To be sad husband didn’t care I’d gone to A&E

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I went to A&E last night in excruciating pain, he’d witnessed this in bed whilst I tried to manage the pain at home, I told him I was going to head to A&E at 2am and he said ok and rolled over. I went and had emergency surgery but I didn’t hear from him till the morning.

That's dreadful and he should be utterly ashamed of himself. He clearly doesn't see anything wrong in his behaviour. I fell and hurt my foot 3 weeks ago, I was in agony - my husband drove me to the Minor Injuries Unit, stayed with me whilst I was being assessed and has been running around holding down a full-time job, whilst looking after me - I fractured a bone in my foot. This is the behaviour of a man who loves his wife. Your husband is showing you exactly who he is. I couldn't stay with a man, who is so cold and uncaring.

Ye gods, he didn't even drive you to A&E. That's lowest of the low. You deserve better. Hope you are on the road to recovery x

What century was he born in? He sounds ridiculously old fashioned and tryrannical. He is callous and uncaring and you would be better off without him.

I hope you are feeling better after your surgery.

Speedy recovery OP.

I am so glad to read that your mum is supportive. I’m assuming no DC?

Do you own a property with this prince or anything else to consider in the divorce?

Good luck. He is absolute 💩

OP when you feel better I hope you feel more
than sad

You deserve better and he won't improve. You should not have to accept this sort of behaviour. He sounds unhinged.

Are you ok OP? What was the emergency surgery for? I hope you’re feeling better and your mum looks after you x

He is annoyed that I’ve challenged him, and said that women shouldn’t challenge men if they want to be treated like a woman, hence why he’ll treat me like a man now.

Bloody hell, was this out of the blue or has he been circling the manosphere drain for a while? I'm not usually one to jump straight to 'leave the bastard' off the back of scant information, but I can't think of any background/circumstances that would render this even vaguely OK. Don't walk, run from the prick.

glad you are going to your mum's

Honestly yes I would be jointly devastated and fuming. Any decent partner would be have been taking you there themselves and staying with you until settled as the bare minimum. Please consider if this is the kind of supposed partner you want to be with.

What a wanker!
Hope you feel better soon x

I am glad you have your mum. It’s honestly disgusting. You will be much happier without him I guarantee you this.

WTF have I read? He's an utter cunt.

I didn’t think this could get worse. But here it is. Get better and then get rid of him. One day you look back on this pivotal moment and be so glad! Good luck.

Honestly still incredulous, what a wee fucker he is! Get to your mums, happy to go collect your stuff and kick him in the shins!!

I'm sorry I rarely jump straight to this but...

You need to leave this man. Now.

Well there's no way back from this. Hope you feel better soon.

Get him to FUCK!

I can't believe what I've just read! I wish you a speedy recovery OP - definitely at your mum's. 💐

I VERY much hope that this situation opens your eyes to what a monumental piece of shit he is and ensures you get away from him. I'd expect more from a neighbour in my hoir of need, never mind a husband!!! Don't enter into discussions or listen to him whining, either. Cut him off.

He can fuck off. You deserve better.

OP that sounds horrible and must have been quite frightening as well as thectrauma of pain. I hope the surgery was a success and they are looking after you.

Relationship wise you would be better off without him. He's treated you terribly, is unremorseful and making you feel worse about it all. I don't see how you can get past this, and don't think you should try to get over it. But try not to let him get to you right now as you need to recuperate.

He doesn't even sound human let alone a life partner. You deserve a good love not cruelty. Give yourself some grace now though, an operation needs proper recuperation - give yourself that healing time ✨️☀️🍀 best of luck ♥️

Definitely for the best, good for your mum. Well done for being strong - you are 100% in the right and will be in better hands with her to help you to recover.

This is definitely LTB. He is a horrible bastard.

I don't think I've ever said this on MN before, but my advice is LTB! What an absolute bastard he is, and that would be the end of it for me.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Swine. Unless you are a proven hypochondriac, get rid of that man. Not even a friend, not even a good Samaritan. You have had a warning, be grateful for it.
P.S. I would not leave a stranger alone like that - the other week a drunk old man buggered over stepping off a train late at night, only two people got off the train apart from the old man, and I was already covering the old bastard in fucks in my head (thinking, I shall have to wait till the ambulance arrives, but I was desperate to pee) and thankfully, the other person, a young man said he would wait with the old man until the ambulance arrives, but in the end the old man only needed a taxi, so we both waited until it came.