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Xmas meal and parents

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9yhkout6 · 13/12/2025 07:19

Not sure whether am unreasonable regarding our xmas meal. We only ever go to my family's for xmas. Its either my brother's who is vegetarian and makes a vegetarian xmas meal every other year or my parents. This year it's my parents and my brother is with his in laws.

I told my parents we will cover the cost of the xmas meal. But they have no started ordering the food. Firstly they picked rungs that my family are allergic too, then just random stuff that have nothing to do with a normal xmas meal. My parents aren't from this country and didn't use to celebrate xmas.

Am I unreasonable to ask them to get traditional English food? I feel sad my kids don't ever get to experience it as it's either vegetarian food or random stuff.

We have offered to host but they won't come to ours

OP posts:
FancyBiscuitsLevel · 16/12/2025 17:47

9yhkout6 · 15/12/2025 14:09

@Truetoself It's complicated - we come from a country that used to be atheist and never celebrated Christian rituals - but it has since gone back to being Christian. So our first experience of Xmas was really when we moved to the UK but we also dont have any other cultural rituals.

This doesn’t explain why you don’t just tell your parents you are doing Christmas in your home and they are welcome to join, you’ll help them with an uber if getting to you is tricky.

You grew up without Christmas being a big deal, why are you acting like your parents have traditions they’ll be super upset if you deviate from?!

You are an adult. You don’t have to just fit in with them.

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