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Christmas dinner invite taken back due to grown up sons hissy fit

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Darkcat · 18/12/2025 17:47

Earlier this year, I was invited to spend Christmas Day with my partner’s family. That invitation was made months ago, and I’d been planning around it.

Recently, however—just a week before Christmas—one adult member of the family has decided they don’t want me present and has pushed for the invitation to be withdrawn. On top of that, they’ve also stated that I’m no longer welcome at my partner’s home where he lives.

This has left me in a difficult position. With such short notice, it’s too late to make alternative plans, especially as my own child has already arranged to spend the holidays elsewhere.

I’m struggling with whether it’s unreasonable to expect my partner to stand up for me and say that I should still be included, particularly given that I haven’t caused any conflict or done anything to justify this reaction. At the moment, it feels like the situation is being allowed to continue without challenge, despite the fact that everyone involved is an adult.

OP posts:
Roobarbtwo · 21/12/2025 18:05

Blablibladirladada · 21/12/2025 17:54

But it isn’t your op though is it? So why pick on the obvious and let the op answer herself 👀

No it's not but people were assuming that he was older because he had a 28 year old son

I'll happily let the OP answer herself if she feels it's appropriate to do so

Milosc · 21/12/2025 18:18

I asked before and was unanswered. Are you closer in age to his son than you are to your partner? Your DD is 9 and his DS is 28. This suggests there could be a large age gap and that could be the issue. I could be wrong and you had your DD late and he has his DS early, but trying to figure out the issue without all the facts is hard. You have never posted your ages so I am guessing maybe that was on purpose and is a factor in all of this. This can't have come from nowhere.

Blablibladirladada · 21/12/2025 18:54

Roobarbtwo · 21/12/2025 18:05

No it's not but people were assuming that he was older because he had a 28 year old son

I'll happily let the OP answer herself if she feels it's appropriate to do so

Do that :)

KilliMonjaro · 22/12/2025 06:28

Darkcat · 20/12/2025 18:57

I was never the other woman he’d been divorced 5 years when I met him.

How long have you been together op?
What’s the age difference between you and dp?

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