To wait until he comes around for his parcel

[quietmagic]

It’s not the first time. It’s just ramping up closer to Christmas and I’m annoyed.

Over the last fortnight we have had several parcels for him which he never comes to collect, so me or DH end up taking them over just to get them out the house.

Last Friday DH took one over (I told him not to!) as it had been with us 3 days. I made a point of asking the postman if he gets notified we have his parcels and was told he does.

To my annoyance DD took a parcel for him Monday (she said the postman just passed it to to her whilst half asking /telling and walked off so it took her by surprise) so we now have a huge box in the hall. I am adamant no one is taking it over and if he wants it, he can bloody well walk a couple steps to get it!

Just for context, he is not physically disabled, or elderly. He is always coming and going (we’ve seen him leave and come back to the house several times today, so he could easily have knocked!) I refuse to go hand it to him!

AIBU to just keep it until he comes to get it? I’m being stubborn but he’s taking the piss now and we’re not his personal depot! DH says we should take it over on the weekend if he’s not knocked but I say no or he’ll keep just assuming we’ll bring it to him like his own personal assistants. AIBU?

Who is 'he'?

I have had to have a word about myself about not being so uptight about this just yesterday 😂

Went round twice with parcel, left friendly note, have they surfaced? No! Can I hear them going about their lives indoors as though there is a sheet of tracing paper gently trembling between us? Yes! I think I'll just take it back to the PO after a couple of weeks if they don't come round.

Moving forward, stop accepting them.
Any that do get accepted/forced upon you - I'd be leaving them outside his front door. If it rains, oh well.

Back in about September, I arrived home to find a completely sodden Amazon box on my doorstep. It wasn't addressed to me, but was falling apart. I took it inside and worked out it actually belonged to the same number house, but the next street over.
I took everything out of the destroyed box, and it was a load of computer equipment. EASILY £500 worth of stuff.
I put it all in a bag and drove it round to the correct house - feeling neighbourly. A chap in his mid-20s answered the door, and when I explained, casually went, "Oh... I wondered where it had gone... I thought they might have taken it back to the depot..." No thank you, or obvious appearance of relief. I'd just saved him chasing up a LOT of money! Not sure I'd bother next time.

Many years ago, I took in a smallish parcel for a neighbour when I lived in a block of flats. They never came to collect it, I never dropped it off... Long story short, 6 months later I opened it and became the owner of a very nice baking set!

Don't take parcels.
If it is taken in by accident, you could put a polite note through neighbour's door saying it was left in error and you will have to return it within xxx hours.
Not worth getting cross about.

I once had a pair of shoes for my neighbour for three months.

My neighbour had a go at me for taking her parcel in?!!! I think she was suggesting I was being nosey 🤣..Told the postman not to give them to us in future..a few years ago at my last house took countless parcels in for neighbour as she was always out until one day the postman said I am not going to let you do it .anymore..when asked why he said
I have asked her to take yours a few times and she's refused! Some people are just strange or dont care.

Is it too much trouble to take it? My neighbour gets packages all the time and sometimes forgets them, and so do I. I simply take it to him, and he does the same - in the rush of the day-to- day I often don't notice a note on the porch or the delivery email. Why make a big deal out of it? If you need his support one day, you'll regret having antagonised him for something so petty.

A big box? Sneak it over in the dark and put it infront of his door so he falls over it on his way out?

Just tell him to come and get it don’t take it over

@quietmagic I don't know if this has already been suggested OP, because I've only read your posts, but have you ever considered setting him (and/or his partner) straight when you take a parcel over to their house? I mean, God forbid that you should find your spine and deal with him/them assertively. You should just say that you're fed up with taking parcels in for him when he makes no effort to come and collect them and they clog up your home. Consequently, you will no longer be taking in any parcels for him as you find his 'couldn't care less' attitude rather presumptuous and he can find another storage facility.

I voted YANBU but you also kind of are.

Tell the postie/delivery drivers you don't take in for anyone but yourselves. Put a sign on the door if you have to.

Put his parcel outside and let him come and get it.

You are being way too accommodating.

Exactly what I'd do. Give him back his parcel and say that you're not accepting any more on his behalf, and he should make other arrangements, if he can't be there to receive them himself.

I’ve had plenty of parcels delivered to neighbours and not been notified of it. To the point that we once had a replacement sent from the company, only to realise that, unbeknownst to us, our neighbour had it the whole time. I honestly wouldn’t spend so much energy on it if I were you.

Put a note through his door saying come collect your parcel.

I had this exact problem with a couple that lived next door, it really was a case of they never ever came to get their parcels. Sometimes I’d be struggling down the road with heavy boxes and then waiting a million years for them to open the door.
I tried leaving it to see if they would eventually turn up, but they never did. In the end after a year of constantly taking in parcels for them, I stopped taking them in for them. Problem solved.

The parcel problem has come to my house. My neighbour has four parcels from Next in my porch. I just leave them there now if she picks them up great 👍🏻 if she doesn’t I get the next delivery driver to take them back.

to solve the problem I now lock my porch door. I don’t have any other parcels and I won’t be getting any either!

Text him when you have them - that’s how it works on my street

If you still haven't told him you have it, I think YABU. Cards get lost or rained on, they're not always legible, sometimes it's just a token biro mark instead of a house number.

dont accept anymore parcels

It that case, I’d take it to him, say here is your parcel which again I’ve had to bring to you and we won’t be accepting any more.

I've stopped accepting parcels for neighbours, I don't want the hassle of it. When the delivery guy knocks I just tell him no.

We had this in the run up to last Christmas with one of our neighbours. It drove me mad and in the end when yet another parcel had sat in my living room for three days, I went and knocked on her door - without the parcel - and told her that I had a parcel for her at my house. She didn’t come round until the following day when, annoyingly, my husband was in and he was all nice and chatty with her which spoilt my fun no end. 😂

@quietmagic I'm in such a bad mood today that I encourage you to take it to the tip.

@quietmagic Or, if they eventually come to collect, thank them for their generous Christmas gift and then close the door.

I'm with you, I would keep it forever.

When (if) he came over, I would tell him no more parcels will be taken in and it is taking the piss leaving them in your house.