To wait until he comes around for his parcel

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It’s not the first time. It’s just ramping up closer to Christmas and I’m annoyed.

Over the last fortnight we have had several parcels for him which he never comes to collect, so me or DH end up taking them over just to get them out the house.

Last Friday DH took one over (I told him not to!) as it had been with us 3 days. I made a point of asking the postman if he gets notified we have his parcels and was told he does.

To my annoyance DD took a parcel for him Monday (she said the postman just passed it to to her whilst half asking /telling and walked off so it took her by surprise) so we now have a huge box in the hall. I am adamant no one is taking it over and if he wants it, he can bloody well walk a couple steps to get it!

Just for context, he is not physically disabled, or elderly. He is always coming and going (we’ve seen him leave and come back to the house several times today, so he could easily have knocked!) I refuse to go hand it to him!

AIBU to just keep it until he comes to get it? I’m being stubborn but he’s taking the piss now and we’re not his personal depot! DH says we should take it over on the weekend if he’s not knocked but I say no or he’ll keep just assuming we’ll bring it to him like his own personal assistants. AIBU?

You say you see him come and go, next time I'd shout that you have a parcel of his clogging up your hall, please come and get it.

Her daughter was caught on the hop and accepted it. Ffs

This. He probably doesn’t know he even has a parcel. Hardly anyone leaves cards any more, and I wouldn’t see an email for at least a few days (if at all) as PPs have said. I’m surprised that they are bothering to deliver to a neighbour though, all delivery companies just leave them on the doorstep round here; they rarely even knock so you have no idea it’s arrived, sometimes in the pouring rain. TBH I would just pop the parcels round, it’s neighbourly and you might need something from one day. I find it’s best to help out neighbours either small things and keep them onside. No one needs neighbour bad feeling.

I agree it's really annoying. We always take in parcels for next door and I always took them round as soon as I saw the car. Then I thought, why, she has a note through the door. She can step straight back out and collect the parcel before they get in front of the tv with her microwave meals. He works away during the week
I didn't take the next parcel round. 5 days later he popped round, apologised for not collecting earlier as he's working away. He said he'd spoken to wife and she does now come round to collect parcels.
New neighbours. Courier dropped parcel in pouring rain in full view of the street and left it. I put a note through their door, took parcel in, dried it out. Didn't collect when they got home. I took it round. Explained about rain, wet parcel etc. Note had been picked up off doormat so I know they had received it. No thanks.
Wont be taking any in for them again.
Still taking parcels for first neighbour now they are collecting them.
Nowt as queer as folk.

Have you spoken to your neighbour about it?

Tape a clearly visible notice to your gate/door stating that you do not accept deliveries for xxxx xxxx address.....

May I be the first to say ……… Cancel the cheque.

I’d put a note through his door saying “There’s a parcel for you at ours but I’m fed up with bringing them round. If you want it, you can come and get it. You have 24 hours before I send it back!” Now that’s truly petty because you’ve gone round to his with the note, but not taken the parcel 🤣

I would just drop it round. No skin off my nose.
People love to get het up over non-issues. So he's a bit lazy collecting parcels, so what? Is it really that much of a big deal? You'll be happier if you don't stress about irrelevant shit.

My neighbours kept getting my parcels. I put signs up so there was no doubt where my house was. They still got them.

I don’t always get notifications the parcels have even been delivered. So my neighbours run them over to me. I feel awful but don’t know they’ve been delivered. I have also complained to the delivery companies .

Are you sure he’s just not aware they’ve been delivered?

🤣

I always get food deliveries for the flats across the road from me with the same door number. I’ve even bought a sign with my street and number and put it on my gate so they can see they’re about to deliver to the wrong address. Has it worked??? Has it heck they still knock my door.
I’ve said to my dd that from now on I’m going to accept it. I won’t eat it I’ll keep it on the table until having had the phone call about the missing delivery they come back to collect it, until it clicks with them what’s happening and then maybe they’ll actually make double sure that they have the correct address.
I wonder how long it will take them to figure out what’s happening.
Yep I’m that petty.

Throw the next one in the canal.

Ask for it then. Give this as the reason

I’m not taking a strangers number so I can text him to say he’s got parcels with me. I’m not a depot 😂

Family consensus now, we’re keeping it in the garage and all have bets to how long it takes him to send his minion over.

I have a lovely neighbour who I take parcels for but I ended up asking for her number so I can let her know as she doesn’t seem to read emails etc. He might not have seen the notification of delivery or it might be in his junk folder - are you sure he’s just being lazy?

I am in absolute amazement that people don’t know where their deliveries are or if they’ve been delivered elsewhere. And yes, there are four disabled people in our household too so all shopping is done online. I also have a cluttered inbox (currently there are 110,241 unread emails waiting to be sorted 🫣).

I still track every delivery like an obsessed stalker 😂🤷‍♀️

I am spectacularly petty and would hate this shit. When someone comes round, I'd answer the door, gesture to the hallway and say that you know nothing about a parcel and have no idea where it is, oh well, they'll have to come back when (DH/DD) is back, no idea when that will be. Rinse and repeat for all of you.

I couldn't be bothered with being miserable about it and would just pop them over whenever I'm in and know he is too. I really don't see why it is a big deal.

Yes, I know that we don't always get our email notifications and we've had many a delivery 'note' put through the door with absolutely no information written on it. Luckily, we never have stuff delivered to a neighbour as we've a shed at the front, but it wouldn't bother me at all to pass some parcels on if needed.

We had this with our previous neighbour. Parcel of wet wipes turn up and they didn’t come to get it, but bloody knew where it was. Buggered if I was taking it around, as I’d had enough of their sodding parcels.

It ended up being here for a week before I dumped it on their doorstep and refused to take any more, which pissed the delivery drivers off. God knows if the wet wipes made it to them or somebody swiped them.

Never taking parcels for neighbours again.

My new neighbours weren't at home, so I said I'd accept a parcel for them. Two men then carried a bed down the drive, they left it leaning up against the wall because I wouldn't have it in the house.

I was alone that evening, it started to rain, so I managed to get it into the hall.

The neighbours had gone away for the weekend. I'm such a mug!

I have all of my neighbour's phone numbers as we have a WhatsApp group. There will often be a post along the lines of

Does anyone have a parcel for me? It says delivered but fuck knows where.
I'm out today, can anyone take a parcel for me?

It's nice having neighbours that help eachother out. I know it's not very mumsnet, we're supposed to hate and be suspicious of everyone.

JUST REFUSE TO ACCEPT THEM FULL STOP!

I’ve had parcels left with neighbours before and the email literally says just that!! ‘Left with neighbour’….

I hate it as then has to knock several doors to find out which bloody neighbour… so I have in the past just left it a few days until said neighbour catches me pulling on my drive.
Some of these delivery drivers / postmen etc don’t really care as long as they don’t have to carry it round / return it to van…
DD took it in, so let DD pop it over and leave on his doorstep!

Yes!
I take parcels and when I see their cars pull on driveways I nip out and shout from doorstep… “Steve I have a parcel here for you!”…. Then they nip over and grab it… or I Chuck sliders on and run it over to them if they’re struggling getting shopping out or whatever.