If money was no object, would you live alone?

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I love DP, but I also always loved living alone. We ended up living together because it makes economic sense, but having had this debate with a few female friends recently, almost all of us said we would actually prefer living alone and having two homes if money wasn’t an issue—even the married ones!

Plenty of research exists to show men are better off when living with women and women don’t benefit in the same way by living with men. Just interested in opinions. For me, it’s mostly about knowing the place will be beautiful, quiet, tidy, clean and that I can be alone if I want.

No, I love living with DH, as corny as it sounds we do really work as a team and have the same level of tidy/cleanliness standards. Again with the corniness I would hate to not have him there next to me on the couch in the evenings. Don't get me wrong, I like the odd night to myself every now and again but generally speaking I want him around.

I live alone. It's delightful.

I love it with my children, not completely alone

No.

No

No I’d be happy to have my family with me

Yep - I live alone with my two daughters. You couldn’t pay me to live with a man. I love my own space!

@WallaceinAnderland You’re absolutely right! That would be a wonderful solution.

I understand the perspective that living alone is only appealing because it’s a novelty but while we’ve been together a long time, he was in the military for half of it.

Older women are far less likely to rush to live with a man again after a relationship ends for whatever reason. When my stepmother died, my father was remarried inside a year, for example. I wonder if the traditional setup just doesn’t work as well now women are their own breadwinners.

Money very much is an object but I do live alone (well, with my kids and pets but no man) and that is the way it will stay now.

Yes. I could put DH in a gorgeous care home and live in an equally gorgeous bungalow nearby. After nearly three years of caring I am knackered.

Always said I won the lotto, we'd build two houses next to each other! So yes, would for sure. The other half is the same, we like our own company, even though we get on fine most of the time.

But, I know he wouldn't look after himself. He's away 5 days a week at the mo, sorting out his late fathers house. He's eating microwave meals and kebabs, having cooked properly twice in 5 months and only because I sent him back with the ingredients..

Yes definitely

I hope you get all you can to help you, respite care etc. It's flipping hard work what you're doing, kudos to you.

No. I have cancer and have had a rough time of things with chemo side effects. DP ( who has his own health issues) has done a grand job of looking after me
( making my tea, fetching drinks, topping up my hot water bottle). If money were no object and I was in good health, I still wouldn’t want to live alone. My family are miles away and many friends and colleagues have withdrawn their support, at this frankly god awful time.

No, I’ve lived alone before and I don’t enjoy it in the long term.
I think living together but having enough room to each have your own dedicated space is ideal.

No! When I did live alone I could never be arsed to cook, and now DH does all the cooking…
Jokes asked, no. I’d rather live alone than with a shit partner, but I have a lovely husband who pulls his weight and makes the house a much nicer place to be.

I don't think it does. Most men remarry quickly because they want someone to look after them. Historically, women have remarried for largely financial reasons. If you are financially independent, why would you marry and land yourself with someone else to look after?

I know I sound cynical but my experience of relationships is very much that men are actually looking for someone to take care of all their needs.

No, I'm looked after really well by DH. He does more than his share and is neater than me. We do have a decent size house so we can get space if we need in separate living rooms or offices.

I am also lucky that he likes nice interiors, but he doesn't have an imagination for it. So he needs to see some inspiration. Once DH sees something he likes (out of the options I've shortlisted) he often spends his personal spends to top up to the fancy version.

One of the best things is that if I have an idea then he will back me 100% and put his all into getting the outcome I want. Similarly, I do the same for him. It is so nice knowing he is always there for me.

No. We do have separate bedrooms though.

Yes but with cats 🐈‍⬛ 🐈‍⬛

Live by myself, well there is an ancient smelly spaniel as well, but man free, just the way I like it……

The terraced house next door to mine is going to be on the market soon, and my DP (who’s lived with me for 13 years) is going to buy it so we have a house each. Can’t bloody wait.

No. I like living with my family. I’d get my cleaner to come every day though.

I live alone with dd

I am in zero hurry to change this 😄, I love my space

No I like living with my DH.