To wait until he comes around for his parcel

[quietmagic]

It’s not the first time. It’s just ramping up closer to Christmas and I’m annoyed.

Over the last fortnight we have had several parcels for him which he never comes to collect, so me or DH end up taking them over just to get them out the house.

Last Friday DH took one over (I told him not to!) as it had been with us 3 days. I made a point of asking the postman if he gets notified we have his parcels and was told he does.

To my annoyance DD took a parcel for him Monday (she said the postman just passed it to to her whilst half asking /telling and walked off so it took her by surprise) so we now have a huge box in the hall. I am adamant no one is taking it over and if he wants it, he can bloody well walk a couple steps to get it!

Just for context, he is not physically disabled, or elderly. He is always coming and going (we’ve seen him leave and come back to the house several times today, so he could easily have knocked!) I refuse to go hand it to him!

AIBU to just keep it until he comes to get it? I’m being stubborn but he’s taking the piss now and we’re not his personal depot! DH says we should take it over on the weekend if he’s not knocked but I say no or he’ll keep just assuming we’ll bring it to him like his own personal assistants. AIBU?

@quietmagic I have a neighbour like this, never collects his parcels, his stuff has sat at ours for weeks and in the end it’s started to get on my nerves as it’s just in the way.

He’s never collected his parcels, we always had to drop them off.

Whenever the postman asks if we can take a parcel I always check which neighbour it’s for, if it’s his, I just say no sorry as he doesn’t bother to collect his parcels and they seem fine with this.

Who is ‘he’ please?

My advice would very much depend on this - could be a grown up but dozy son, dad or father in law, could be an ex in which case are you amicable/ is he kids’ dad? Or is he just a random?

Sorry if I’ve missed something, am newly bereaved so not firing on all cylinders, but without the context of ‘he’ in the OP’s original post, I’m unsure as to how to advise x

If it’s big they might leave it for you to store so when they eventually come I would definitely say oh it was returned to the carrier I thought it had been delivered in error. After they panic tell them it’s in the garage but won’t be taking any more parcels.

Here’s what I’d do. Go round with the parcel and knock. If he’s not in, pop a note saying you’ll need it picking up by the end of tomorrow or you’ll return and leave it on his step. Then tell him either to his face if he answers or in the note that you won’t be taking in further parcels for him as it’s not convenient to store them and not have them collected. You aren’t a post office. He needs to select a new safe space, get things delivered to work or use tracking info to see when things are due and reschedule to days where he’ll be in. He has plenty of options, he’s just a lazy CF.

Ok so a complete randomer then?! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t understand why he doesn’t answer the door, or isn’t in for the postman but does for you

From experience sometimes Royal Mail does sometimes they don't...and if it's companies like Evri they probably don't.
You could ask them if they had a notification next time?

I was so apologetic when a parcel was delivered to a neighbour the other day. It’s an inconvenience, especially for people who are trying to work from home.

I think I’d be tempted to leave it on his doorstep next time it’s pissing with rain. Or when he does knock and ask for it, make him wait for ages on the doorstep pretending to look for it.

I wfh and my previous neighbours constantly put me down and never collected their parcels. I stopped
accepting them

I suggest you take the parcel over to his, do not knock, do not leave a note, just leave parcel outside so he falls over it when he exits the front door and do not accept any further deliveries of any size or weight.

I wondered that too!

I'm even pettier and would ignore the door when he knocks for it 🤣🤣🤣

Don’t put it in their doorstep. You’ll create a problem for yourself if it’s stolen. Just ask him to collect t it today.

I'd take it over and tell him that you will refuse all parcels in the future. Then put a note on your front door to that effect

@fuzzypuffling this happened to my folks aswell, girl down the street had a note on her door deliver to blah blah num, my mum not being well with copd can hardly walk without rushing to the door, some cf about.

my missed deliveries do not go to neigbours - this is happening because he’s given them instructions it’s ok to deliver to you when he’s not in

This.

If no answer when you suspect he is at home leave the parcels on his door step to be stolen or ruined by the weather, Job done. He will learn.

I thinking some tomato sauce on the box, maybe some other comdements

Get his mobile number and text him you have a parcel and can he collect it as you don't have the space to store it. He'll get the message that he needs to collect it. Don't assume he's psychic and know you're annoyed by it.

I wouid get his number so you can text to say you have his parcel and can he collect it asap

im happy to take in odd parcel but that’s as neighbours are food and collect or even do the same for me

I’m surprised so many people think this is reasonable of you. It’s fine for you to decide you don’t want to accept parcels, though I don’t really get why it’s such a big deal to do this. I take parcels for my neighbours both sides whenever I can, and they take them for us. How quickly we each seek our parcels back or return them to each other depends on how urgently we need the item or how much space it’s taking up. No big deal in my opinion, but horses for courses!

I agree, another example of how selfishness is becoming the norm.

I don’t think it’s reasonable to use your neighbour as storage just because you don’t urgently need your parcel. They’re doing you a favour taking it in and when our neighbours do that we get it from them immediately. In the rare event a neighbour forgets we have their parcel or missed the postman’s note, we go round with it. But that’s because it so rarely happens, it’s obviously a mistake. In OP’s case this happens constantly. The neighbour simply can’t be arsed and just wants other people to do the storing and running around for them. It’s taking the piss.

Hi op just another pov I e had neighbours doing this and it is absolutely frustrating but my neighbours have informed me they never got the note. I would knock say you have a parcel at ours come get it and we are not taking them again so make alternative arrangements.