To not want to stay at this family members house again bevmcause she doesn't change the sheets between guests?

[Bulbsbulbsbulbs]

I've just been to stay for 4 nights and was told that sheets aren't changed between guests. Told "'it was only X who stayed in them and she's family so I don't see the problem". I said I wasn't comfortable with it and was laughed at and told I was being snobbish/ precious. It wasn't in a nasty way but clearly whatever I say the sheets won't get changed as "they aren't dirty".

Then I was told not to strip the bed because Y is coming to stay next week then Z is coming for Christmas.

I honestly find it pretty revolting and don't want to stay again. My husband says it's fine, he's not bothered, but I know it's just because he doesn't want to cause offence . I really would rather pay to stay in a hotel.

So am I being precious?

Ew. Yanbu. She was so flippant about it with you that I don't think you need to worry about offending her bu bringing your own sheets in future. You can be flippant back!

YANBU.
I'd bring my own sheets.

That is grim. I caught crabs off my sister that way once.

I wouldn't like this at all but I would be very English about it, saying nothing, and take a sleeping bag next time.

YANBU. That is utterly gross.

Take your own sheets.

oh and there was me thinking you were trying to encourage nasty comments about your relative. Don’t normal people keep that sort of things to themselves? If your relative was kind enough to put you up, then perhaps be kind back

No, I asked if I was unreasonable to object to not having clean sheets and not be laughed at for finding it disgusting.. I certainly didn't ask for nasty comments. Your comprehension skills are maybe lacking there. Where did I say I'd imposed myself?

But you clearly come here looking for an argument. It's not compulsory on AIBU though.

Take your own sheets

Eeeewwww…That is disgusting.

YANBU.

I wash the pillow cases/sheets and duvet cover even if a guest has stayed one night.

I've also got mattress/pillow protectors on the beds and was these too.

Oh yuck, that’s disgusting. No, YANBU op. I wouldn’t stay again, I’d book a hotel.

Apart from mutual crashing at each other's flats in our 20s everyone I know puts clean sheets on. I'm no germophobe but having someone else's particles from months before isn't appealing! Xx

That’s plumb revolting. I wouldn’t dream of leaving the same sheets on - irritating sometimes for the one-night visitor, but everyone gets clean sheets. How could anyone think otherwise?

I have to admit my standards are not that high. I change my bedding about once every 2 weeks. But if my son comes home to visit for a weekend I will l always make sure the bedding is fresh for him. I sometimes sleep in his room when he isn’t there as my house is overcrowded. But when he comes to visit it is clean and fresh. I don’t think the bedding smells or anything anyway but people don’t know when they smell so how can I know that. I would rather it was fresh and clean for him.

So I think if you have a visitor and they stay for a night/ couple of nights and then they are coming back a week or so later it’s fine to leave the same bedding on. If it’s a different visitor it needs changing.

No that's grim OP YANBU. I wouldn't say I have particularly high standards, I am frequently baffled by the cleaning threads where people are cleaning toilets every day etc, but you should always change sheets between guests. Dead skin cells and all that.

I had a friend whose Mum always took her own bedding when staying anywhere even with her own daughter. I can see why. Yuk.

Uurrrgggghhhh.

No. That's really grim.

I ask guests not to strip the bed because I change the bedding the day I'm expecting guests, so it's clean and fresh for them, I was kind of expecting that sort of thing. But no, your relative is dirty and lazy.

Take some chocolate with you next time and go up to your room on your own and then using the chocolate make a skid mark in an appropriate place where your husband will sleep and which will be visible to him when he pulls back the covers to get in.

Keep quiet and enjoy the evening until bedtime and then when your husband shows you, scream loudly and demand Slack Alice comes into your room and changes the bed sheets!

My auntie uses the phrase ‘relatively clean’. If I slept in a bed for one night only and my sister/close relative slept in it after, I wouldn’t expect it to be fully changed - pillowcases yes, sheet and duvet not so fussed. Anything over a night, yes. Only for close family. I think this approach is sensible and fair, and I’ve adopted it too. But I understand others may go ‘yuck’.

I would never stay there again. That is revolting.

Eeewww I couldn't do that ... that's just lazy your not being precious at all .
No wonder you don't want to stay again .

Oh God, no! 😱

I am really precious about my bedding, even at home, and always have been. It has to “smell right” ie; clean, of either washing gel or of “outside line drying”

I change my pillowcases every day, as I dribble in my sleep. The whole bed is changed twice a week. I could not bear to go anywhere near (a strangers) an unclean bed, and I think it’s downright lazy to expect guests to sleep in other peoples bedding. Totally yuck🤮

We all shed hairs, skin, sweat, dribble and God knows what else in our sleep. To expect people to sleep in other peoples detritus is vile.

Id be straight back out the door, never to return!

Same! But it's always clean between guests even if only 1 night