To not want to stay at this family members house again bevmcause she doesn't change the sheets between guests?

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I've just been to stay for 4 nights and was told that sheets aren't changed between guests. Told "'it was only X who stayed in them and she's family so I don't see the problem". I said I wasn't comfortable with it and was laughed at and told I was being snobbish/ precious. It wasn't in a nasty way but clearly whatever I say the sheets won't get changed as "they aren't dirty".

Then I was told not to strip the bed because Y is coming to stay next week then Z is coming for Christmas.

I honestly find it pretty revolting and don't want to stay again. My husband says it's fine, he's not bothered, but I know it's just because he doesn't want to cause offence . I really would rather pay to stay in a hotel.

So am I being precious?

I think it depends. Most people don't dirty sheets after one or two nights so if the sheets looked clean and it was a family member that slept there i wouldn't mind. If it was repeated guests over time, there would come a point where i might not like it.

Always change bottom sheet & pillowcases for new guests. Might just flip the duvet over if previous guest only slept in it for one night.

I stayed overnight with a friend to save getting a taxi home after a night out. I asked what fabric softener she used as it the bedding smelled like aftershave. She said her teenage nephew (who I've never met) had stayed and he literally covers himself in Lynx as he's at that sweaty boy stage.

I felt grim. I've never stopped there again as I prefer to pay for a taxi home.

Very posh friends of mine change the spare sheets once a year whether they need it or not. Very heavy linen. I think it’s the way of the very posh (but no longer rich enough to have staff)

No. That’s not ok. The only time I haven’t changed between visits was when my mum was up and down to our area visiting a poorly friend so would stay a night and then be back a few nights later.

but between different people. Change every time!

Yuck! And no, you’re not being precious at all. If you really don’t want to cause offence, guess you’ll have to take your own sheets. If your host goes into your room while you’re there, you might get rumbled though!

To not change sheets between 4 different sets of guests is really quite grim.

Even if they were extremely clean, just showered and disinfected themselves I still wouldn't want to sleep in the bed after them, and it sounds like the op is talking about multiple guests weeks apart.
So yeah, then you factor in the sweaty dirty arses and it's a no from me.

Ewwwww. Definitely get a hotel! 🤮

I wouldn’t like it either but I also wouldn’t want to put someone to more trouble if changing the beds was an issue for them. I would either stay in a hotel or bring my own bedding, make up the bed and change it back when I left. This won’t be the only thing they’re not that fastidious about, so hotel would be my preferred choice.

Why?!

Is it your husband’s parents?

I wouldn’t want to go or if that’s really impossible i take my own bed linen

It’s like wearing someone else’s dirty clothes. I wouldn’t like it

Fresh bedding and towels for each guest, both are non negotiable. I know it's a pain after a bed has been slept in once but it's just part of having guests.

There's always one isn't there? I said nothing about why we were there, you have no idea and yet you can't resist a nasty little comment. I expect you think it makes you big and clever.

I wouldn't worry too much, same kind of posters will be deeply offended if possible guests decided to stay in a hotel 😂

Some people are bitter and lonely, what can you do

To be fair there's quite alot of nasty comments in this thread

Just eww! How do people think this is OK?

The only time I haven't minded this is when I've switched beds with my own children. Given that at the time, they regularly slept in the same bed as me it wasn't that big a deal.

I once went to go and help a friend who had just had twins (alongside 2 under 4s) her parents in law had been in the bed.The night before for 1 night.And I cannot describe the smell of the sheets as they were both smokers.

Obviously my friend was absolutely exhausted and in no state to change the bed.So I just asked her husband for where the laundry stuff was.And did it myself. I have never forgotten that and always made sure.I've changed sheets.

Ewww, you are absolutely NOT being precious 🤑

Are there? I haven't seen any, apart from that one.

I take my own bedding and a bath sheet when I sleep elsewhere in the UK other than in a hotel etc.

If nothing else, a change of pillowslips is more pleasant because if the person before me has dribbled, is a smoker or has used the pillow in ways unnecessary to mention here, I like the reassurance of the way my own linen smells!

I just tell my hostess that I’m saving her washing. They never complain.

My mum does this. Maybe not multiple guests, but will definitely put two different sets of guests on the same bedding if they're only staying a night or two. She won't accept that it's a revolting practice. I rarely stay anymore, although this is only one reason. My friend reckons that it's her way of stopping people from having sex under her roof, because she always tells you that someone else will be using the sheets IYSWIM. I'm not sure about this theory, but my mum is very weird about sex so I'm not ruling it out!

She absolutely insists on taking her own bedding when she's a guest elsewhere, another weird habit!

Nope, big yuk.

I would just take my own sheets in future.

We generally do that in my family anyway as we are always staying in each others houses and it’s a lot of work for the hosts.

I would always change the sheets !

If It’s likely to be DD back again and it was only a couple of nights I would leave them , but if mum was coming they would be washed

and this fro. a person who fails most MN cleanliness tests - clean sheets every week? No. Shower every day ? No. Clean sheets for guests - always

This is really exciting. It's possible that bed linen threads are on the verge of becoming more frequent than cat hating threads. I'm on the edge of my seat. Partly because the cat is asleep right behind me.