To be sad husband didn’t care I’d gone to A&E

[Foxandsocks]

I went to A&E last night in excruciating pain, he’d witnessed this in bed whilst I tried to manage the pain at home, I told him I was going to head to A&E at 2am and he said ok and rolled over. I went and had emergency surgery but I didn’t hear from him till the morning.

OMG!!! Of all the things on here - for some reason that really got me. And the update.

how long have you been together?!

Definitely take the cat.Mine threatens the cat when he wants to get to me.

Chuck him in the f#ck it bucket and get you and your kitty to your mums where your safe and you can recover properly from surgery

My ex husband was abusive and I glossed over it and made excuses for him until it all hit
He phoned me when I was 25 weeks pregnant and being dealt with by paramedics to tell me to put the water heater on for him. I explained what was happening and he response was "ill do it My bloody self then"
Nurses were phoning him to tell him to get to hospital as baby was coming. He turned up an hour and a half later, told me to shut up, said he thought I would have lost weight now I wasn't pregnant and asked the doctor if the baby would have been bigger if she was alive...... she was kicking her legs, we were waiting on a nicu bed being found other end of the country.
He walked off to go back to hanging out with his mates, lady from a nearby church went and got me some things for my hospital stay

He made it quite clear that day he didnt Care about me or my daughter, 20 years later and I dont regret leaving and divorcing him, life's infinitely better when your not having to walk on egg shells around men with the emotional range of a teaspoon

Wow! That's awful!

My husband had to go to A&E recently after being whacked in the eye with a sharp branch (gardener). As it was tea time, I gave him a lift with DS (11) in tow.

He was adamant he was fine to be there alone so we did go home but I kept in touch by message.

When we realised it was going to be very late when he came home, he arranged for BiL to collect him but otherwise, I would just have woken DS and we would have gone for him/I'd have asked a neighbour to sit in my house while I went alone.

He maybe didn't need to stay there with you but he should have given a lift/helped to arrange one and shown concern/stayed in touch!

I’m so glad you’re leaving. Never look back. What a disgusting excuse for a man.

Hope you’re ok, OP. He’s treated you horribly. You weren’t crying over a cough or a stubbed toe - you needed emergency surgery. It’s really unsettling lack of sympathy / emotion, tbh. As for the treating you like a man for challenging him comment - I’d treat him like trash and bin him.

I fell over and broke my leg and my DP arranged emergency cover at work and came straight to the hospital- stayed with me until I got a bed on the ward ( about 3am) and was back in the next day - waiting in the hospital until I was safely out of theatre. He wasn’t allowed to stay for long but he wanted to make sure he was there when I woke up. There’s absolutely no way in hell he’d have left me alone and in pain.
Get rid of that awful man. I’m so glad you have your mums to go to

What a shit!

What an absolute cunt

Thank goodness for your lovely mum. Sorry you've had to go through this, but I really think this behaviour was terrible on his part. Sending hugs

He sounds irredeemable so don't try.

Oh op hope your recovering and please take care of yourself op,
Unbelievable your h has treated you, shame on him,
At least you know now who he is,
Take care op 💐

What the actual fuck?
I'm so sorry OP. I really hope you recover quickly and your mum spoils you

If he did genuinely just think you couldn't be that seriously unwell and then just went back to sleep, and called you as soon as he woke up then I could just about forgive him.

But all this bollocks about how he will 'treat you like a man' from now on?!
Ok so in his misogynistic mind that should mean no cleaning, cooking, wearing makeup, and definitely no sex unless he's now gay?! Tell him that would in fact be a monumental improvement.

Honestly I see no reason why you'd want to stay with a sexist selfish pig.

I hope you’re going to treat him like the cretin he is and dump him @Foxandsocks

So sorry to hear this OP. You have been let down but at least you know what he thinks.
Ditch him, take care of yourself (and from your comments about his personality I would recommend metaphoically running far far away as fast as you can).

So sorry. Hope you’re feeling physically better soon x

Boy cats are the best ❤
Glad you both have somewhere to go. 😻

Horrified to read this, how totally callous, I hope that physically the worst is over and that there are others around to care for you while you make plans to move on to a better future

Manosphere stuff.

Hard to imagine staying with him.

A whole generation of men is being poisoned by that idiotic bile. This is a very depressing watch: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m002m7j5/men-of-the-manosphere

What a lot of twaddle he speaks. I suggest you treat him like the ex he deserves to be.

Not troll hunting, and with utmost respect, I find myself hoping this isn't real @Foxandsocks, because this is a horrific situation.

Sending you my love and hopes for a speedy recovery

What a weird little creep he is.

I’m sure there are many of us who have taken our dh’s to hospital, and supported them when they were vulnerable. It has nothing to do with gender, and everything to do with shared humanity.

He sounds sociopathic and a bit hard of thinking.

Hurrah for your mum!

He’s shown you who he is. You are more alone if you stay with him, he’s been no comfort and only added drama to this situation.
I’m glad to read you are at your mum’s and have taken your cat with you. I wish you a speedy recovery OP.