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Just been told to remove my pronouns from my Teams profile

817 replies

Horrace · 18/12/2025 10:11

I'm weak 🤣
My manager just phoned me to say there has been some serious complaints made about me that he must urgently address.
I panicked.
In the Pronouns section of my Teams profile, I have

'Take a Wild Guess'

Its been there for a few years. Its finally been noticed and I've been told to take it down because it's made someone or more than one possibly, FEARFUL of me.

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HeadyLamarr · 18/12/2025 10:12

Christ on a bike. "Fearful", my aunt fanny.

bigboykitty · 18/12/2025 10:13

Love that it's taken a few years for anyone to notice 👏🏽

Xyzmum89 · 18/12/2025 10:13

You sound TERRIFYING 😂😂

RobinEllacotStrike · 18/12/2025 10:14

Oh dear - terrifying words.

Tell your manager he should be ashamed of himself bring this to you on #Terfmas Eve which is a sacred time

bigboykitty · 18/12/2025 10:14

I'm hiding this thread now because I'm so scared of you, OP 😂

RobinEllacotStrike · 18/12/2025 10:15

change pronouns to No/Thankyou?

LittlePotteryBird · 18/12/2025 10:16

I’m hiding this thread because you’re so scary. I’m shaking and crying, thanks.

sanityisamyth · 18/12/2025 10:16

My guess is Paw/Paws

Purplecatshopaholic · 18/12/2025 10:17

Ooft. That’s hilarious.

surreygirly · 18/12/2025 10:18

A mate of mine has Apache Attack Helicopter

PhoenixReincarnated · 18/12/2025 10:18

😂😂😂

Instructions · 18/12/2025 10:19

The mere sight of this post has driven me to a nervous breakdown, op, you terrifying woman

ShawnaMacallister · 18/12/2025 10:20

Have you been instructed to add pronouns? Because if not, adding that is childish and unprofessional. If you have been, push back! There's no money in the world could make me add pronouns to my signature and if I was told to I'd take it to the top rather than add something sarcastic.

PoppysAunt · 18/12/2025 10:20

I wanted to have hag/crone on mine, but my line manager wouldn't allow it.

Kimura · 18/12/2025 10:20

surreygirly · 18/12/2025 10:18

A mate of mine has Apache Attack Helicopter

Your mate sounds hilarious and original, how on earth did they come up with such a comedy masterpiece?

whittingtonmum · 18/12/2025 10:22

I think this can be interpreted as ridiculing those who share their preferred pronouns at work. I would not call this is professional behaviour or think it's acceptable in the workplace. If I were your manager I would have asked you to take this down before complaints come in. You don't have to share your preferred pronouns if you don't wish to do so but 'take a wild guess' is not appropriate in the workplace. No doubt transphopbic mumsnetters will disagree but wonder how many of them work professionally in environments where diversity and inclusion are regarded as part of a professional business environment.

angelos02 · 18/12/2025 10:22

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Horrace · 18/12/2025 10:23

Ive just left it blank.

I'm in my 50s, he is the same age as me. I laughed as he was telling me but he didn't smile once.

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LoveSandbanks · 18/12/2025 10:23

PoppysAunt · 18/12/2025 10:20

I wanted to have hag/crone on mine, but my line manager wouldn't allow it.

I wanted try/me 🤣

Ddakji · 18/12/2025 10:23

whittingtonmum · 18/12/2025 10:22

I think this can be interpreted as ridiculing those who share their preferred pronouns at work. I would not call this is professional behaviour or think it's acceptable in the workplace. If I were your manager I would have asked you to take this down before complaints come in. You don't have to share your preferred pronouns if you don't wish to do so but 'take a wild guess' is not appropriate in the workplace. No doubt transphopbic mumsnetters will disagree but wonder how many of them work professionally in environments where diversity and inclusion are regarded as part of a professional business environment.

There are no such things as preferred pronouns. That’s where the unprofessionalism is, in anyone who thinks this is a thing. Pronouns don’t belong to people to prefer or otherwise.

Ncncnca · 18/12/2025 10:23

ShawnaMacallister · 18/12/2025 10:20

Have you been instructed to add pronouns? Because if not, adding that is childish and unprofessional. If you have been, push back! There's no money in the world could make me add pronouns to my signature and if I was told to I'd take it to the top rather than add something sarcastic.

This.

I choose not to add pronouns because people should be clear on knowing I am a woman. But whether I fully agree with pronouns or not, doesn’t mean I need to disrespect someone that does. I am quite happy with having my opinion and not making someone feel shit about theirs. Your choice to purposely mock someone that does, can actually be against your company’s bullying policy so why risk it for your satisfaction of ‘making a point’ that may be unpopular with some.

Sharptonguedwoman · 18/12/2025 10:24

Oh wonderful! Well done to you and why are people so pathetic?

CaffeineAndChords · 18/12/2025 10:25

Oh dear. 😂 snowflake society

Sharptonguedwoman · 18/12/2025 10:25

surreygirly · 18/12/2025 10:18

A mate of mine has Apache Attack Helicopter

😂😂😂

Purlant · 18/12/2025 10:25

Ncncnca · 18/12/2025 10:23

This.

I choose not to add pronouns because people should be clear on knowing I am a woman. But whether I fully agree with pronouns or not, doesn’t mean I need to disrespect someone that does. I am quite happy with having my opinion and not making someone feel shit about theirs. Your choice to purposely mock someone that does, can actually be against your company’s bullying policy so why risk it for your satisfaction of ‘making a point’ that may be unpopular with some.

Totally agree. It’s childish and unprofessional. As for laughing I his face as well! There are ways to get your point across without becoming a laughing stock.

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