Brother saying he would never date a British girl

[Glambow]

My brother is 27, we met up tonight for some drinks as we won’t see each other over Christmas, we aren’t especially close as there is a large age gap.
We got onto chatting about his dating life and he said “yeah I don’t know I’d just never date a British girl”, I was confused by this so pressed a bit and he expanded saying he wouldn’t date a girl who was raised in the UK or had spent most of her life in the UK. He also said he wouldn’t date Americans, Australians or Canadians. His reasoning was “accents are hot and I just don’t like British girls”.
This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian.

AIBU to think this is a very strange preference? Part of me can’t help but feel like there is something off about it.

I’m the same about men. I just find something more exotic, more appealing.

Well, to be fair I have always been attracted to boys than men with brown eyes, dark hair. We are all blond and blue eyed in my family so maybe it's just as simple as opposites attract.

I think it's becoming to your brother that he wants to meet someone with another cultural background because it takes more of an effort to understand each other regardless of language.

I am married to a foreigner. Massive benefit being my in laws live half the world away. See them once a year (which is good as MIL is unpleasant) and have free accommodation and holidays for the summer when visiting FIL.

No one should be answerable about who they will and won't date. It's too personal. Especially when it's an admission made privately to a sibling.

Exactly this. Why is it that some preferences are deemed socially ok to voice, yet others not.

No it isn’t sexuality isn’t a preference anymore than your own eye colour is a preference.

Sadly my guess is this is not about a look he likes (given British girls look all kinds of ways) and more about the fact that he perceives British/American/Canadian/Australian girls to be too “independent” and expects with a girl from a different less “independent” country that he may get the gender dynamic he wants in his relationships. Of course, if that’s what’s motivating he’s an idiot on many levels but not your responsibility to fix…

"This does appear to be true as his current girlfriend is from Argentina and his exes have been Norwegian, Italian and Armenian."
Did you miss this in the OP? What makes you think a British woman is more independent than a Norwegian or Argentinian woman? Especially as they decided to move abroad, presumably on their own? That's the opposite of dependent or submissive.

Finding accents hot is very normal. He certainly doesn't discriminate about which accents! I don't have any rule like this myself (and DP is British) but one amazing thing about dating foreign men was getting a window into a completely different culture. I think some people are just very drawn to difference rather than similarity and I don't think that's an exoticism fetish. (I'm mixed-race so I know that when I see it.)

In general I don't really get hard-and-fast rules that aren't personality-based like "I won't date British women" or "I won't date short men" because while I have my own physical preferences, there have been plenty of times when someone's come along and turned them upside down. Thinking about one bald and kind of scrawny man in particular - not remotely my type before or since but that fling was well worth it.

But everyone is entitled to have their own preferences! I do think it's crass to go around wearing your preferences like a badge of honour (like, girl no one cares that short men give you the ick; my guy, your lack of attraction to fat women is very boring). In this case though, OP asked him, apparently at length.

Each to their but imagine if this was "never date a black girl". I bet the responses would be different.

This one always makes me laugh. I'm part-Asian and the majority of East Asian women I know are the opposite of submissive. Thinking about several formidable aunties who wouldn't take an ounce of shit from anyone. Also thinking of some of my British-Asian friends who, like myself, were very aware of this stereotype and went to deliberate lengths to become the opposite of it.

I think a lot of people confuse being quiet, or too bored to argue, or even not speaking English very well, with being docile and submissive. Not the case.

He does realise there are tons of British accents doesn't he?

They'd also be different if it was OP who would never date a short man.

To be fair, most of the internet wouldn't exist if none of us gave any thought to anyone else.

That falls into one of the many reasons he is probably being an idiot - women being independent is not just a English/american/australian/canandian thing at all. But this can’t be a physical attraction thing given the range of women in those countries - it has to be “cultural” - and there is a strong internet narrative around the countries he is avoiding being full of women with too “independent” a set of expectations.

Any more than a couple of foreign partners it starts to look like its the further opportunities that accompany beng with a foreign partner rather than the peron who attracts (work, travel etc).
If I found out I was foreign girlfriend nos 4 for example, I may wonder what's wrong that he couldn't find a local girl.

Preference was a bad word & I probably gave a bad example. However, I don’t see a problem with people only wanting or going to date a certain person.

Not from me. As I don’t find it offensive when I hear people would only date black people. I have a mate that doesn’t find white men atttactive

Its quite normal? I dont think its a fetish. These are Western countries, its not like he choses girls because they are somehow submissive, brought up to be respectful of men or whatever. Its probably just appearance/ accent that turns him on.

A lot of women find French accent or Italian guys sexy - I dont think its different at all. And, tbh, I would never date an American, too - they are so different, and I hate the accent.

I'm aware of that narrative but none of the weirdo men who fall for it would decide to date a Norwegian woman, from a famously liberal and feminist country.

I know loads of men and women with preferences for certain nationalities. Not everyone talks about them, built I'm pretty sure everyone has them. There are also certain nationalities that are very attractive but I would be wary of because of cultural clashes.

Same! I've always wanted men with the absolute opposite of my facial features. When I was younger I just immediately passed over boys with any similarities. I feel it's quite a deeply driven thing in me. I'm similarly very particular about men's natural smell. It either fits or I'm repulsed.

I'm always surprised by the number of couples I see who look quite similar to each other, so clearly not everyone has this drive!

It may not be the case but only wanting to date someone whose first language isn't English feels like he wants someone who'll always be slightly on the back foot, to me.

No different to a woman saying that she wouldn't date a man who earned less than her.

Or a woman saying she wouldn't date a short man.

I think it bothers you because you can see the reasons why he doesn't want to date British women, and the realisation makes you uncomfortable.

TBH, we aren't the most attractive of people. Spend any time at Med resort and you'll quickly see the difference between the average British person when compared to the average "foreign" person.

LOL at all the outrage in this thread when people proudly proclaim on here all the time that they wont date men under 6 foot tall or men who dont earn over 100K a year because they "dont find them attractive".

All of us have dating preferences and people are lying if they say they dont.