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Girl Guides are now GIRL ONLY! - Thread 2

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CohensDiamondTeeth · 03/12/2025 07:41

I hope no one minds me starting thread 2, I clicked post on my last reply but the thread had filled up.

There was some interesting discussion had, and on the last page @LostMySocks posted that she was thinking of sending a positive email to HQ, which I think sounds like a great idea. Maybe those who support this move could do the same? It would show Girl Guides that people are paying attention.

Link to the first thread here: Girl Guides are now GIRL ONLY! | Mumsnet

The first post of the thread was so good I'm just going to copy and paste it here too. Girl Guides statement is incredibly begrudging in tone.

@Iamwhoiamwhoareyou · Yesterday 14:41

Following April's supreme court ruling, the Girl Guides have FINALLY made a statement and will remain GIRLS ONLY - Finally closing the door on admitting trans members or allowing BOYS to invade female only spaces/camp (which, would be done without informing parents that their daughter would be sharing a room with a biological male!) - I have a previous post in feminism chat for anyone wanting to read the previous thread on this

EMAIL RECEIVED HOT OFF THE PRESS 5 MIN AGO -

As the parent of a young member in Girlguiding, following April’s Supreme Court decision relating to sex and gender, we wanted to give you an update. Many organisations across the country have been facing complex decisions about what it means for girls and women and for the wider communities affected, including us.

Girlguiding’s governing charity documents set out that the membership and people who benefit from our organisation are girls and women. In April, the Supreme Court ruled that girls and women are defined in the Equality Act 2010 by their biological sex at birth.
Following detailed considerations, expert legal advice and input from senior members, young members and our Council, Girlguiding’s Board of Trustees has made the difficult decision that Girlguiding must change Girlguiding must change, following the Supreme Court’s ruling.

From today, 2 December, it is with a heavy heart that we are announcing trans girls and young women will no longer be able to join Girlguiding. This is a decision we would have preferred not to make, and we know that this may be upsetting for members of our community.

There will be no immediate changes for current young members but more information will be shared next week.

Most adult roles, including unit helpers, district helpers and administrative support, are already open to all, so we are confident that no volunteers will have to leave the organisation.

Girlguiding believes strongly in our value of inclusion, and we will continue to support young people and adults in marginalised groups. Over the next few months, we'll explore opportunities to champion this value and actively support young people who need us.

You can find our full statement and updated policy on our website.

We are proud to be the UK’s largest youth organisation dedicated to girls and is focused on creating an equal world for girls and young women. For over 100 years, we have been a welcoming space for all girls to have new experiences, support their communities, build friendships and grow their confidence.

While Girlguiding may feel a little different going forward, these core aims and principles will always be the same. We remain committed to treating everyone with dignity and respect, particularly those from marginalised groups that have felt the biggest impact of this decision.

If you have any immediate questions, we have our special support team in place, to give volunteers, parents and carers the best support we can. We are asking Girlguiding HQ, trading and country/region staff to refer any volunteer or parent who has questions about this announcement. Details below.

Contact [email protected] or 020 7532 3970
All calls/emails will be confidential, and the service will be open 24hrs, 7 days a week.
Find out more, including how this team will handle personal data.

Denise Wilson (Chair of Trustees), Felicity Oswald (CEO) and Tracy Foster (Chief Guide)

https://www.girlguiding.org.uk/globalassets/docs-and-resources/mango-data-privacy-policy.pdf?utm_campaign=1859632_EDI%20update%20for%20parents%202%20December%202025&utm_medium=email&utm_source=dotdigitalemails

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Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:03

You don't want understanding; you want unquestioning obedience.

This has been pointed out several times to that poster. Their response was denial followed by more personal attacks.

Either they cannot see how their behaviour is unreasonable and hypocrital, or they are so entrenched and can see it but cannot change direction. Remember, there is a huge personal investment in this case. A huge personal investment.

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:04

truthsayers · 04/12/2025 08:36

it’s the law. You can do as many petitions as you like, but you can’t overturn a supreme court clarification of the actual law of the land.

You can, it's how the law works. It's how civil rights groups have always work. As the suffragettes knew well.

potpourree · 04/12/2025 09:05

Separately, I am saddened for the autistic children in my family who learn and make sense of the world by asking questions (as do I).

They see adults as authority figures. When adults pretend to respond to questions but say something obviously contradictory or confusing or answer a different question (eg a woman is often female, but we don't say women are female because it's not about the body, or, a girl is someone who feels like a girl, or there are differences between men and women and we all know what those are) it's a form of deception. They doubt themselves.

I know we can't force everyone to consider neurodiverse kids but wouldn't it be nice?

truthsayers · 04/12/2025 09:05

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:04

You can, it's how the law works. It's how civil rights groups have always work. As the suffragettes knew well.

not when the overwhelming majority of the public and medical establishment have no appetite for it, as you well know.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/12/2025 09:07

Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:03

You don't want understanding; you want unquestioning obedience.

This has been pointed out several times to that poster. Their response was denial followed by more personal attacks.

Either they cannot see how their behaviour is unreasonable and hypocrital, or they are so entrenched and can see it but cannot change direction. Remember, there is a huge personal investment in this case. A huge personal investment.

Agree.

TheKeatingFive · 04/12/2025 09:07

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:04

You can, it's how the law works. It's how civil rights groups have always work. As the suffragettes knew well.

It is important it point out that this is not a civil rights group.

There would never be any 'right' for a human to be treated as if they were the opposite sex, by law.

The petition is asking for males to continue to disregard females need and legal entitlement to single sex spaces.

truthsayers · 04/12/2025 09:08

TheKeatingFive · 04/12/2025 09:07

It is important it point out that this is not a civil rights group.

