If money was no object, would you live alone?

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I love DP, but I also always loved living alone. We ended up living together because it makes economic sense, but having had this debate with a few female friends recently, almost all of us said we would actually prefer living alone and having two homes if money wasn’t an issue—even the married ones!

Plenty of research exists to show men are better off when living with women and women don’t benefit in the same way by living with men. Just interested in opinions. For me, it’s mostly about knowing the place will be beautiful, quiet, tidy, clean and that I can be alone if I want.

I do. Have done for 7yrs odd when DC moved out.

No way would I ever share my home with a man now.

Pets are allowed though! So are DC if they find themselves needing a roof. No way would I ever move in with, buy a home with, rent with a man. My home, owned outright, just for me ta. No cocklodgers here!

I live alone. It's heaven.

No.

I want to slap my DH with a wet fish sometimes, as he can be a bit annoying sometimes (reading stuff out that he's reading on the internet/on his phone, and he has a habit of chatting over TV programmes when we're watching something and I have to tell him to shut up....) And he is quite lazy. SOMEtimes. But I have my flaws too, and for the most part he's OK to live with, and I enjoy his company sometimes - well more often than not.

I sometimes wish he would go out a bit more, and get a couple of hobbies, and I do enjoy time on my own when he's at work - or goes to bed at 8.45pm (coz I have the TV to myself. ) But when he's been doing long shifts at work, and has been at work 5-6 days in a row, I do miss him. We do have fun together, nice day trips/trips out together, and meals out, and nice nights in together.

It makes me realise I wouldn't want to be on my own permanently. Maybe it's because we've been together 36-ish years and living together for 34 or so years, and being alone just feels weird and wrong now. I don't know if he will die before me, but if he does, I'm not looking forward to being alone all the time.

I imagine most people who are desperate to be alone/live alone don't have very good relationships. To be married/in a long term relationship and not want to live with your partner anymore doesn't scream 'solid, loving relationship' (to me.) JMO.

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I lived alone for years before I met DH and miss my little cottage and the tidiness. If I were widowed I’d get a dog.

I’m married and yes, I’d rather live alone.

Slightly left field suggestion but have you ever considered getting a camper van?

No. I enjoy living with DH. It probably helps that we both have a similar attitude to tidiness, respect each others need for alone time, he pulls his weight on housework without having to be asked, and the house is big enough for us both to have our own space when we need it.

It's just me and my DS. Absolutely love it. (Might love it less as he gets older and wants friends round. 😱) But there's no man to get on my nerves, tell me what to do or disagree with how I raise DS.

Yes. Overnight stays would be allowed (on invitation) but I would love to wfh in peace, knowing I wouldn't be interrupted, or walk in the door after working the office and know I was on my own (apart from the cats). Not to have bikes, random socks and part finished projects cluttering up my living space would be bliss!

Ive lived alone for most of my life and enjoy it. I always said that when I reached a point where I could no longer look after myself I would end my life with dignity. Its easy when you live alone. You just tell your friends or family you are going away for a couple of weeks. Eventurlly one of them gets worried and comes to find out why yur not answering the phone or emails. And they find you. But its too late.

Yep

I knew it would only be a few posts before someone came along to say how people who want to live alone don't love their partners as much as they love their partners! 😁
You will be shocked that I have been married 30 years and still love to travel alone

No - I’d have a massive estate /
compound though with lots of room for my elderly parents, adult children one day, brother and his family , and loads of staff. I can but dream…

No way.

Don't get me wrong, my partner and I love nothing more than having the house to ourselves for a few days (I'm actually enjoying that privilege as we speak - lovely stuff) but I'd hate to live alone permanently. I enjoy their company too much.

No, I like living with my fiancé, building a home together, although I'd love more space so we could house our hobbies properly and have separate bathrooms and stuff. If we split or he died, I'd probably choose not to live with anyone again though (once the kids were grown). I do love living alone.

@Zov We genuinely do have a great relationship overall and I think this perception of if you don’t want to be together all the time your relationship is somehow broken or less than is what I’m trying to get my head around. I don’t think that’s necessarily true. I love my DC, and Mum and my siblings and my nephews and nieces to bits, would step in front of a speeding bullet for every single one without a second thought, but I’d be happiest living alone vs with any of them too!

I also have a very peopley job and have to talk to people all day long and silence and solitude is a way of recharging, for me. So that may also contribute!

Yes.

I suppose the ideal would be a huge mansion and a loving partner who lived in a separate wing! Or maybe a large piece of land with three or four properties spread out on it, and partner and kids each having their own home. Then we’d come together for meals or to watch TV.

I loathe sharing a bed, a toilet, a TV and a sofa. I yearn for my own space. My idea of pure hell would be communal living. How people can endure it I just don’t know. One of the worst things about living in the UK is the lack of personal space. There are so many people jammed onto this little island that developers take advantage and build small. Most of us are trapped in these tiny brick boxes with a load of other tiny brick boxes squeezed on top of us. Frankly, given how small the houses are, and how little personal space there is, it’s a miracle so many marriages survive.

Still live alone even after being with my partner for 15 years, I’ve realised I don’t like living with any other adult (children excepted) after a few goes.

In my next life I want to come back as a spinster

You can still spend time in their company but it’s quality time and it’s not every day!

It's my opinion. I'm entitled to it. If someone does really love their partner/spouse even though they don't want to live with them, whilst I find it odd, then they shouldn't be offended. People should only be offended if I've hit a raw nerve... And travelling alone is hardly the same as wanting to live alone because you can't stand living with your partner. 🙄

No way. I have been truly lonely when I lived alone, even spent Christmas day alone with a ready meal spaghetti. Never again. Plus I enjoy DHs company too much. I prefer being with him than being alone, although we do take time and space for ourselves too.

I am in an LTR but we live separately, I dont intend to ever co-habit again.

Nope my husband and kids are my favourite people I love living with them. I will never live with another man though.

I’m widowed after a very happy marriage, live alone, and money is no object.

I’m very much used to having my own space and wouldn’t have a man under my feet for anything. It’s me and the dog.