To be sad husband didn’t care I’d gone to A&E

[Foxandsocks]

I went to A&E last night in excruciating pain, he’d witnessed this in bed whilst I tried to manage the pain at home, I told him I was going to head to A&E at 2am and he said ok and rolled over. I went and had emergency surgery but I didn’t hear from him till the morning.

I'm so sorry OP. He's shown how little he cares for you. That's so sad. Take care of yourself, you deserve better..

Only you can say what the context of this is - I know if my lovely husband thought I was being over anxious, he might just drop back to sleep and not react. How was your husband when he realised you'd had emergency surgery and how is he day to day?

I'm sorry - you deserved better and I hope this is a line in the sand for you - & I hope you will look back on this is a year and be relieved he's out of your life. Get well soon. stay safe x

I had a turning point like this. I have heart issues where it stops. I fell unconscious. He rolled me on my side and left me to take a shower with my 9yr old holding my hand.

I knew at that moment he didn't actually care if l was alive or dead.

has he gone down some misogynistic rabbit hole online? he is treating you awfully. do you love him? i am sure you would be better off without!

My god what a POS.

please get rid. Id just given birth and scheduled a biopsy for a suspected skin cancer. He wouldn’t drive me. Got to hospital and back myself. Never interested in the results (it was a bsc and all dealt with).

not easy to divorce - I’m still now getting my self esteem back.

I’ve just broken my wrist. I’ve had a plethora of messages and flowers. In tears as was not expecting a thing and was was conditioned to get zero. So when people care it’s a shock,

please get rid of him, things won’t get better and you know that:

What a heartless bastard. I’m so sorry OP.
wishing you a speedy recovery at your mums. And an even speedier divorce from the bastard.

OP what kind of misogynistic monster have you married? Why on earth did you marry him, why were you even with him? Please leave now and don’t ever look back!

His lack of empathy and care would be the end for me. This is not the action of someone who cares for and loves you.

I dont think I could ever forgive my partner if he treated me like that in such a time of vulnerability. It was dangerous for you to drive yourself there in alot of pain anything could of happened. I hope you get rid! Onwards and upwards!

Actually, I would be thankful he behaved like this. Not right now, but ultimately. Because he's shown you who he truly is and it is giving you the strength to leave. What a disgusting specimen. Leave him and take him for everything he's got. And look forward to your new life where you don't have to walk on eggshells.

Something similar happened to me and Dh sat by my side,
he wasn’t allowed in while they operated but he waited outside and was still there when I woke up.
I can’t imagine your husband’s reaction. It sounds like your relationship is dead.

Sad to read this especially him being annoyed you held him accountable.Get well soon x

Thank you all. Appreciate the support.
No DC, just one lovely boy cat who will be coming to Mums with me. Someone who can be this cold to a human shouldn’t be left alone with an animal.

Wow - you’ve made a good decision, he doesn’t deserve you.

Just echoing everyone else to say I am really sorry this happened to you OP and I hope you have a smooth recovery from your operation.

His actions and those words afterwards are unforgivable and you deserve so much better. I would get as far away from him as possible and (once you have recovered and are feeling stronger) wouldn’t be shy about telling friends and acquaintances just how cruel he was.

Good luck ❤️

I wouldn't let my friend go to A&E on their own in the middle of the night never mind my spouse. For you to be so ill you required emergency surgery and for him to not care shows that he really does not care.

You'll need to go to your mums when you are discharged because its very clear that he won't look after you while you recover!

Fuck him off what a prick

WTF have I just read?

I'm so sorry OP. You are married to a terrible man. I hope you make plans to leave him as soon as you're back on your feet.

I like to remember my ex-DH as the man who literally would not bring me a glass of water whilst I was dying.

It was apparently too much trouble to bring me the water I needed as I slid from double pneumonia towards death and he ignored me. Fortunately my DM came to visit and called an ambulance.

He is also the dickhead who did not visit me in intensive care for 3 weeks "because you were in a coma. What was the fucking point?"

You'll be better off without yours!

Wtf ?

Stop being sad and get angry.
You deserve so much more

I’d be getting to your mums and researching divorce solicitors straight away.

You’ve made the right call. I think leaving him to live his life alone is the treating him like a man that he’s asked for.

I’m appalled at this. My DH came back from shift to me in a lot of pain and promptly took me to A&E. Turns out I had a bleed in the skull, pretty serious, it didn’t need surgery!

Im really sorry this has happened, @Foxandsocks I hope you can have your mum look after you while you recover.

My god what an absolute prick