Page 12 | Unhinged text from school mum, wwyd?

AlwaysHopefull89 · 01/12/2025 21:42

Where is OP

AlwaysHopefull89 · 01/12/2025 21:43

Winterwonderwhy · 01/12/2025 21:20

And yet op hasn’t returned 🤣

Makes you wonder how sincere this story is.

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/12/2025 21:48

AlwaysHopefull89 · 01/12/2025 21:43

Makes you wonder how sincere this story is.

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OP has been around for a good while and although doesnt post massively often, seems genuine. So it may be that updating isnt particularly high on her agenda.

888casino · 01/12/2025 21:49

AlwaysHopefull89 · 01/12/2025 21:43

Makes you wonder how sincere this story is.

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People are allowed to be busy

B1anche · 01/12/2025 21:53

AlwaysHopefull89 · 01/12/2025 21:42

Where is OP

Hopefully she's ok and not had a run in with psycho-mum.

Pinkladyapplepie · 01/12/2025 21:59

I can honestly say when my youngest child finished primary I was overjoyed. Seems like most parents have some kind of issue, some want to be top dog and organise and control, some can't see that their children are not perfect and do cause trouble, some think that their children are special compared to the rest and should be Mary, lead the choir, take centre stage on and on.
I just wanted to take my kids to school not be involved in any drama and mind my own business.
I wouldn't take this any further atm but keep a close eye on your child's interactions, it does sound like the parent could be a little unhinged but yes give a wide birth. You sound sensible and resilient, why should you have to move your child's school if your happy with it. 💕

RollOnSunshine · 01/12/2025 22:04

I would have wound her up something chronic.

Yes the nits were annoying at first but we have decided to keep them as pets. Would you like to help us name them?

localnotail · 01/12/2025 22:11

Message her you will come round and deposit a handful of headlice and nits through her letter box if she doesn't keep her gob shut.

Cdu · 02/12/2025 17:54

letmeeatcrisps · 01/12/2025 11:45

Saturday lunchtime I received this text from a mum of a girl in my kids class. We are friendly enough but would not really communicate outside school. I was pretty shocked - asked her if she’s ok, is she on her own with the kids, and I messaged another local mum who knows her to ask “is she ok, do you know if she has mental health problems”. Other mum responded with “I’m not getting involved”. Ok. No problem! Enjoy your weekend.
i showed my mum the texts, she was shocked, but said .. there’s nothing you can do except go to the police. It’s not the school’s problem. Ok, i get that, but this woman has admitted she has told her child to avoid mine - which is going to happen in school.
so I spoke to the school this morning, and mentioned that she told me she hopes I fall down the stairs (she was texting me abuse for a solid hour).

Schoool kind of shrugged and said well there was a case of nits in class, but they would never name names and it’s not really a big deal if kids do get them.
i said, exactly, i would just treat it, inform others and move on - I don’t think it warrants abuse!!

My daughter doesn’t have nits - actually never has - so I’m beyond confused as to what this woman is thinking

i have been ostracised a little bit by her group of friends - ie we used to go as a group to go to the park after school. My kids are suspected neurodivergent and it always resulted in a meltdown so I have since stopped going to the park with them. I explained this. But it’s like this has suddenly made me public enemy number one. My main concern is that, with parents like this - that my children may end up ostracised and bullied.

i spoke to my family court solicitor briefly (we fled dv 3 years ago but dad wants 50/50 so we are now at a section 7 cafcass report). She advised not reporting it to the school/police as it would come up with cafcass.

so, everyone I have spoken to about this in my life, has told me “let it go”. AIBU to be shocked that .. we just let this sort of thing slide nowadays???

YABU - she was clearly having a rough day but nothing can really be done
YANBU - it’s understandable that you feel you can’t just ignore it

any advice? Do I look for a new school??

This is a school issue as she has clearly stated that school.has told her you child has nits. She has said it so she's made it about the school. Speak to the teacher again when they have time or speak to principal

Or ignore it because that's an awful thing g to say, never mind put in writing. You'd be best keeping your kids away from.ger and I am thinking those not wanting to be involved are possibly keep themselves of her hit list

Jessica5432 · 02/12/2025 17:55

I would have replied with the Alcoholics anonymous group link

Blablibladirladada · 02/12/2025 17:58

It isn’t you, it is her. Don’t get involved with her madness.

