House guest unwell — should they stay or leave?

[grittie]

DS and his relatively new girlfriend are staying with us for the week, they arrived on Monday and are due to leave on Saturday. His poor girlfriend is suffering from quite the stomach bug, she has been being sick all night. We have a lot of plans over the next few days, including hosting an extended family meal tonight.
DH thinks I should gently suggest she may be more comfortable at home (4 hour drive away) as she doesn’t know us yet (prior to this week we’d only met her once and that ended up only being for about 30 minutes as our train had been delayed and they had plans), the entire family (DHs siblings, my sister, nieces/nephews) are due over tonight and tomorrow we are supposed to be going into our local Christmas markets and then to a panto with our other son and his children in the evening. I’m also conscious we don’t want to spread any illness before Christmas!

However I also think it would be rude to ask them to leave and can’t imagine a 4 hour drive with a stomach bug would be much.

So is DH right and we should ask them gently if they’d rather leave? Or is it better to have them stay until she is better?

I bet if this was one of your kids staying you wouldn't ask them to leave... Ludicrous nobody can help being ill when it comes along

I'd feel horrible being stuck at my in-laws whilst Ill, and I've been married for quite a while and have good relationship with my in laws!
The poor girl must feel terrible.
There aren't many things you could do to make her feel worse, but "gently" (LOL) suggesting she should leave and drive back home is definitely up there!
I'm a few years time, I'm expecting to see this here:
"My daughter in law doesn't want to visit us at Christmas, I never see my grandchildren, why?"

Poor girl. Hopefully your husband feels bad for his behaviour and she will be welcomed back and treated better

If she was around the corner, then yes, I’m sure she would rather go home. She probably doesn’t feel very comfortable being ill in someone else’s house when she hardly knows you all. However, your husband sounds like an absolute piece of work expecting her to travel four hours home whilst very unwell. Just saw the update about appendicitis… and there’s why you wouldn’t just pack someone off 4 hrs away when ill. I hope your husband has now reflected on what was an absolutely stupid idea that was in the first place!!

Apologies, I wasn't aware her family were overseas. Thanks for responding.
I'm glad she had support, appendicitis is awful.
Wishing her a speedy recovery.

Even more amazing is the number of people who would mix with lots of other people and let others come to their home, knowing that they were quite possibly about to start being unwell or/and that a sick bug might well be living on surfaces in their home without a care as to whether they made them ill.

Wow yes good that she was at your house and not at a Travel Lodge as I and others suggested.

Just goes to show how things can present very differently, appendicitis is usually severe right sided lower abdo pain with nausea and maybe occasional vomiting. Easy to see how being sick all night was presumed a stomach bug. Hope she's feeling better soon on a plus side at least christmas plans can go ahead unchanged!

Why would OP do this. There is no bug in the house. The GF had appendicitis. It's sorted. Nothing needs disinfecting.

But you and the house have already been exposed to the bug (or not in this case) so you shouldn't be having anyone over so whats the point in send the ill person on a 4 hour journey home at that point? And in this case thank goodness they didnt

My goodness, she was so lucky.

DS has spoken to her this morning and she says she’s feeling okay but has told him she has spoken to her family and they’ve decided it’s best if she waits a little bit before flying out. She is orthodox Christian so they don’t celebrate Christmas until January anyway and as it would be two flights alone she’s probably better safe than sorry.
Very happy to have her joining us for Christmas and DH has said he feels awful for suggesting they leave and is glad they didn’t.

Thank god she was with you and not travelling, hopefully she has a quick recovery

I'm so reassured to know everything's working out ok & it's lovely to hear your husband realises
God Bless You&Yours 💚

Gosh what a shock! Glad she's on the mend

Not sure if anyone else has posted this but after a general anaesthetic you are generally advised not to fly for a period of time

Christ, good job she was with you all! Have a good Christmas.

Well done! Phew!

OMG I was just coming back to the thread to suggest this. I suddenly remembered this happened to DS when he was on a friend’s farm about 6 hours from home. It was appendicitis and by the time it was removed 24 hours later it had already burst. Poor girl I hope she’s ok.

Glad you didn’t go with your first plan and stick her in a car for 4 hours!

So glad they got to it in time and that you guys didn't send her home! I'm not surprised you didn't update - much more important things to be worrying about than us. I hope you guys have a lovely Christmas in spite of the pre-Christmas chaos.

Didn’t RTFT

I hope she’s okay.

I also hope your DH has done a bit of reflecting since your original post.

Just caught up with this- I hope she’s okay? And I really hope you and DH scaled back the celebrations all things considered.