To not want to stay at this family members house again bevmcause she doesn't change the sheets between guests?

[Bulbsbulbsbulbs]

I've just been to stay for 4 nights and was told that sheets aren't changed between guests. Told "'it was only X who stayed in them and she's family so I don't see the problem". I said I wasn't comfortable with it and was laughed at and told I was being snobbish/ precious. It wasn't in a nasty way but clearly whatever I say the sheets won't get changed as "they aren't dirty".

Then I was told not to strip the bed because Y is coming to stay next week then Z is coming for Christmas.

I honestly find it pretty revolting and don't want to stay again. My husband says it's fine, he's not bothered, but I know it's just because he doesn't want to cause offence . I really would rather pay to stay in a hotel.

So am I being precious?

No you are not that is awful. Could you bring your own sheets

Nope. Totally grim. Who wants to sleep on a pillow someone else has dribbled on.

That is grim. I don’t blame you.

I often tell guests not to strip the bed as it might be a day or a week before I get to it and I don’t like the look of non made bed. But I would never put the next guest into a bed someone else slept in

I think its reasonable to expect the sheets to be changed before you stay somewhere. I wouldn't be going back

I wouldn't mind sleeping in a bed say my sister or niece or someone slept in but I know most people would be. But I'd just bring my own bedding if it bothered me. A sheet over the bed and flat sheet between you and the quilt?

I would feel the same too.

How filthy.

Fuck no. MIL did this and I asked for clean sheets and strut them when left and never stayed again

Utterly gross and it doesnt matter ifnits a relative or if they just spent one night. No matter what, the bed gets changed.

No I wouldn’t like it at all. I once stayed at a family member’s house and when I pulled the duvet back you could tell the bed had been slept in and the sheets had not been changed I slept on top of the duvet and used a bath towel I had taken with me for a cover.

Sleeping bags?

I am not even sharing my pillow with partner/ kids, so yuk.

If I wouldn't share a bed with them (sister, kids, nephews), I am surely not sharing bedsheets. Imagine if they come as a couple, I don't want to sleep in that!

Yuck!
Imagine if the previous occupant(s) slept naked, were very sweaty, had greasy hair, had had sex, or had a badly wiped bottom. 🤮

I'm not the most fastidious, but I always give guests clean sheets and would expect them myself.

That's absolutely disgusting.

Not precious at all, I think that's revolting. I like my bedding to smell clean and fresh not of other people who've slept in there. That's really Yuk

Well i don't change my own sheets as frequently as seems to be the norm on MN.
BUT If anyone comes to stay they of course get clean sheets on their bed . And of course I change the sheets when they have gone.
What you describe OP would absolutely disgust me

This would disgust me.

No, I wouldn't like it. Would tolerate 1 night after say my sister or niece had slept there alone and I could switch the pillows. I would bring my own bed linen if I stayed again - or at least pillow and a couple of flatsheets.

Think.....someone could have lice or an infectious skin disease or......jeez.....I would never go there again. Do they wash up properly ? 🤢

My mum’s house is the only house I’d be okay with it and she tells us who’s been where and offers to change it
”niece had a nap last week, are you okay with it” “baby niece had a sleepover for 2 nights, do you want it changed for your kid?” And the reason she foes it is because it’s usually the same people sleeping or napping in the same beds, but sometimes we or my brother’s family mess up the system. And she does change them if it’s been a while or there’s been several uses.

🤮 just no!!! YANBU at all! We had a friend to stay last night, put clean sheets on for him, and stripped the bed again after he left, clean sheets will go on again later ready for whoever visits next.

I nearly started a thread about this the other week. DP insisted we didn't need to change the sheets before his friend came to stay because the friend never changes sheets between visitors and DP has stayed in his unchanged bed several times over the years and it's absolutely fine. Urgh, utterly revolting.

I might bring a sleeping bag and lie on top of the bed. I'd never expect a guest to do that. People have all kinds of bacteria and infections. There could be bodily fluids! Yuk.

Grim.
I do know someone who did this, basically her parents -couple A got divorced. Another Couple -B got divorced. Wife A marries Husband B, Wife B marries husband A.
Couple A’s DD had each couple stay a week apart, never changed the sheets as “they had all slept together anyway”.
Wife a& Wb never slept together, neither did H A & Hb!

That is grim

i would not stay again