17 year old lifted and laid

[shonapop]

Does anyone tell their older teens to get the bus? I am so sick of the entitlement of my 17 year old expecting to be dropped off and picked up, despite having a free bus pass.
Is this just a fact of life?

No bus and no realistic uber or taxi service near us. I paid for driving lessons, a car, and I pay to run it, so I could stop being an on-call chauffeur. Sweet freedom.

Yeah - honestly I didn’t know what I was getting into 😬 actually a relief it’s just about being a bus wanker

Really depends where they are going.

DS 16 is usually the one who needs the most lifts for his part time job - he manages the bus with general socialising and college most of the time - but for his job though its either a 16 minute drive each way for me, or 1hr 20 minutes public transport with one change. Which honestly just seems a bit rubbish when he’s sometimes finishing late.

As others have said though, it’s often to only conversation time with them, and I also quite like how he seems happy when he gets in my car at the end of his shift

As a Londoner of Irish parents, now living in NI - lifted and laid is a common term for me

Its used as being spoiled rotten

Perfectly accurate.

Maybe it’s regional?

I’m Irish (south coast) and it’s not commonly used where I am. In fact it’s not an expression I’ve ever come across.

I'm from NI, never heard of it.

Must mention it to my folks tomorrow.

Me too, right down south. Never heard it in my 35 years here, but it’s a good ‘un!

Don't most kids in very rural areas learn to drive ASAP. Knownat few take driving tests on or soon after 17 th birthday

Never heard of it and I'm Scottish.

I was thinking it was a more modern version of netflix and chill.

Nor me. Ever.
And im 55.
So strange when people announce things like 'everyone uses it'
No they dont.
Mine are all lifted and laid thats for sure though. Might tell em and see what they say 😁

So spoilt, in other words. Maybe OP has made a rod for her own back....

Basically but I would use it when I think my teen is being blooming entitled

NE Scotland Id' say somebody who was entitled and spoilt was "Bladded awa fae ees" - literally so spolit they are no use for anything 😅

I’m in stitches reading these comments, I had no idea that was a regional phrase! Next time, @shonapop, just ask “are yer wains haunless” and confuse everyone just the same!

It probably depends on how familiar you are with it but to the unfamiliar (like me) I’d get some strange looks if I said it (I admit it sounds like it’s going in another direction).

My thoughts reading that it means spoilt rotten was, who did the spoiling? Spoilt kids don’t just appear from thin air.

Can't believe so many people don't know what lifted and laid means!!
Add me to the list because I didn't know either!

My kids used to get taxis everywhere when they were teens. At first I was really outraged because growing up taxis were for special occasions.

However it made more sense. A couple of the lads would split the cost, which was cheap in the day time anyway, and it would take them door to door, instead if going into the town centre and getting a different bus for part of the route. Price per person was significantly cheaper than the bus and they had no faff and it saved time. I was rarely ropped into giving lifts unless it was essential.

😂

Definitely this

Precisely. I need to start saying No, half of the time at least.

Yes. Like a spoiled princess or emperor on a litter/sedan thingy. That’s exactly what it means to me.

Just say no. I have a 17 year old and 19 year old and they very very rarely ask for lifts anywhere. They walk or get the bus.
Although having said that I am giving DD a lift to work later but that's really rare.
Of course he's going to ask for lifts if you don't say no.

Lifted and laid ???

I live in a small town with crap bus service and would give kids lift wherever they wanted if I was available. Got them both driving as soon as possible.