17 year old lifted and laid

[shonapop]

Does anyone tell their older teens to get the bus? I am so sick of the entitlement of my 17 year old expecting to be dropped off and picked up, despite having a free bus pass.
Is this just a fact of life?

I'd assumed it was auto correct for something else!

I encouraged DS (17) to get on with learning to drive and luckily it went smoothly so he can now drive himself to many things. I wfh a fair amount so he can use my car. Our local buses are hopeless so he has an Uber account when he can’t use the car or he’s coming home from a night out.

I think lifted and laid is a totally unknown expression outside Ireland.

Yes it’s a fact of life if you are a doormat (depending on where you live - if rural, no bus route, that’s different). Learn to say no!

Are you Scottish OP? I’m Scottish and would definitely use the phrase lifted and laid.

I’m Scottish, so is dh and neither of us have heard the phrase lifted and laid before (Ayrshire)

Once he hit 17 ds was fairly independent, but I’d offer a lift sometimes, was always a good time for a catch up to see what he was up to.

I give my 15 yr old a lift when it is convenient for me, or with advance notice if bus is awkward. But she definitely gets bus or walks at more often than she gets a lift.

I totally get the title! It’s an Irish saying for getting dropped and collected and generally being spoiled.
But back to question:
If there is a free bus going somewhere no way am I driving the teens. They can get the bus. I will give leave them to the bus as it is a 2 mile walk on dangerous roads but they can then get the bus to town.

Well considering they are only 17 the title sounded concerning not disappointing.

What the hell does lifted and laid mean. Oh I see it’s a NI phrase. Not one I’ll be adopting.

@BlanketpolicyIt’s a Glasgow term. It was mentioned on Still Game that’s how I know it.

Central Scotland, we use lifted and laid here. Funny when you find out a phrase isnt used everywhere.

🫣😂 me neither

I’m Scottish and have never ever heard of it!

Well, I never got lifted when I was 17 🙂

My Scottish dad and relatives never used that phrase. Never heard it till now.

I'm from Glasgow and we definitely use the term 'lifted and laid'. I thought it was a common expression throughout the UK.

Yes OP, my teens are the same but getting better as driving in Glasgow at the moment is a nightmare with roadworks everywhere. I now say no more often and they get the bus or train.

Or laid? It’s not a very nice phrase to my Southern ears.

Northern Irish here! I knew what it meant. You can get it from context.

And at that age @shonapop I was pretty much self-sufficient but would always accept lifts if they were offered.

Lifted and laid I will assume is the Scottish term for picked up and dropped off??

But free bus pass could also mean London.

@shonapop you just say no?!?!?

I'm from the North of England originally but i've lived in Scotland 48 years and I've never heard this expression.
Which area of Scotland is it used in?
I've certainly not heard it in Glasgow or Ayrshire.

And regarding OP's question: of course if they have a free bus pass her DC should use the bus wherever possible.

DD gets the bus to work daily. I do have to drop her at the nearest bus stop and pick up as we live in a rural village that has no public transport at all, but I don't mind that. She is currently waiting for her second go at her driving test so fingers crossed. No expectation for lifts and is always very thankful.

It depends on where you live, we're semi rural with a rubbish bus service and no ubers so until they pass their driving test they depend on lifts a lot.

Google did not help me with ‘lifted and laid’! Only confirmed my original thoughts!

I'm not familiar with the expression either (in England), but in answer to the question, teen DS was expected to catch public transport when it was available (no buses in the evening here) but would be given a lift to/from the train station if it was dark as it's down a bendy country lane with no pavements or lighting. He also had driving lessons as soon as he was 17 and sometimes had access to a car after he passed his test (also at 17)

Very oddly phrased.

Lifted means arrested. Laid means something else entirely.