dcthatsme · 02/12/2025 18:00

She sounds seriously deranged. I'm sorry you had to be at the receiving end of this tirade. She does sound like she's got some serious mental health issues and has completely lost any sense of proportion. There is also a bullying side to this - especially if she's spreading false rumours about you and your children. I'm sorry that others haven't been more ready to support you. Quite honestly I'm not sure I'd want my children playing with the children of someone who has this perspective on life. My son had nits a couple of times which I then caught. I spent hours combing horrible lotions through our hair. Honestly I had no idea who he caught them from. Yes it was a bit gross and annoying but we just kept on combing. I's pretty minor in the scheme of the horrors the world is facing! They are really common in primary school-aged children. As far as I'm aware, nits don't favour dirty hair. They leap from head to head as a result of close heads-together contact. I'm disappointed that the school hasn't taken any action especially if she's taking steps to ostracise your child. I would screen grab all the crazy texts and send them on to the school and say this mother is spreading false rumours about you and bad-mouthing you and your child. You consider this to be bullying. You're concerned that it is affecting your child and your own wellbeing. Ask the school to take action to ensure that this behaviour stops. I do think sharing the texts with other parents is a good idea. At least that way others will know where her head is at and be very careful around this person. Good luck OP. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

IWishIWasABaller · 02/12/2025 18:02

I'd be screenshotting her messages and posting them in the class WhatsApp group asking has anyone else received the same messages , that you are horrified by them and also reiterating to the class that your children do not have nits . Cant believe the school is being so blasé about it

Potteryclass1 · 02/12/2025 18:02

I think you should NOT ignore it.
you need to protect your kids, especially if they’re ND.
you have no idea what lengths she will go to in order to spread lies about you and your kids.
if your kids don’t have nits then you need to make this clear.
You need to speak to the school before she starts causing more problems

Brutalass · 02/12/2025 18:03

She sounds like a proper CF! I'm not sure you can just pass these things off as 'mental health breakdown!' I'd definitely tell the police. This is abuse. They may visit her and give her a warning and it may scare her enough to get her to back of and CTFD. Here's hoping!

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with that - she sounds horrendous. I fear for her children.

JennyBG · 02/12/2025 18:04

DiddlyDiddIyDee · 01/12/2025 12:06

Is that a screenshot from an iPad?

What difference does it make if it is? 🤷🏼‍♀️

applebee33 · 02/12/2025 18:06

Wow what a nutter, I’d be straight to her door if it were me but I don’t advise that for you ! Cheeky mare

waterrat · 02/12/2025 18:06

As a self employed person she made a huge error spending 50 hours of her time without proper payment

PolitePeachMood · 02/12/2025 18:08

letmeeatcrisps · 01/12/2025 11:45

Saturday lunchtime I received this text from a mum of a girl in my kids class. We are friendly enough but would not really communicate outside school. I was pretty shocked - asked her if she’s ok, is she on her own with the kids, and I messaged another local mum who knows her to ask “is she ok, do you know if she has mental health problems”. Other mum responded with “I’m not getting involved”. Ok. No problem! Enjoy your weekend.
i showed my mum the texts, she was shocked, but said .. there’s nothing you can do except go to the police. It’s not the school’s problem. Ok, i get that, but this woman has admitted she has told her child to avoid mine - which is going to happen in school.
so I spoke to the school this morning, and mentioned that she told me she hopes I fall down the stairs (she was texting me abuse for a solid hour).

Schoool kind of shrugged and said well there was a case of nits in class, but they would never name names and it’s not really a big deal if kids do get them.
i said, exactly, i would just treat it, inform others and move on - I don’t think it warrants abuse!!

My daughter doesn’t have nits - actually never has - so I’m beyond confused as to what this woman is thinking

i have been ostracised a little bit by her group of friends - ie we used to go as a group to go to the park after school. My kids are suspected neurodivergent and it always resulted in a meltdown so I have since stopped going to the park with them. I explained this. But it’s like this has suddenly made me public enemy number one. My main concern is that, with parents like this - that my children may end up ostracised and bullied.

i spoke to my family court solicitor briefly (we fled dv 3 years ago but dad wants 50/50 so we are now at a section 7 cafcass report). She advised not reporting it to the school/police as it would come up with cafcass.

so, everyone I have spoken to about this in my life, has told me “let it go”. AIBU to be shocked that .. we just let this sort of thing slide nowadays???

YABU - she was clearly having a rough day but nothing can really be done
YANBU - it’s understandable that you feel you can’t just ignore it

any advice? Do I look for a new school??

Just to point out, nits like CLEAN hair. This woman is deranged and not a healthy example of a person I'd want my kids hanging about with, call it a narrow escape. Wouldn't move schools unless absolutely necessary, but keep your distance for sure. Good luck!

