To send this to a married man

[IslaSkywalker]

It's been sent but I'd like to see what people say.

A man who's turned out to be married has been chatting with me and arranging to meet. Also being very flirty and sexual toned in conversation that I did not like and sent unsolicited "pictures." Guess what type.

He's been sent a moonpig postcard telling him to stop flirting and messing around in the new year and not to send pictures of his bits and pieces to women who've not asked.

I can't believe he's only done it the once. I chose a postcard because of the embarrassment factor. The postman will see it and it'd make him look a fool explaining to his wife if she picks it up from the mat.

Not bitter or jealous, he's a complete tool who I don't want. AT ALL.

I disagree. He acted wrong. If OP makes it public it's not her problem. If a man doesn't want to be exposed, don't act like a creep.

I don't know why you felt the need to escalate this. You already blocked him. You're not Rosa Parks on the bus.

You’re one of the people who objected to her.

I know what Rosa would have done with him!

The poster would have probably told Rosa she was escalating it too!

Agree - "don't you know you are upsetting the children? Just pipe down and know your place"

Nutshell.

She was into passive resistance. She would have ignored him.

Telling the WRONG person to stop sending you dick pics and implying someone is a sex offender, however, could cause all kinds of issues

This thread is mad, the way some posters just want to force a narrative or make up their own version despite what the op has written is baffling. Some people are batshit and they’ve all found this thread.

It's actually happening on a lot of other threads too. Mumsnet needs to be doing something about it. Agreed it's really bad on this thread. A disgrace, in fact.

It might not be ops problem but if this was your husband is this the way you'd want another woman to let you know? If she had the option of writing to you discreetly or contacting you online? I would guess not. And that's the rub. Ops enthusiasm for taking this guy down (as fair as that may be given his behaviour if it was him) has essentially led her to act in a way that, to me, is excessively hurtful to the woman on the other end of this particularly if they had kids which op has no way of knowing for sure.

Have to say I'm pissed off that responses to a particular person (or possibly multiple people) are being deleted as well as the comments themselves. It's just rendered the thread Swiss cheese and rather pointless tbh.

They were offensive, unconstructive attacks and pointless in themselves.

Ignored a sex offender?

But according to a couple of posters on here the wife and him have a private arrangement and she approves. It’s a modern thing in marriages apparently. 🤷‍♀️

Passive?

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosa_Parks

*may have an arrangement that means they don't care about flirting and seeking sex outside the marriage

It gets messy in there for a bit because of one poster reporting every post made by another poster but there wasn't anything other than some troll hunting (which MN takes more seriously than actual trolls at times) and name slinging going on

You’ve changed your tune.

No I haven't...

We can read your posts.

sorry deleted as already covered

i phrased it badly.

someone sent me a Dick Pic. I reported them
to the police (I was advised to do this. Apparently it is a very serious offence) and then I blocked and ignored them. It was quite scary to discover that the police took it so seriously. They asked me if the person knew where I lived (he didn’t) and to contact them if he turned up at my house.

So in this context I meant that once she reported it she had nothing else to do with him let alone writing to his family home. I should have been clearer.

Edited to add: the person who sent me the pic was later arrested and imprisoned for a serious assault