House guest unwell — should they stay or leave?

[grittie]

DS and his relatively new girlfriend are staying with us for the week, they arrived on Monday and are due to leave on Saturday. His poor girlfriend is suffering from quite the stomach bug, she has been being sick all night. We have a lot of plans over the next few days, including hosting an extended family meal tonight.
DH thinks I should gently suggest she may be more comfortable at home (4 hour drive away) as she doesn’t know us yet (prior to this week we’d only met her once and that ended up only being for about 30 minutes as our train had been delayed and they had plans), the entire family (DHs siblings, my sister, nieces/nephews) are due over tonight and tomorrow we are supposed to be going into our local Christmas markets and then to a panto with our other son and his children in the evening. I’m also conscious we don’t want to spread any illness before Christmas!

However I also think it would be rude to ask them to leave and can’t imagine a 4 hour drive with a stomach bug would be much.

So is DH right and we should ask them gently if they’d rather leave? Or is it better to have them stay until she is better?

Oh no! I hope she's okay.

Wow. Good job your DH didn't send her packing for a 4hr car journey then.

All clear to have the fam round tomorrow then

Oh poor GF, hope she feels better soon. How is DH feeling now after planning to kick her out whilst very unwell? Hopefully suitably guilty.

Hope she’s okay - if it’s burst that’s quite nasty. Poor girl, what an awful thing to happen. Hope she’s only in hospital for a couple of days, not a great Christmas for her.

Poor Girl. Hope she will be ok?

Oh the poor thing!

Yes she should be ok, it didn’t burst but they did remove it surgically. Mostly likely just tonight and maybe tomorrow night in hospital. I’m very glad she was at home and not somewhere on the M1!

Yikes, that was an unexpected turn of events.
Hope she's comfortable now.
Will she go back to yours, or are her parents coming to take her home?

Your husband sounds so cruel. He is blatantly sending the message that she is an inconvenience.. This may well be the case but the poor girl didn't ask to be ill. She must be so so upset and embarrassed.
Tell the rest of the family and they may suggest postponing your get together.

We aren’t sure of the plans yet, she isn’t British, her family all live abroad and it would be 2 flights (no direct flights from the UK), she was meant to be flying home on Tuesday now that’s very wait and see but probably unlikely, she is more than welcome to spend it with us though and we will make sure she’s well looked after!

”Should they stay or leave?”

That you even have to ASK astounds me.
You leave her in bed and look after her until she feels better - whether she’s your best friend or she’s a guest your son brought home.
Because that’s what ANY decent human being would do.
You rearrange your dinner guests for later.
Surely they’ll understand, because everybody knows shit happens.
I still can’t get over your thinking it might be okay, you aren’t sure, to put a sick girl in a car for a 4 hour long drive for the sake of some dinner party.
Christ almighty I think I’ve heard it all now.
I continue to be disappointed in humanity.

Thank god you didn’t listen to your husband. Imagine if she was driving alone or alone when it burst!

She should recover really quickly from uncomplicated acute appendicitis - a few days of discomfort, then she’ll be astonished how quickly she feels well again!

Hope your husband feels bad about suggesting she go home now
Im guessing he probably doesn’t though as he sounds like a very selfish man

I'm sorry to hear it was appendicitis & thank God you were able to bring her to the hospital 💚

Best update ever.

No she should stay in bed and you carry on with your plans.

Not necessarily, it took 6 weeks for my recovery. We know nothing about the girl, her medical history or how it has all gone.

You need to let everyone know there is a bug in your house and not to come near. Then you need to be disinfecting everywhere and looking after the poor girl who is poorly. It’s a no brainer

??? Infected? Burst? Ten million years ago when there was no keyhole surgery they still only kept one (me) in hospital for a week for simply appendicitis..

Poor girl. I hope she makes a swift recovery.

'she is more than welcome to spend it with us though and we will make sure she’s well looked after!'

What now you know she's not riddled with a virus that could upset your Christmas plans? How generous. I hope your husband feels suitably ashamed of himself.

I'm so glad her appendix didn't burst and hope she feels better soon. She deserves a lovely Christmas after what she's been through, bless her.

Lol that's questionable, considering your dh wanted to kick her out when she was originally unwell.

I could have lived out my life never having to know this. Oh well.