To wait until he comes around for his parcel

[quietmagic]

It’s not the first time. It’s just ramping up closer to Christmas and I’m annoyed.

Over the last fortnight we have had several parcels for him which he never comes to collect, so me or DH end up taking them over just to get them out the house.

Last Friday DH took one over (I told him not to!) as it had been with us 3 days. I made a point of asking the postman if he gets notified we have his parcels and was told he does.

To my annoyance DD took a parcel for him Monday (she said the postman just passed it to to her whilst half asking /telling and walked off so it took her by surprise) so we now have a huge box in the hall. I am adamant no one is taking it over and if he wants it, he can bloody well walk a couple steps to get it!

Just for context, he is not physically disabled, or elderly. He is always coming and going (we’ve seen him leave and come back to the house several times today, so he could easily have knocked!) I refuse to go hand it to him!

AIBU to just keep it until he comes to get it? I’m being stubborn but he’s taking the piss now and we’re not his personal depot! DH says we should take it over on the weekend if he’s not knocked but I say no or he’ll keep just assuming we’ll bring it to him like his own personal assistants. AIBU?

See I wouldn't be telling him where to have it delivered. I'd much rather just say I can't and give a valid reason. Or just refuse them and say nothing.

@quietmagic

I've picked YABU because I don't understand why on earth you keep taking in parcels for 'him.'

I don't take them in for anyone - EVER. I just CBA with the fuss and the faff, waiting for people to come and collect, (and having to spend time talking to them,) or having to take it around to them, and hope they answer the door, (and then have to spend time talking to them!)

My time is precious, and I'm not wasting it fucking around with other peoples bloody parcels!

Disclaimer: I do NOT expect people to take mine in either, and don't want them to. I have a designated safe space. If others don't - that's not my problem...

I'd pop a note through his door saying he had 48 hours to collect it (date and time the note) or it'd be getting returned to sender and follow through with it. Then obviously everyone in the household needs to remember to not accept parcels that aren't for your household and check with the courier before you take it in the house.

This

I really wish we had done this with our last neighbours. The couple living in the house attached to ours were soo effing ignorant they NEVER came round to collect parcels. We always ended up taking them round. If I could have my time again I'd refuse to take them in or keep hold of them

If I get home and see that a neighbour has kindly taken a parcel for me I go straight round and if there not home I try again later on.

If for any reason I don’t catch them and they end up knocking on my door I apologise, explain I did try knocking and thank them very much.

Your neighbour is a cheeky fucker and I wouldn’t be taking any more packages for him.

Just give it back to the postman tomorrow don’t tell him. It’s infuriating when you become the neighbourhood parcel minder.

His partner always answers and takes them in.

I had a huge parcel of my sisters given to my neighbour and I was mortified! Told her to leave it on my doorstep but she held off till I was home from work. I hate having my sister’s parcels delivered here so know how you feel! I usually have to drive them round to her too 🙃

My neighbour orders loads online, after the delivery person knocking all the time i told them my porch is not locked just put the parcels inside.
I let them do it as they are trying to hide gifts for Xmas for 4 children, however i told them to just open the porch and collect each night.

However if I had to deliver this would NOT be happening. Stick to your guns.

YABU unreasonable to assume he knows you have it and is just waiting for you to deliver. Most delivery people leave no notes. And even the ones from actual posties are few and far between. And honestly you are just cutting off your nose to spite your face at this point - the massive parcels are taking up your space!

By all means don't take any more, but i think you are making a lot of assumptions about why he hasn't got it

Why would I have his mobile number? 😭

Postie said they leave notifications

Its pissing down here so I'd just leave it out in the rain

@quietmagic Why do you keep taking the parcels in?

We did and she never thanked us and never collected so we said no after a while. We get asked from time to time and we just say ‘sorry we don’t take it parcels for number 4’ we used to get pleading from delivery drivers but we stick firm and said ‘nope we don’t do it’. Haven’t had a knock for 3 months for it - so it’s clearly working!!
Unfortunately you might have either verbally or legally signed / agreed now so it is your responsibility you took it. I would return this one he made not have been told where it is and to be fair may not have been asked to leave it with you.

I saw that. But firstly, he's unlikely to say he doesn't. Even if he does, doesn't mean the guy finds it. I've found them weeks/months later before where they fallen behind stuff or just stuck in the letter box - they won't go through unless you shove your whole hand through as it's a really stiff/strong

Exactly...no mention of who 'HE' is in the op.
Im assuming its a neighbour

Your DD took it in, I think it's on her to take it around until he answers the door. That'll learn her.

So is the partner home during the day?
Is the partner grateful/appreciative? Is it only his parcels that end up at yours and not the partners?!

I'd leave a note through his door saying that you've returned his parcel back with the courier as you refused to take it in. He'll get the hint.

If you had a shed you could have chucked them in there until they decided to come for them

This. ^ The OP is not answering the question 'why do you keep taking this man's parcels in?' either!

Wait for an intense downpour of rain and then drop it at his front door. Amazon do it, why can’t you 😂

What cheeky fuckers !