17 year old lifted and laid

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Does anyone tell their older teens to get the bus? I am so sick of the entitlement of my 17 year old expecting to be dropped off and picked up, despite having a free bus pass.
Is this just a fact of life?

Ooow interesting google on the term

oh get you!

im 56, have no young adults/ teens around, had a year of serious ill health, don't do insta/tik tok/x

how the living fuck am I'm supposed to be 'down with the kids'

EDIT seems it's an old regional term. Even so, ridiculous comment.

buf I hope your superiority makes you feel good.

I drive my kids all over the place, constantly. I’m happy to do it. Even for the 21 year old 🫢

Am not being funny, my mum gave me 2 lifts (other than docs) once I was old enough to walk to school! Just didn't ask as already knew the answer, walked everywhere or got the train. OP, stop doing it?

We live rurally and the bus' stop and 7:20 pm but my son tends to get the bus wherever possible

I was gonna say I assumed London cause 11-18 can get a free bus pass too

You REALLY shouldn't have called that thread that but then again I'm not Irish.

But YANBU, my eldest two are 15 and nearly 12, and they travel to school and back themselves on the bus. And they know the rules: if they ever want to do extracurricular activities or meet with friends outside of school, they find their own way back. Either the bus or they walk, or in my daughters case she gets an uber via her teen account we set up for her. If they cant do either, they dont go out at all.

We're not a taxi service.

Never heard it. For me it is pick up and drop off.

My parents didn't drive but I imagine mine would have been the same if they did. I do think its a ME problem. I need to say no! Get totally guilted though.

My 15 year old would rather be independent on the bus where possible.

It is largely not possible though. We both wish it was... except that sometimes we have our best conversations in the car. I think we both enjoy that bit, just not the traffic.

The misunderstanding of this phrase made me laugh. Scottish here and that's a very good explanation. Used this phrase all my life learned from my mother telling me the same thing when I young. She was Irish so not sure if it a mix of both. Nothing to do with giving lifts. Nor for that matter any kind of intimate activity. Although I can see why it would have piqued peoples interest.

i offer lifts to my 12 year old where I can. He takes the train to school and has done for over a year. By 17 he will have a provisional permit and will be driving me!!

I know! So many heads have gone to the gutter.
I can only take from it the meaning intended.. lazy and as we say around here, hawnless

Yeah!
My guess is lifted up and laid down on the floor or bed!

Im from.belfast and never heard of it, haha

Lol, we have similar parents! Tbh, in a funny old way you'd be doing a fav saying no - teaches independence and problem solving too (like when buses cancelled or whatever). It's a win-win, grins.

Mine got the bus and paid her own fares. She only asked for lifts when it was not possible to use the bus (eg to another village not connected by bus), and that was usually a group of them asking if one parent could take them all.
Her bus to sixth form got very unreliable at one point, and I did pick her up from the bus-stop if it was cancelled. After this happened a few times, she decided (no pressure from me) to switch to the earlier bus, which was much more reliable. They changed the timetable just before A-levels, which meant she had to get in an hour early to be certain of being in on time, so I dropped her in if she had a morning exam - but that was me offering, not her demanding.

We always had a family rule of not using the car for journeys within our (large) village, and it did mean that we never had the "can't we go in the car" or "can I have a lift" when she was younger; I think that may have led to her expectation that she should travel under her own steam.

Now at uni and travels most of the way backwards and forwards by train.

Haha. You must be in Scotland OP - I understood the title perfectly!

What are people hoping to achieve by saying ‘I’m Scottish and have never heard of it’?

Same here...😆

I don’t think it’s compulsory to watch Still Game just because you are Scottish.

😂

Crikey lifts in our house stopped at 12/13
crack on like we did and find own way

Not a phrase in use round here.

We live in the middle of nowhere - a mile walk to the bus stop, no buses on weekends etc... And no free bus passes. Taxi back from town is probably a good £5o these days and the town is horrendously shite. Our choice to live here (I regret it frequently though it's very lovely) so we did lifts but all 4 passed their test aged 17.

I’d rather know my child was safe than unsafe on public transport