New partner hiding my vape

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im a social smoker and keep a vape in the house that I use every now and then when I feel like. Usually after a little drink.

new partner has told me the thought of smoking gives them the ick and has shown their annoyance at me vaping. They’ve hid my vape before and when I’ve asked where it was they’ve laughed and said they’ve hid it as they don’t like me using it. I let it go but was mildly annoyed. Fast forward to last week I had friends around and DP was there. I had a pull or two of my vape but hid the fact from DP. Friend told DP and they pulled me up on it the next day. Said the fact I’m hiding it from them makes them not trust me etc.

over the weekend we were going out and rather than have a drink whilst getting ready I had a bit of my vape. I left it on the dining fable before leaving for certain. DP pulled me up on it the next day and it’s now not there. I haven’t moved it so I know they’ve hidden it again after showing disapproval. I don’t want to degrade myself by asking where they’ve put it as I know they’re going to be waiting for me to ask in a ha ha! So you are using it! Kind of way.

I know how ridiculous this all sounds but it’s really annoyed me. I’m not a child. It’s my home. We don’t live together. AIBU?

The OP has been at pains to avoid mentioning partner's Gender, yet everyone assumes it's a Dude 😁

Easily done, majority of posters on here complain about men and leave the bastards apparently.

Not everyone. Quite a few of us have not.

Op wasnt vaping at the start of the relationship. This is new.

I wouldnt date a smoker or vaper. They are being ridiculous hiding the vape rather than just ending the relationship.

😂😂😂😂

So you met this person about a year ago.
When you met, you were both non-smokers,
And now you've decided to become a part-time smoker (vaping, smoking, social, whatever. You're a smoker.)
And your partner (who doesn't live with you) has been taking and hiding your vape.
And you say they haven't done anything else that's super suspicious/redflag but this pisses you off and you're wondering if it's just the beginning of a controlling relationship?
And your partner knows that you have asthma and choose to vape anyway (yeah I know that you say The vaping actually helps your asthma but I volunteer with the lung association, no, vaping does not help asthma... If you say that it does because of the long deep breathing, maybe practice long deep breathing without adding toxic chemicals to your already compromised lungs and bronchials?)

If this partner's been great to you and every other way but they've been hiding your smoke, and you don't like it, it is possible that they really are doing this because they like you and they just don't like the fact that you have out of the blue decided to become a smoker.
They could be worried about your health because they know you have asthma plus all the other reasons why it's bad.
And they didn't sign on to date a smoker. I wouldn't.

Are they treating you like a child?
Is this the beginning of other controlling aspects that they'll try to do to you?
Maybe
If you don't care for the way this person is acting, then end the relationship and hopefully your next relationship will be with somebody else who smokes and then you won't have this problem.

other red flags which you ae choosing to ignore and you are working on this? Please for the love of the wee man dump this controlling arse.

Think you have very little self respect. Couple of years from now when you have no friends and your allowed out once a month, maybe you'll remember this thread.

Phew, I’m so glad someone came along to explain what this whole thread is about.

I don’t see the point of the silly “they “ game. It’s not exactly outing if the partner is male or female

I thought OP was using 'they' as in the partner and the friend. So the partner and the friend 'pulled' op up on vape use the next day and hid the vape.