed a bit and he expanded saying he wouldn’t date a girl who was raised in the UK or had spent most of her life in the UK. He also said he wouldn’t date Americans, Australians or Canadians. His reasoning was “accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.
This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian.

AIBU to think this is a very strange preference? Part of me can’t help but feel like there is something off about it.

Is anyone really interested though in a randoms brother on the internet?

Why are you on Mumsnet? Why do you care about any of us “randoms on the internet”? 😂

My brother tells me lots of shit about his life.
He doesn't submit it to me for approval. Clearly, if he thought I was judging him, we'd not have the close friendship we do.

As for inviting the the tight sphincters of Mumsnet to call him an abuser, a slave owner, a colonialist, a racist and a controller, because he dated a Norwegian?😃

I haven’t read every single post, but I’d be willing to bet that none of that actually happened.

The OP has admitted that she does not have a close relationship with her brother due to the age gap. The closeness of your relationship with your brother is irrelevant here.

I can see from your posting history that you are not new to mumsnet so I’m wondering why this particular random on the internet is of such less interest that all the other randoms on the internet that were the subject of threads you’ve contributed to?

That's actually a thing! There's a lot of comedy in Scandinavia about how a French/Italian/Spanish/Caribbean guy just needs to enter a Scandi nightclub and they have to beat the women away with a stick, while the local guys have no chance! I actually personally know stories of how good-looking men from said countries came to Scandinavia and had a culture shock with all the attention and forwardness.

Attraction to British guys is quite common also, or used to be at least.

Was talking to a friend yesterday who also only dates internationally and he said that while he has tried to date women from his country, he feels they don't get his mentality, as he is of mixed heritage and widely travelled.

The man in question did a languages degree, so clearly has an interest in all things foreign... Reminds me of my cousin who did a languages degree and has only ever dated French/Italian ladies.

It could be worse though... Imagine having to be romantic in a language like Finnish! I'd say Italian/French/Spanish people are quite universally romanticised on language alone...

Actually what's quite interesting is that people have the view that British or American women are seen as very independent and women from other countries as 'submissive'.

The longer I am in the UK, the more I am of the view that many women in the UK hold very traditional, 'family values'. E.g. a lot of focus on what the job of a boyfriend or partner is, whether they have a decent income, family background, whether they want to settle down. Almost all women I work with plan to get married and have a wedding, or had one. Lots of women want to work part-time or not work at all, lots of interest in home-related hobbies like interior design, baking etc. Women talk about home and family life so much of the time, which implies it's of high importance to most women. Went to work Christmas drinks today and that was the entire evening's conversation - home and family life, houses, children, family social events.

Growing up in Scandinavia I never really knew anyone or anyone's parents with these kinds of priorities, e.g. marriage/ weddings or being a SAHM was pretty unusual, women would often earn the lion's share of household income etc. Conversation would be about politics, economics, news, travel, hardly ever would you socially discuss your housing or family matters.

I really don't think the OP's brother is that interested in traditional/ submissive. I mean, a girl who's left Armenia or Argentina all by herself to live in the UK is hardly going to be submissive or poor, is she? She'll likely be well-educated from a wealthy family, coming to the UK to grow professionally and personally. Maybe he's just into that.

Not necessarily. I’m attracted to Asian men (East and South) and I’m a white woman. It’s purely down to looks.

In his case it’s not about looks at all!!!! So many people seem to not have actually read the post - he doesn’t want to be with anyone who has lived a significant amount of their life in the UK/US/canada/australia. There is no ethnicity or physical look that is not represented within this mix of countries so this is not about his physical type. It’s about whatever he believes all women in these four countries share culturally. It seems pretty obvious in this day and age with the media environment we live what he is really referring to here - and no one has managed to suggest anything that could qualify that is not that - but if anybody has alternative suggestions that actually fit what he said great!

What do women in the UK, US, Australia and Canada have in common (apart from the language), that women in places like Norway don’t?

This has reminded me of my friend’s uncle who exclusively dates much younger women or women who are not from the uk and speak a different first language.

He likes to “teach them” them things about life and culture 🤮 🤮

In the real world - absolutely nothing - the population in all those countries is extremely diverse physically and culturally. Online there is a whole narrative about how women in the English speaking countries have been ruined by feminism and are too demanding.

I once dated an American who said he had been hoping his next girlfriend would be British. I didn't appreciate that at all.

This is the point though. The scam of the stereotypes.

When I lived in the US I had a friend, a lovely Asian woman, who married her American husband while he was overseas. As far as she was concerned, it was a love marriage. He assumed she would be the submissive little woman because he bought into the stereotype (which is perpetuated by Western men who want submission) despite the fact that she was a professional who earned a similar amount to him.

They got back to the US and after a couple of years and the first baby, he had an affair. She stayed with him, got a 2nd job and worked her arse off saving enough to buy her own home. Then left his adulterous self, taking their child with her.

I assume NO ONE is assuming women overseas are submissive / stupid etc. It is the WESTERN MEN who want an easy life and assume their conferring a passport / visa on a foreign woman is enough to 'buy' deference. Which is bullshit. Hence the term 'passport bros'. They're just incels who think they can buy a woman.