Which one of these parents would you judge more

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Or think of as a crappier parent?

Child A-6-Always dressed immaculately in new clothes, new toys, hair beautifully done, wears make up a fair amount and mum & grandma spray perfume on her, has a mobile phone-‘Just’ with games on and adult Youtube. Child swears, calls people fat or ugly and laughs,

Or

Child B-6-Scruffy, often without shoes, clothes with paint or food down them at weekends, unbrushed hair, mainly at weekends, baths once per week

Do we have to judge either of them? What do they have to do with each other?

I don’t judge anyone but I have never seen a 6 year old wearing make up? Did I read that properly ?

They both sound awful in their own way.

First parent much worse. Children are supposed to do things that gets them dirty. Children closer to nature = happier kids. Make up on kids always makes me think of that appalling dad who beat his child to death. Make up on kids is just fucked up.

Why??

If they weren't my kids or children my kids wanted to hang around with I wouldn't bother judging for various reasons

You haven’t described the character of the second child like you did with the first.

Does that child choose not to wear shoes? They must have some if they aren’t always without shoes.

One is my child, one judges my child and I feel the same about them tbh!

Not the children, the parenting

Neither, your post make no sense you’re probably going to do a drip feed about child A and B. Is B your child? What’s the backstory

Neither sound great. I’d need more info though- especially on Child B- this could be a happy carefree child who climbs trees and gets muddy and chooses to go barefoot. Or a neglected child who genuinely doesn’t have shoes, and clothes are dirty/hair untidy because no-one is bothered to look after their basic needs.

Both extremes, there is a healthy middle ground.
Neither is good parenting.

Don't make people judge between children who have no agency over their lives.

What is the point of this thread?

Surely there is a middle ground?!

They choose not to and get annoyed over it
This character is strong willed, doesn’t like listening to parent

Apologies, I meant the parenting style

They are all crappy parents in different ways, based on the limited info you've given.

No shoes( all the time or just indoors, obviously makes a difference?)and bathed once a week child seems like their basic needs are not being met but what is their day to day life like, do they have enriching activities or stuck on a screen?

Child A is being given inappropriate activities for their age and is already exhibiting the results of lax no boundaries parenting.

Both.

Parents of kid B needs to get them in the bath a bit more regularly.

Parents of kid A need to let their kid be a kid.

So she is allowed go around scruffy, possibly damage her feet permanently, because she is strong willed? How will she survive in life.

Presumably you are the parent of child B.

I would hope I wouldn’t judge either of them. No one is perfect. What about you?

I wouldn’t really judge either parent but if I were friends with child As Mum I think she perhaps a very organised person who is very appearance driven and would probably meet her for coffee in a posh coffee shop.

if I were friends with child Bs mum, I imagine she’d be very down to earth, and allowed her children to have fun she perhaps isn’t so much into appearances and what other people think and I suspect I’d be sat in her kitchen drinking coffee and laughing

So child B is yours. Why aren’t you making them wear shoes or brushing their hair. If they get so mucky why are they only bathed once per week?

Feet can’t be damaged having no shoes on in the house and garden

No screens, only tv sometimes