To wait until he comes around for his parcel

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It’s not the first time. It’s just ramping up closer to Christmas and I’m annoyed.

Over the last fortnight we have had several parcels for him which he never comes to collect, so me or DH end up taking them over just to get them out the house.

Last Friday DH took one over (I told him not to!) as it had been with us 3 days. I made a point of asking the postman if he gets notified we have his parcels and was told he does.

To my annoyance DD took a parcel for him Monday (she said the postman just passed it to to her whilst half asking /telling and walked off so it took her by surprise) so we now have a huge box in the hall. I am adamant no one is taking it over and if he wants it, he can bloody well walk a couple steps to get it!

Just for context, he is not physically disabled, or elderly. He is always coming and going (we’ve seen him leave and come back to the house several times today, so he could easily have knocked!) I refuse to go hand it to him!

AIBU to just keep it until he comes to get it? I’m being stubborn but he’s taking the piss now and we’re not his personal depot! DH says we should take it over on the weekend if he’s not knocked but I say no or he’ll keep just assuming we’ll bring it to him like his own personal assistants. AIBU?

Sorry but if you had a parcel due one day wouldn’t you be aware of that day and check that day if it hasn’t arrived?

My NDN grandson sends all his parcels to his Grandma but she is out loads. I’ve ended up taking them in and he avoids coming to get them. I took one round as she had one of mine and she said he was desperate for it - so why leave it in mine for 5 days.
i don’t take any for a neighbour who we don’t speak to, delivery men/post men get to know fairly quickly.

OP, can you ask postman to put next door's parcels in your wheelie bin.

Then let next door know that you are decorating and no room inside. Remind them what day bin day is 🤣

I've never come across so many people taking in parcels for neighbours. In my area couriers and postmen just leave the parcels on the doorstep. They wouldn't be bothering neighbours with them.

My neighbour’s daughter started using my actual address whenever she went on holiday!! Her name with my address - I didn’t know her name so the first one I opened to get the company info as there was no return to sender on the package, and I was a bit worried it was some kind of scam.

She came to collect a MONTH later, I apologised for opening and said I didn’t know why she had put my address it. hoping she wouldn’t do it again!

Obviously the subtle approach didn’t work and she did do it again! Second time I took it round and left no ambiguity. None since 🤣 people are very strange….

Leave it in your front yard and email him to collect

I would take it round and say, “just to let you know we won’t be able to take parcels going forward, I wanted to let you know so you can set up a safe place”

A few options:

1 - Open it and if you like it - keep it - say you sent it back/Deny all knowledge of its whereabouts - say Oh we took a load of stuff to charity perhaps it went with it

2- Open it return it to sender

3 - Leave it on their doorstep with or without a note being put through

I’d tell him that if he doesn’t collect them by X pm on X date, you’re going to put them all outside in the rain, where they will very likely get nicked, too.

…or better still, put in the neighbour’s wheelie bin.

I had neighbours that had a SOFA delivered to me when they were on holiday. I told the delivery men to leave in the front garden, they wouldn’t and took it away. Neighbours were furious at me when they got back from holiday, FOUR WEEKS LATER! We don’t speak now.

What??? Good grief, some people have no shame.

Well your problem is your daughter not him then.

Amazon have sent us pictures of parcels stuck half way in the letterbox.

This is not proof of delivery.

We have a Ring doorbell. (Not used). Parcel disappeared.

It's a known scam - delivery driver nicks. Especially if they are temps. Especially in Black Friday week.

As told to us by.....

.... A professional delivery driver.

After TWO HOURS speaking to Amazon they eventually agreed to refund and send out replacement goods (to half the delivery. The other half was irreplaceable invite only goods).

Lied and said they would resend both items the next day (obviously bollocks when told - was clear the customer service person couldn't be arsed but you can't do shit at that stage)
Only refunded one item.
Then they'd tried to issue a return to get a refund (how can I do this when I have not received the goods?!)

Fuckers.

Unless you put the item THROUGH the letterbox it has NOT been delivered. Sticking it half way through is either your driver nicking it or asking for someone else to nick it out the letterbox.

We are in the house 90% of the week so it grates even more. Item that went missing wasn't supposed to be delivered until next Wednesday.

Don't except the bollocks. They clearly have targets not to issue refunds until you have gone through so many minutes of being asked repeatedly "you have checked X place?", "you have checked with your neighbours?"

No I'm not a scammer. I just wanted my bloody parcel and now have to explain to an 11 year old why I couldn't get the present he wanted because the delivery driver nicked it. Cheers for that.

I used to live at the top of a culdesac where most people work. I was home all day with the car on the drive so delivery drivers always came to me. One Black Friday weekend my hallway was full of huge boxes! After that I only took parcels in for my 2 neighbours and refused to take any for anyone else

We had a neighbour like this. I started refusing to take his parcels. One day DS took a parcel in, saw the driver post a note through next door, but he didn't come to collect it. I waited a week and then left it on his doorstep.

Why accept in the first place? I only accept fur my direct neighbours and they usually have asked if it’s ok ahead of time. My visiting son accepted a large box for a neighbour up the road and it sat there for days. When they came turns out the don’t even live there anymore. Then I kept getting attempted deliveries fur these people but I refused and the guy said that I was down as the alternative address! I’d only met these people when they came to get the first box. I think they got the message.
It’s sad that he took advantage but you should not have accepted any parcels after the first failure to cold t.

This has pissed me off hugely in the past. They’ve known their box was dry and safe, cluttering up my home. They’ve been at home. I can hear them. Yet they feel it’s perfectly fine to leave their crap in my house until they feel inclined to spend that one fucking minute out of their much more important life to come and get it.

Yeah, I can get a bit of rage about things that some people think are fine and dandy. I can also get quite petty.

Please go and knock on his door and tell him that if he wants his parcel he needs to follow you there and then all that long trek to your house to get it or you will smash the fuck out of it with a club hammer.

If you have seen him coming and going multiple times today why haven't you just stuck your head out the door and called him over

Put a note through his door. Pickup your parcel tomorrow. By the way, we can't accept any more of your parcels in future, you'll need to make other arrangements.

I had a parcel delivered on Wednesday but I was at urgent care following a fall down the stairs. Got home no message, no photo, nothing. Seller said go looking round gardens and knocking on neighbours doors. They got told that's not my job.

Neighbour came across earlier with said parcel snd was puzzled why I hadn't collected it. I told her I didn't know. If they'd just let me know where it was I would have collected it sooner. I profusely apologised to my neighbour. She was OK about it your neigh sounds like a pratt.

If you can’t check your email for delivery updates, maybe online shopping is not for you. You sound like a very irritating neighbour.

How strange to be left wondering where your parcel is and it doesn’t occur to you to check your emails.

OP, if it is a big box, maybe take it round in a few days for your sake. Obviously don’t take in any more parcels. If however your daughter takes one in again, if it’s small, hold onto it and never give it back.

As you have previously delivered them, maybe he thinks that this is the procedure that will happen every time.

To make the situation clear, I'd put a note through his door saying that you have a parcel and it needs to be collected straight away.

I definitely would not be delivering the parcel to him again.

my postie says he leaves notes too, he never actually does.
just ask him if he’s getting the notifications in a pointed way,