There would never be any 'right' for a human to be treated as if they were the opposite sex, by law.

The petition is asking for males to continue to disregard females need and legal entitlement to single sex spaces.

I say let em crack on with their silly petitions. It’s all disinfectant.

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

potpourree · 04/12/2025 08:57

Genuinely - when you (general "you") refuse to explain what you even mean by "women" in this sentence, do you think that is helping understanding, or hindering it?

I asked solidmam this and the response was "i think I've answered this on other threads "

Anyone (not specifically this poster) calling for understanding yet ignoring, insulting and waving away people asking what you mean is hypocritical behaviour. You don't want understanding; you want unquestioning obedience.

It can't be a surprise that educated liberal women take issue with that, can it?

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

TheKeatingFive · 04/12/2025 09:10

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

What is it you think females and 'transwomen' have in common with each other (but with no other men) that unites them in this group?

Shedmistress · 04/12/2025 09:11

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

You are saying the word women is meaningless if it includes men and women.

truthsayers · 04/12/2025 09:11

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

that’s unclear though because transwomen are male, as you know.

potpourree · 04/12/2025 09:13

If I had a gender-questioning child with me I would previously have encouraged them to ask away if they wanted to know "how do I know whether I'm a boy or a girl? What is the difference if it's not the body?"

Having seen the awful responses from people declaring themselves to be kind and promoting understanding, I would no longer encourage them.

I would love to see solidmam and others provide a clear, model answer to this question that a 10yo could understand. Yet they refuse.

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:16

truthsayers · 04/12/2025 09:05

not when the overwhelming majority of the public and medical establishment have no appetite for it, as you well know.

That's exactly what suffragettes were told in 1910. It is a civil rights issue - just as yours is. They don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Unless you are wholly committed to sex-based rights, which are incredibly outdated and reductive.

potpourree · 04/12/2025 09:17

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

But you said some females were trans men. Have you changed your mind or are you now claiming they are women?

You can't include the word 'women' in your definition (as in trans women). That means it is circular and not a definition. Sorry, I didnt think that needed actually explaining!

I have no way of knowing what a trans woman is (to you) beyond a male person, as you refuse to explain the difference.

Therefore you must be including all male people in 'trans women', making your definition of women:
Women = females and male

Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:17

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

That is your personal definition of the word and if is contradictory to the established and original use of that word.

Do you also understand that there are now many male people in the world who also have used the word ‘female’ to include them?

So, your personal definition is just as meaningless now too. That is what happens when groups of people decide that they can change language to suit themselves and to completely make the words meaningless.

TheKeatingFive · 04/12/2025 09:18

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:16

That's exactly what suffragettes were told in 1910. It is a civil rights issue - just as yours is. They don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Unless you are wholly committed to sex-based rights, which are incredibly outdated and reductive.

No that's absolute nonsense.

Lets start from first principles ...

WHY do you think anyone would have a human right to be treated by the opposite sex, by the law.

What are the grounds for that?

Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:19

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:16

That's exactly what suffragettes were told in 1910. It is a civil rights issue - just as yours is. They don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Unless you are wholly committed to sex-based rights, which are incredibly outdated and reductive.

Which sex based rights are out of date and reductive?

Please give clear examples, because I believe you have been asked this before on either thread and I don’t believe you answered.

Which sexed based rights are out of date and reductive?

truthsayers · 04/12/2025 09:20

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:16

That's exactly what suffragettes were told in 1910. It is a civil rights issue - just as yours is. They don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Unless you are wholly committed to sex-based rights, which are incredibly outdated and reductive.

sex based rights are reductive? Don’t make me laugh.
I bet you also believe that transwomen should be allowed to compete in female sports too, right? That children should be allowed puberty blockers? Zero safeguarding and boundaries, it’s always the same old same old….

potpourree · 04/12/2025 09:21

potpourree · 03/12/2025 23:54

Female usually equals "woman" because most people aren't born in opposition to their gender.
If they are a transwoman, I believe they are also a woman.

Ok, so I'm trying to work this through.

Where you use the word "woman" at the end there, you meant "female"?

Or something else?

Actually, just answering yes or no to this would go some way to understanding solidmam.

Silverbirchleaf · 04/12/2025 09:22

SolidMam · 04/12/2025 09:09

I can't be clearer

Women = females + trans women

Why does your view trump mine?

ie . Women = females

Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:24

Women = females + trans women

Actually, this is a remarkable insight into the focus that this poster has on centring male people.

Where do female people who describe themselves as being ‘male’ fit in this meaning? They are ‘female’ but this poster has just included them as being ‘women’ with this definition.

Shedmistress · 04/12/2025 09:24

Girl Guides wouldn't exist without 'sex based rights' so if they are outdated and reductive why not get him to join the scouts?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/12/2025 09:26

Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:24

Women = females + trans women

Actually, this is a remarkable insight into the focus that this poster has on centring male people.

Where do female people who describe themselves as being ‘male’ fit in this meaning? They are ‘female’ but this poster has just included them as being ‘women’ with this definition.

Good catch.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 04/12/2025 09:26

Genderists often do that, IME.

potpourree · 04/12/2025 09:27

Helleofabore · 04/12/2025 09:24

Women = females + trans women

Actually, this is a remarkable insight into the focus that this poster has on centring male people.

Where do female people who describe themselves as being ‘male’ fit in this meaning? They are ‘female’ but this poster has just included them as being ‘women’ with this definition.

She was either being dishonest when she said she thought some females were men or being dishonest when she says she counts females as women.

It's so frustrating that honesty is apparently not a concern.