If money was no object, would you live alone?

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I love DP, but I also always loved living alone. We ended up living together because it makes economic sense, but having had this debate with a few female friends recently, almost all of us said we would actually prefer living alone and having two homes if money wasn’t an issue—even the married ones!

Plenty of research exists to show men are better off when living with women and women don’t benefit in the same way by living with men. Just interested in opinions. For me, it’s mostly about knowing the place will be beautiful, quiet, tidy, clean and that I can be alone if I want.

God no! I've never lived alone and hope never to have to.

I don't see why it's 'really odd'.

It's completely possible to love someone very, very much but also to have very different ideas of what an ideal home environment is. Or sometimes people just massively value their independence.

It's also perfectly possible to love someone very, very much but also just like to be alone sometimes.

Having a loving relationship doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip all the time. For some couples, having a few nights a week together and a few nights a week apart is absolutely perfect for them.

I live alone and have never been happier. I will never live with a man again.

No, I love living with my DP. We're a great team :)

My DH is the only man I could ever live with. Tbh and this sounds quite morbid but even though I’m not even 40 yet I wouldn’t even entertain dating another man, let alone living with one if anything ever happened to DH or if he left.
I hated my exes staying over actually, it felt quite invasive.
Everything about living with DH is mutually beneficial, we work great as a team and we have children who we would like to be at home with us until they’re ready for supported living. I don’t want another man near my vulnerable child (all kids are vulnerable regarding parents new partners imo) but my DC will be a vulnerable adult also, massive no to anyone unnecessary around them.
I had an ex who used struggle with how much colour I like in my home or my little quirks and he would give me his opinions on what he preferred. I used to tell him he should do his ideas in his home then and he would say how he couldn’t bother himself with decorating etc, I can’t think of anything more dull, having someone who didn’t want to mark a cheerful and nice home.

No. I sometimes daydream about living alone even though I love and adore my DH. But if money were no object I could afford help for all the chores and things that don’t get done - the only things we bicker about.

No. But if money were no object I would have a man cave for dh and a woman cave for me.

Would probably end up sleeping over a few times a week but yes, I’d much prefer to have my own cozy, tidy home to retreat (in silence) to.
Pretty sure that's what my DH would say😂

In a heartbeat 💜

I lost my DH nearly 3 years ago, because he died..

I’d give my everything just to have him back 😉

I’m almost 60 and across my whole adult life, I’ve lived with a partner for the total sum of 5 years. And that was split over 3 different partners. I’ve tried. I just can’t do it! The last 14 years in particular have been blissfully absent of any partner. I don’t think I could live with anyone again. I like my own space too much.

Yep, alone for me…tho have to have a cat!

Yes! No hesitation.

Ooooh imagine tidying something and it stays like that for more than about 2 minutes 💭

No, I would have my own room though. With a record player and extensive collection.

No. I would hate it. I like being a partnership.

I always say that the reason I can live with my DP is because living with him is as good as living on my own. And he feels the same way. We both lived alone for a long time before we met we and before we moved in together, and we both loved living alone. Moving in together was a big decision because both us like our own space so much. But it does work OK for us, simply because we both place value on independence and being alone and we don't ever feel any pressure to be in each other's company the whole time or to be doing the same things when we're home together, plus we have pretty similar views on what makes a house a nice place to be. So I enjoy living with him as much as I enjoyed living alone, and that's high praise coming from me.

I don't think couples who live apart are any less of a partnership than couples who live together.

Really sad that so many only seem to want sex not the companionship. Why even be with a man you seeming don't like or enjoy time with? It makes me wonder if a lot of woman are just desperate to leave their partner and think that resentment is normal in a relationship.

No I wouldn't live alone, such an odd thing to 'rose tint' the glasses of. There is a reason people talk about loneliness as a bad thing and a reason special measures need to be brought in during Covid because those living alone faced MH crisis and why older people living alone often suffer cognitive decline at far higher rates.

Do I get annoyed by little things DH does sometimes? yes, but that would STILL be the same if he just visited (and for most of the first 10 years of our relationship that is how it was). I mean he still stacked dishes wrong or left his slippers in the middle of the floor as a regular stay over guest.

He slowly stayed over more and more until we basically lived together because we where 'happier' spending time together, not because it was 'financial' (we are actually worse off since moving in together).

I understand things like maybe needing separate bedrooms as you age (say if one has prostate problems that means they wakes a dozen times a night and disturbs the other etc...) but not whole other houses for the purpose of being 'alone'.

I live alone and love it.

I’ve lived alone for 15 years (aside from my now adult children) and it’s been financially difficult, but never so difficult that I’ve considered cohabiting with a partner. I’d honestly rather be poor than deal with the stress of another relationship.

Duck yes

We’re all different. I prefer to live alone and didn’t struggle at all during Covid. I know people that did and until Covid I had no idea that some people really struggle with their own company. I couldn’t live with anyone. I’d be really unhappy/ depressed if I had to.

No. I love my partner and couldn't imagine not living with him. He's tidier than me, cooks often and we have fun together. I wish he could be home all the time

Absolutely not, I love the company of my DH and DC.