To not want to stay at this family members house again bevmcause she doesn't change the sheets between guests?

[Bulbsbulbsbulbs]

I've just been to stay for 4 nights and was told that sheets aren't changed between guests. Told "'it was only X who stayed in them and she's family so I don't see the problem". I said I wasn't comfortable with it and was laughed at and told I was being snobbish/ precious. It wasn't in a nasty way but clearly whatever I say the sheets won't get changed as "they aren't dirty".

Then I was told not to strip the bed because Y is coming to stay next week then Z is coming for Christmas.

I honestly find it pretty revolting and don't want to stay again. My husband says it's fine, he's not bothered, but I know it's just because he doesn't want to cause offence . I really would rather pay to stay in a hotel.

So am I being precious?

I'd sleep in a bed my sister or mum had slept in for one night prior and vice versa but noone else and in my own house it's always clean sheets for any other guests but the 3 of us just aren't bothered for one offs.

Gosh , no chance. Perhaps you can offer to bring your own.

You are not being precious and that mucky mare is a terrible host. If I were you and had to stay there again I'd take my own bed linen, strip the bed of hers and remake it with mine to sleep in whilst staying, but when I stripped the bed again at the end of my stay I wouldn't remake it with her linen - that should drive the message home! 😉

Just don't stay there. End od of story.

Thats 🤢 , I wouldn’t stay either

That's horrific Op, utterly vile and horrific. I am flabbergasted that people have such low standards especially when hosting guests. Please don't stay in that house again.

A friend did that to me, the sheets stunk and the mattress was shocking should have been in the bin not on a bed. Will never stay there again.

i had guests leave about 2 weeks ago. I stripped the bed.. but threw the duvet on it with the naked pillows.. will leave it that way until the next guest are due in January.. where I will wash the duvet, and make the bed the day before they arrive.

It’s basic manners to change the sheets & duvet covers for visitors..

i should clarify.. I live in a tropical climate.. duvet is never used..just in the guest room in case.. but the sheets..pillow cases and blanket.. have already been washed and in the linen closet. I will take the duvet cover off and wash and re make bed on our next guest arrival

They deserve every comment, because it’s grim and foul to not change the sheets. Maybe they might learn something from this thread being practically unanimous on the “dirty scummer” stance.

Not horrible. Just accurate.

I always put fresh bedding on for a guest, but the last one we had was my mum , I told her not to worry about stripping the bed as I knew I had other laundry that needed doing first and would get to the guest sheets at the weekend , that night DHs snoring was atrocious (he had a cold) and I escaped to the spare room and it was a choice of sleeping in a bed my mum had slept in for one night or the sofa , so I slept in the bed and it didn't feel gross but probably because it's my mum, I knew the sheets were fresh on the day before she stayed . It was also my choice. I would never expect a guest to do that.

This exactly.

My sheets are changed frequently and I expect clean sheets when I lodge elsewhere. It’s not a big ask.

Would never stay a second night with dirty people who think it’s ok for guests to lie on used bedding. Just nasty.

Bring a sleeping bag?! Gross

You’re entirely right to expect clean sheets. It’s absolutely not you.

Also, are you married to my DH? This is literally my situation and I find myself giving my head a wobble just in case it’s me. It’s generally not…

Sending fortitude…and gin. If you find a solution that’s not divorce then let me know. That said, I’m not averse to divorce, it’s just the admin!

Grim as fuck!

I’m fairly relaxed (lazy 😬) about changing my own sheets (live alone and do a fortnightly change rather than weekly…because I ‘swap sides’ into the clean side 😂). But I’d hate to know I was sleeping in someone else’s night sweat!

That’s disgusting! My SIL and BIL (both ex-military) stayed in our tent once, after we paid for a pitch for 4 weeks to provide the shared care of our DC and their cousins for an extended holiday, and they turned up after we had been there for 2 weeks without their own sleeping bags (we had obviously taken ours home with us when we left the campsite).

They seemed to think that we would have left our sleeping bags for them🤮 and ended up blazing through our gas supply because it got cold - but seriously: who goes to stay on a campsite in a tent without bringing their own bedding?

I wouldn't mind at all, but if you do, just take along a sheet and pillowcase- not a gig deal.

If you do this how do you know what size sheet to take? double, king, super king….

That’s disgusting. I even felt weird when BIL stayed one night and was returning 4 days later for another night. I could have left his bed made, but it felt weird not to change it when he left the first time.

It's disgusting and I wouldn't like it. It would be the smell of someone else that would put me off the most - wouldn't even have to be a bad smell but I wouldn't want to smell someone else's perfume or deodorant or aftershave in the bed. And then there's the thought of people potentially having shagged in there or poo stains or whatever.

Take your own sheets and duvet cover next time or stay in a nearby hotel or don't go at all.

My dad's wife does this apparently. I had no idea until very recently. I'm so glad I always take my own pillow and wear pj's. It's really not a pleasant thought is it 🤢

I'm lax as fuck with the housework but I'd never give someone a dirty bed to sleep in, that's disgusting (I'd also deep clean before they came too, due to said laxness).

you could just take a large flat sheet, or if you are really worried about touching a duvet cover also, you can take a duvet cover and put yourself inside it- to envelope you like a sleeping bag