AngelontopoftheTree · 02/12/2025 18:08

waterrat · 02/12/2025 18:06

As a self employed person she made a huge error spending 50 hours of her time without proper payment

Wrong thread? 🤔

Shotokan101 · 02/12/2025 18:09

letmeeatcrisps · 01/12/2025 11:45

Saturday lunchtime I received this text from a mum of a girl in my kids class. We are friendly enough but would not really communicate outside school. I was pretty shocked - asked her if she’s ok, is she on her own with the kids, and I messaged another local mum who knows her to ask “is she ok, do you know if she has mental health problems”. Other mum responded with “I’m not getting involved”. Ok. No problem! Enjoy your weekend.
i showed my mum the texts, she was shocked, but said .. there’s nothing you can do except go to the police. It’s not the school’s problem. Ok, i get that, but this woman has admitted she has told her child to avoid mine - which is going to happen in school.
so I spoke to the school this morning, and mentioned that she told me she hopes I fall down the stairs (she was texting me abuse for a solid hour).

Schoool kind of shrugged and said well there was a case of nits in class, but they would never name names and it’s not really a big deal if kids do get them.
i said, exactly, i would just treat it, inform others and move on - I don’t think it warrants abuse!!

My daughter doesn’t have nits - actually never has - so I’m beyond confused as to what this woman is thinking

i have been ostracised a little bit by her group of friends - ie we used to go as a group to go to the park after school. My kids are suspected neurodivergent and it always resulted in a meltdown so I have since stopped going to the park with them. I explained this. But it’s like this has suddenly made me public enemy number one. My main concern is that, with parents like this - that my children may end up ostracised and bullied.

i spoke to my family court solicitor briefly (we fled dv 3 years ago but dad wants 50/50 so we are now at a section 7 cafcass report). She advised not reporting it to the school/police as it would come up with cafcass.

so, everyone I have spoken to about this in my life, has told me “let it go”. AIBU to be shocked that .. we just let this sort of thing slide nowadays???

YABU - she was clearly having a rough day but nothing can really be done
YANBU - it’s understandable that you feel you can’t just ignore it

any advice? Do I look for a new school??

If she doesn't come to her senses and apologise to you then I'd have no qualms about publicising the exact content of her (clearly) deranged and hateful, threatening, texts to any/all other parents that you have contact details for, as well as the school itself, as they may not actually appreciate exactly the level of aggression and slander involved in her communications to date.

Mummy2mybear · 02/12/2025 18:09

Are you coming back to the thread ?

MustWeDoThis · 02/12/2025 18:09

letmeeatcrisps · 01/12/2025 11:45

Saturday lunchtime I received this text from a mum of a girl in my kids class. We are friendly enough but would not really communicate outside school. I was pretty shocked - asked her if she’s ok, is she on her own with the kids, and I messaged another local mum who knows her to ask “is she ok, do you know if she has mental health problems”. Other mum responded with “I’m not getting involved”. Ok. No problem! Enjoy your weekend.
i showed my mum the texts, she was shocked, but said .. there’s nothing you can do except go to the police. It’s not the school’s problem. Ok, i get that, but this woman has admitted she has told her child to avoid mine - which is going to happen in school.
so I spoke to the school this morning, and mentioned that she told me she hopes I fall down the stairs (she was texting me abuse for a solid hour).

Schoool kind of shrugged and said well there was a case of nits in class, but they would never name names and it’s not really a big deal if kids do get them.
i said, exactly, i would just treat it, inform others and move on - I don’t think it warrants abuse!!

My daughter doesn’t have nits - actually never has - so I’m beyond confused as to what this woman is thinking

i have been ostracised a little bit by her group of friends - ie we used to go as a group to go to the park after school. My kids are suspected neurodivergent and it always resulted in a meltdown so I have since stopped going to the park with them. I explained this. But it’s like this has suddenly made me public enemy number one. My main concern is that, with parents like this - that my children may end up ostracised and bullied.

i spoke to my family court solicitor briefly (we fled dv 3 years ago but dad wants 50/50 so we are now at a section 7 cafcass report). She advised not reporting it to the school/police as it would come up with cafcass.

so, everyone I have spoken to about this in my life, has told me “let it go”. AIBU to be shocked that .. we just let this sort of thing slide nowadays???

YABU - she was clearly having a rough day but nothing can really be done
YANBU - it’s understandable that you feel you can’t just ignore it

any advice? Do I look for a new school??

You need to report this to the police and welfare services. If it does come up in court you can tell them the truth. She shouldn't get away with this. You have every right to report it. I would also tell the school that if they have been spreading misinformation, you will also write to the chair of the PTA and the LEA. Too many people are complicit in saying "Let it go". Probably the same people who go on to have children who bully others at school. Too much nonchalance and not enough action.

FattyMallow · 02/12/2025 18:10

You're not being unreasonable but you're not communicating clearly what she wants from you and why. Sending abuse is always unreasonable.

ARCmummy · 02/12/2025 18:11

Please go to the school and show them the message.
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