If money was no object, would you live alone?

[SantiagoShaming]

I love DP, but I also always loved living alone. We ended up living together because it makes economic sense, but having had this debate with a few female friends recently, almost all of us said we would actually prefer living alone and having two homes if money wasn’t an issue—even the married ones!

Plenty of research exists to show men are better off when living with women and women don’t benefit in the same way by living with men. Just interested in opinions. For me, it’s mostly about knowing the place will be beautiful, quiet, tidy, clean and that I can be alone if I want.

No but I would like separate bedrooms and bathrooms.

Yes if we could afford to have two nice houses I would love that. Thought I was weird 😂

Absolutely. But my DH is useless. Hasn't cooked a meal in 25 years or gotten his arse out of bed for DC or to do washing etc. I dream of only cooking for myself and only my tiny washing.

We have DC but he'd have them part time & I'd be free half the time. What bliss! I can never afford it though. I'd live in poverty.

I’m not well off but I’ve lived alone for 4 years since my DS left home and I couldn’t ever live with anyone again,

Its 10 years since I lived with a man - no money in the world could get me to ever cohabit again

Completely agree. If I did get into another relationship, I wouldn’t ever think about cohabiting. I love my peace too much

No! I like living with my DH and DC.

Yes. I'd have DH in a house next door. I'd visit him but keep my own clean, tidy and relaxing space.

I’ve been wondering if all those saying they’d rather live alone mean without their kids too!

I don't have any kids but we do have two dogs and two cats. The pets could all stay with me, except one of the cats, who is a sadistic bastard. My DP can have him. Although to be fair we'd probably put a pet flap in the wall between the two houses. They'd all still stay with me though, as my house will have comfortable things like cushions and clean beds. DP would only change the bedding when it starts crawling and he is always complaining about the pointlessness of cushions.

No, I like company in my daily life. Clearly it would be better to live alone than with the wrong person, but as long as I can live with someone who has compatible tastes, I'd rather do that.

No.I like living with DH as we give each other space and he's tidy and pulls his weight around the house. I doubt I'd bother to look for anyone else you if he wasn't there.

No, because my husband is lovely and not a selfish arsehole.

We also respect each other having our own space in the house so I have never felt the need to literally move out

I do live alone, and I too love it. No partner, no kids.

Yes. Once kids have left home.

I love the company of my partner and my DC, but I need time on my own and love having my own space. I get exhausted by constant company.

Dear God what is the point of being with someone like this?

My dad is like that. Has never done anything for himself. He has never had a bank account. DM as always managed his finances... wages, and now pension. He has never gone clothes shopping once in his life. HIs mum, then my mum.... they have done it for him.
DM is not happy. She is a pensioner but still works so she had time out the house. She has savings, ISAs etc all over the place but if she left DF, he would get half and drink it away. So she stays.
DF was in hospital for a few days last year, and DM's smart watch said she had the the best quality sleep.

Yes, definitely.

DH is good company and he does his share around the house so I have nothing to complain about really, but I think I’m just a natural loner. I feel so much more peaceful when I’m alone in my own space. My mental health has never been better than during the two years I spent living alone in my own house.

No, I would get very existential and depressed if I lived alone.

I LOVE being alone and crave it, but if I was home alone for more than a day or so then I stay home and would become an unhappy recluse very very quickly.

No way!

I only ever lived by myself once and absolutely hated it.

I tend to think that's part of the reason the slacker in these situations does the slacking. I.e., they know that the victim will only make life harder for themselves if they escape. Staying put is the least-worst option.
In addition a situation like this leaves the victim feeling overloaded/stressed/resentful all of which makes it harder to weigh things up objectively & plan ahead.
Even so, please start resisting @MermaidMummy06 stop doing things for him, little by little, boil him like a frog.

With my children.

No. I could do that if I wanted, but I don’t. DH is a fully functioning adult therefore he takes on at least 50% of “life shit”. I also have all the nice fabrics and quiet that I want!

I would much rather do life with him than without him. That said, I am perfectly happy in my own company and he is the only other human I can spend prolonged periods with (holidays don’t count!). If anything was to happen to him? I would quite happily live alone, I can see the advantages, particularly if you live with a man who is a lazy shite.

I think you have hit on something here! Living alone as a woman can feel like a luxury - even on a modest budget.

I think it maybe worked better back in the day when men were out at work and women at home because women got that time alone in the house. But now with both out working (and perhaps the women even working longer hours), i suspect alone time at home is a scarce resource and coveted.

I dont think this is true for all women - I know some people crave company and dont like alone-time. Maybe a significant minority?

If you don't count pets then Ive lived alone for about 30 yrs.
Don't think i could deal with having to make allowances for another person now.