To wait until he comes around for his parcel

[quietmagic]

It’s not the first time. It’s just ramping up closer to Christmas and I’m annoyed.

Over the last fortnight we have had several parcels for him which he never comes to collect, so me or DH end up taking them over just to get them out the house.

Last Friday DH took one over (I told him not to!) as it had been with us 3 days. I made a point of asking the postman if he gets notified we have his parcels and was told he does.

To my annoyance DD took a parcel for him Monday (she said the postman just passed it to to her whilst half asking /telling and walked off so it took her by surprise) so we now have a huge box in the hall. I am adamant no one is taking it over and if he wants it, he can bloody well walk a couple steps to get it!

Just for context, he is not physically disabled, or elderly. He is always coming and going (we’ve seen him leave and come back to the house several times today, so he could easily have knocked!) I refuse to go hand it to him!

AIBU to just keep it until he comes to get it? I’m being stubborn but he’s taking the piss now and we’re not his personal depot! DH says we should take it over on the weekend if he’s not knocked but I say no or he’ll keep just assuming we’ll bring it to him like his own personal assistants. AIBU?

Although in fairness the ones doing deliveries in vans aren't always the same. We have 4 posties-in-vans and 2 on-foot posties.

Be warned! If you name a safe place and your parcel goes 'missing' from it, the company are not liable. Heard that on tv the other day.

Hmm I agree that they don't always put a card through the door or sometimes I have had vague messages saying left with neighbour which makes it hard to know who they mean!
What does he say when you drop the parcel off?

I am guessing the post man knows you are home hence leaving with you each time.

It's really not that cryptic to leave out the word "neighbour", when writing 6 paragraphs clearly referring to a man who lives in a nearby house.

I would do this, but I’m very petty. (Take a photo if you do as proof of delivery )

I get this too as I WFH a fair amount. On the whole I don’t mind but it can become too much. Do you have his number? Just text saying ‘I now charge a chocolate bar (or similar) for each parcel. Come collect and pay the fee whenever suits’

our street what’s app group is also filled with ‘parcel for number 8 at no 6’ seriously just text directly the whole street doesn’t need to know and it generally take 10 seconds to find the right number.

You could put a notice out saying you no longer accept parcels for house XYZ. We had a CF like this at the last house. Final straw was three huge boxes which weren't collected promptly. Like you I got fed up with falling over them.

Because he seems to think seems to think she is his unpaid PA who will patiently receive whatever shite he buys, then devine when he is actually at home and and then hand deliver it to him.

Vs. going round at his earliest convenience to collect it to minimise inconvenience.

Its hugely disrespectful to her space and time.

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Do you have his mobile number? Just text him. Your parcel is at number 20 please could you come and collect it. Failing that a note through his door, then refuse further parcels as planned

But why not just post a note through his door saying 'we have a parcel for you, please come and collect'. THEN, if he doesn't collect within YOUR reasonable time, I'd put it outside so he can see it. You make him aware, it's up to him how he responds. *BTW, I like a bit of petty too!

A it was DD who accepted the parcel I would send her over with all the waiting packages and leave them on his step with a note:

Dear no 18, please note that I will not be accepting any more of your packages as you have not had the courtesy to come and collect them. Any further packages brought to my house will be rufused or left outside. I am not a postal depot.

Almost all my deliveries are tracked so I know when a parcel is coming and I watch for it like a hawk. In the event of a postie standing on my step with an unexpected package a conversation takes plae over the ring doorbell. Alexa even allows me to display doorbell on the TV and have a conversation..It its not for me I tell carrier I am away from home and speaking on the app so to pick another house. Works every time. They have no idea that Im sitting inside enjoying their attempts to lumber me with someone elses parcel.

Have you got actually, bluntly told him that you want him to come and pick parcels up as soon as he gets home?

I know it should be obvious, but could he just be a bit thick and not know convention or just think it's better not to disturb you and let you come when convenient.

I wouldn’t put the parcel on his doorstep.

I’d put it outside MY front door and just leave it there. (Obviously not right where you’ll trip over it as you come and go OP). Then ignore it and crack on with your life.

The rest of us can place bets on how long it takes old lazy bones to come and collect his parcel.

Does the huge box have the name of the sender on it @quietmagic ? Do you have a spare tiny cardboard box? You could rig up a fake label, wrap it round the small box and take it to him saying "This is your parcel from Temu, it's been clogging up my hallway since Monday" and watch his puzzled face when he starts to wonder if he's ordered a dolls house item. Then walk away. Make him chase up the big box.

You’ve made it too easy by taking them in and hand delivering them. You’ve changed the rules by refusing to drop off but he’ll be none the wiser so leave him a note that he now has to collect. Plus stop accepting in future.

I get why OP is cross. So nothing makes you cross then?

Being ignored, treated as an errand boy/girl and never thanked would make any reasonable person cross after a while.

You just both have to always refuse the parcels.

Say 'I'm sorry I can't as I'm going out'. The drivers will get the message and not ask you again after a while hopefully.

If your DH still insists on accepting them then let him deal with their collection.

And/Or you could write a polite note telling neighbour that you can unfortunately no longer accept them due to your disabilities.

Id walk over without the parcel and tell him he needs to come and collect it.

You have no idea what is in the parcels. I absolutely would not have any parcels delivered or left at my property for other people.
You need to be very very clear to anyone trying to leave a parcel at yours ( since it happens frequently) that they are not to do so.
His problem. Not yours.

I bet anything the CF has put you down as the automatic default address. Our NDN did that until we started turning parcels away. I WFH and got sick of my day being interrupted to take in their parcels. They even tried to get a set of dining room chairs delivered to ours!

Don't chase him to collect the latest one, just leave it on his doorstep. Then put a note on your door saying you are only accepting parcels for your address.

I'd be leaving it outside his door (wouldn't care if it was raining either) with a note saying that he needs to make other arrangements as you're getting fed up with his stuff being delivered at your home.
I work from home and am constantly being asked to take neighbours parcels in - I've started to say no as I'm sick of it, to be honest. Why can't people arrange for their stuff to be delivered when they're home instead of inconveniencing their neighbours? It's so selfish.

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Put a note on the door “we don’t accept parcels for other households”

Shouldn't even have to say why you won't accept them - disabilities are nothing at all to do with the neighbour. He should stop trying to inconvenience the OP. It's just selfish behaviour when it keeps happening. Tell him to get it delivered to his work or at a time when he's at home - he may have to pay extra, but that's on him.