To think being a woman costs more?

[ClairN]

DH and I have been having a debate on discretionary spending. AIBU to think being a woman is more expensive?

Bikini waxes, hairdressers, tights, lingerie, taxis after dark…

The pill is free on prescription in the UK.

I suppose it's all relative. Women in general probably spend more, but it's also an oldish stereotype.

Haircuts as an example. -I generally have my hair cut every 4 weeks, £15, ( and the place I go to is probably a fiver cheaper than others. if I'm being lazy, I'll also have a hot shave, so £25. Or if I'm feeling flush, my son and I go to a swanky place, and it's £90 for two cuts, but you have to book that well in advance, and I can be all over the place. In comparison, my wife probably spends half as much as I do on haircuts, but her shampoo is £10+ a bottle, and mine is anything that makes bubbles. Swings and roundabouts.

I see your point to an extent. As an example look at the expectations of many men from women they date. Many men do want their date to be immaculately put together, with nails done, hair done, body waxed, new dress. This is not me and not someone I could ever be.

I once dated a guy who acknowledged that’s the kind of woman he wanted and in the same breath said that he would have to find the money to fund that kind of woman’s upkeep.

So I think if you’re the immaculately put together type of woman, yes, it costs more.

But the older I get the less I spend, even though I have more money now. I get my hair cut twice a year, don’t dye it (Asian hair so doesn’t need much care), don’t get waxed, will never get Botox, etc so my maintenance isn’t expensive.

What's your threading bill? 😉( Fellow Asian).

Hahaha good point, used to be high in my 20s but now I only get threaded 4 x a year!

I have moved to dermablades to save time and money.

Thankyou. Seen the drs and had a load of tests. None of the non surgical methods made a difference and I would rather live with the flooding than have surgery. I had a traumatic birth with my youngest which included a c section without consent after I'd said no.

That's terrible. How did they get the consent to do the CS then? I refused one with my eldest and there was sod all they could do

They didn't. I checked with the midwives afterwards as i wondered if dh had signed as my next of kin but they said they just did it without consent as it was an emergency. Looking back i wonder why i didn't put up more resistance when they were putting the spinal in but after they took the gas and air away from me i would have probably done anything to make the pain stop. I was being induced with gas and air as the only pain relief so when they took that away i was screaming in agony.

Id have bloody sued them.

OP says "Discretionary" spending but then OP implies those purchases are pretty much mandatory spending.

This says men spend more than women on self-care on avg, btw.