If money was no object, would you live alone?

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I love DP, but I also always loved living alone. We ended up living together because it makes economic sense, but having had this debate with a few female friends recently, almost all of us said we would actually prefer living alone and having two homes if money wasn’t an issue—even the married ones!

Plenty of research exists to show men are better off when living with women and women don’t benefit in the same way by living with men. Just interested in opinions. For me, it’s mostly about knowing the place will be beautiful, quiet, tidy, clean and that I can be alone if I want.

I’ve never lived with anyone except for my family and then halls at uni!

No but we have three reception rooms, don't share a bathroom and I have my own dressing room. Also DH is immaculately clean and tidy.

If anything happened to DH I woukd never, ever live with another man.

When the children were lottle (grown up now) I used to have fantasies abput living in a flat with white carpets.

Side by side penthouses would be my choice.

Maybe with an adjoining door, but maybe not.

No way. Love every minute with my dh. But there’s no one else I could live with.

Didn’t Tim Burton and Helena B-C live in adjoining houses?

I've always LOVED living alone and did for 10 years. When pregnant with DD I moved in with my dad. It works perfectly. Both of us are really chilled out and get along grand. We haven't had a single argument in the 2.5 years I've been in his flat (even with all the lack of sleep etc). It's lovely for DD to see her grandad before he leaves for work. We often have a cup of tea and a chat at 2 am when DD is in bed, which I love. We leave little notes for each other on the whiteboard in the kitchen. ""Spag bol in fridge!", "Have a great day!" Etc. If I was a millionaire, I would want to keep the same arrangement, maybe just by a bigger place with an extra bedroom.

I would never live with a boyfriend/partner etc. Just no.

Yes I would now. I would be happier with a small house, tiny patio. Instead we have a big house and garden, but I have my own bedroom but I’ve had enough of his mess around me. He has adhd and just leaves stuff everywhere. I suspect that would signal the end of the relationship though.

Is there no way you can leave him? Have you checked your options e.g. any benefits you may be entitled to, moving to a cheap area. Life is too short to be putting up with such poor treatment.

Also, stop cooking his meals.

Me, too! Money's definitely an object, nonetheless.

I value my costly selfishness 😎

Or both working from home. I’ve worked from home for 16 years. Unfortunately the pandemic resulted in my DP joining me and his company only brought back in one day a week in the office post pandemic. He loves it. I hate it. We have a small house and he’s always in it as he has few friends/hobbies that take him out of the house.

Yes

I live with my two small children and a close friend as a temporary lodger. It's awesome. I know my DP would love us to live together at some point but I'm not sure. My best friend is about to choose to live with a man again now her children have grown and I can't help thinking "but whyyyyyyy?!"

This is really lovely. I have a wonderful relationship with my dad and probably could've done this when he was younger. I wouldn't now he's in his 80s though - the house is too warm and I hate loud tv.

I do live alone and it's bliss, partner is local and we both love our independence. I love my alone time, I actually need time where I don't interact with anyone.

Ditto. Money gets tight but I’ve learned to cut my cloth accordingly and I wouldn’t give up my peace for a multi millionaire.