To be sad husband didn’t care I’d gone to A&E

[Foxandsocks]

I went to A&E last night in excruciating pain, he’d witnessed this in bed whilst I tried to manage the pain at home, I told him I was going to head to A&E at 2am and he said ok and rolled over. I went and had emergency surgery but I didn’t hear from him till the morning.

Ah op I’m so sorry, that’s terrible. I’ll be honest, that’s really not good. Are you generally close now?

That's awful. Really awful.

Is he soon to be an exh?
Hope you are recovering well.

Oh gawd that’s awful. Are you ok now? What a shit he is

That's awful @Foxandsocks I'm so sorry.
I couldn't get past this, to me it would be the end of the line.

The only excuse I can think of is if he thought you were being dramatic (if there was a history of this), he then fell asleep, and didn't realise you were gone.

It would still be shitty, and I would expect him to be absolutely mortified and genuinely reflect on taking you seriously once he found out what had happened.

If he is not groveling and eating humble pie, then I'd probably see it as the start of the end of the relationship.

How did you get to A&E?! Did he know you were being prepped for surgery?!

That's really awful, if my neighbour woke me in the night to say they were in excruciating pain and going to A&E alone I'd offer to go with them so I can't imagine treating a spouse like that.

That sucks OP and hope you are on the mend.

What is your marriage like generally? I ask this because I had similar experience a few years back with a very scary experience and was taken by ambulance to hospital. It was the beginning of the end of my marriage anyway but that night, as the paramedics were working me up for transfer, ex husband just glanced at them and walked off to the other room. He only texted me whilst I was in hospital to ask if I was going to be home in time for him to go to work or whether I thought he needed to take the day off to look after our toddlers.

I was going to ask if he had to stay at home because of any children, but then I have 3 and there's no way my husband would've let me go alone. We'd have got childcare and he'd have been by my side.
I'm sorry your husband is such a c**t.
Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Drove myself whilst screaming and crying. Sounds dramatic but never felt anything like it.

He is annoyed that I’ve challenged him, and said that women shouldn’t challenge men if they want to be treated like a woman, hence why he’ll treat me like a man now.

He's an uncaring POS.

Divorce this fucker now before you end up his carer.

What a horrible uncaring man. He wouldn’t be my husband for much longer after that.

Mine did that twice. We're now divorced. It was the end of it all for me, couldn't believe it.

You need to divorce this cunt.

Where did you find this prince of a man??

Well that would be the end of the marriage for me. He doesn’t give a shit about you.

Please use this awful moment as a turning point. He is an abusive twat who doesn’t care for you. You deserve do so so much more from a partnership. Please leave him.

I was about to also say something along the lines of divorce, but no need. This says it all.

Women shouldn't challenge men so he is treating you like a man now? So he is going to treat you kindly and respect your opinion right? Or is he just going to throw hands now your one of the boys?

Divorce ASAP I dont think your safe with him

Urgh, just seen your update.

I would question your self esteem and general sense if you do decide to stay after he said that crock of shit.

So you've left him. Right?

No I don’t think there is any saving this now. It’s been a bit rocky for a while, well it’s fine as long as I pretend I’m happy with the issues, but the minute I raise anything he is cold.

I'm sorry this happened. I hope you are recovering

Divorce the bastard

I'm so sorry this happened to you, although glad you got the emergency surgery you needed swiftly - appendix?

Start to get some legal advice and use this example because it's clearly evidence of unreasonable behaviour.

Sadly sometimes it takes a flashpoint for someone to feel really that things are over and that they need to move on. Your husband chose to do it in spectacular fashion with a bang, rather than a whimper.