To not want to stay at this family members house again bevmcause she doesn't change the sheets between guests?

[Bulbsbulbsbulbs]

I've just been to stay for 4 nights and was told that sheets aren't changed between guests. Told "'it was only X who stayed in them and she's family so I don't see the problem". I said I wasn't comfortable with it and was laughed at and told I was being snobbish/ precious. It wasn't in a nasty way but clearly whatever I say the sheets won't get changed as "they aren't dirty".

Then I was told not to strip the bed because Y is coming to stay next week then Z is coming for Christmas.

I honestly find it pretty revolting and don't want to stay again. My husband says it's fine, he's not bothered, but I know it's just because he doesn't want to cause offence . I really would rather pay to stay in a hotel.

So am I being precious?

That's dreadful. If I have guests, I always use clean bedding and I always expect clean bedding when I stay elsewhere, even if it's just one night. In DP's family, they take their own duvet and cover with them when they visit each other to save on excessive washing.

Potential bedbugs, scabies, ringworm… nice!
If you know Y and Z you need to tell them.

God no, you're definitely not being precious! Clean sheets at someone else's house is standard as far as I'm concerned, I don't care if they're not matching or whatever, but to not change them after each guest is pretty grim.

My first thought was crikey, why would you dump yourself on someone for 4 nights? Maybe she is trying to put you off….

Scabies is the gift that keeps on giving. Nits could be a possibility too. Bedbugs too. I do not consider myself to have over high housekeeping standards but not changing the sheets is - well I know what my mother would say but in these woke times I couldn't possibly describe them as dirty, lazy, and slatternly.

I could not bear this, no.
Stay in a hotel. You will be much more comfortable there.
Your dh has zero backbone! My dh would never ever ask me to sleep in dirty bed linen to keep the peace.

I take my own pillow cases everywhere as I change my face one every night (my DC have this habit too now). I also take my own bedding and sheets because I stay in a lot of Airbnb’s and sometimes the bedding is so cheap and nasty I need to use my own. If it’s cotton and clean I’ll is theirs.

Your relative is gross.

It’s exhausting when you have guests for one night but it still has to be done. Although, if my mum has stayed one night I just change the pillow case for myself & jump in.

I wouldn’t mind sleeping in a bed my mum has slept in for a couple of nights. She showers daily and wears pjs etc. Apart from that, just no and would not give a guest slept on sheets. It’s gross. Take your own bedding including the bottom sheet is the solution here.

I’d take my own sheets and lay them on top.

Nothing would make me go in that bed if I knew it wasn't fresh and I have nothing against germs but I don't know if the last person slept naked, sneezed into all the pillows, had sex etc etc ewwww no not for me

Grim 🤢 Lord knows what leakages could have happened in that bed. She’s a dirty lazy mare

Definitely wouldn't stay there again knowing this

That’s disgusting! My son has his room here, doesn’t live here full time, splits between mine and his dads and I even change his bedding every time he’s been home and only he sleeps in the bed!

Always, always change sheets for visitors over age of 21 18. However, am a bit less fastidious when it's DC's teenage or student friends.

YANBU - that’s disgusting. My DH’s step mum does this. I once found a finger nail in the sheets. I’ve stopped staying over now.

YANBU

Granted I did say to my brother recently I wasn’t going to change the sheets for him when he stayed over as they had only been used when we babysat his daughter (7)…but I think that’s different tbh and I wouldn’t do it for any other family members except maybe if you had someone’s partner to stay and not them for some reason

I once stayed at a friend’s and she proudly told me ‘Sue and Bob stayed last weekend but nobody else has slept on those sheets since they were changed.’

Gee, thanks.

My parents used to bring the sheet, duvet and pillows off their bed when they came for a night every Christmas as she understood the pain of having to change the bed for 1 night.
We then started to take our sheets etc with us when we stayed with our daughter . No hassle for us and she had a new baby.
For other guests we would always change everything

Sleeping bags.
in laws bring sleeping bags when they stay. I always offer to take a sleeping bag when I stay anywhere.
4 nights is a lot though!

I sometimes do this if I’m staying with a relative or very close friend for just one night to save them the hassle.

I just couldn’t bear used sheets - millions of skin cells are shed every night even if there’s nothing worse!

Take your own sheet, duvet, and pillows next time……..sorted!

my brother in law stayed one night recently - sheets were changed beforehand. No one else has slept in that bed since.
i haven’t (yet) got around to stripping the bed, but
my best friend is coming to stay this weekend- also for one night. I will be changing the sheets and duvet cover before they get here.
that bed won’t be slept in again until Christmas when my mother will stay for two nights. Bedding will be changed again for her.
To not do so is rank

Absolutely rotten. I wouldn’t stay again! Dread to imagine how often she’s changing her own bed.

Old flaky skin cells and bodily fluids. No thanks.
Grim.