Ex charging daughter for animal supplies

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My ex got a rabbit for our daughter (now 13) around a year ago. At the time she was spending half her holidays at his, and half of her weekends fri to sun, the others just on a Sunday. He had an agreement with her that she was to pay for everything the rabbit needed (food/bedding/treats/toys etc). I thought this was unfair as essentially the only way she had of funding this was the pocket money I gave her and her savings, however it was an agreement between them so I didn't interfere.
Since then he has started a business with his partner which means if my dd is there she has to be with them at the shop for the day. Due to this she has started just going to his late on a Saturday night and staying til 4 on a Sunday (when she has riding lessons there - which I pay for). This means she has very little time to spend with the rabbit, basically cleaning it out on a Sunday morning before leaving around 9.30am ish. Because of this he suggested that she bought the rabbit to mine, which i agreed to. Ex came in to discuss yesterday when he dropped her off and asked if we had everything we needed including a cage. I said i wouldn't be buying a cage as I was under the impression it was just a case of moving the rabbit from one house to the other. He then messaged my daughter last night and said he would bring the rabbit when she had transferred £60 for the cage/mats. Am I wrong to thing he is taking the piss?? Or is this between them? I am inclined to transfer her the money as u don't think he should be asking her for it. They got the rabbit for free and she has paid for everything it has needed for the past year.
Aibu?

DO NOT GIVE HIM MONEY. Buy your own cage and he can keep the one he has. What a miserable bass!!!!

i would make sure he was stuck with that cage and get a nice new one for yours!!!

horrific!

I have rabbits and a dog. I don’t leave them unsupervised together and while I was training the dog I used a house line. We use doors and baby gates to keep them separate. I can have them in the room together if I’m there.

Does your DD FULLY understand your dog & her rabbit cannot be in the same room.

Will your dog be ok being shut out of the room your DD is in with the rabbit? Is your dog crate trained?

I can see this being a major headache. 😌

'Supervising' them is not enough, your dog could kill the rabbit in seconds. No matter how much she thinks your dog wouldn't be.

That's a trauma your DD doesn't need to carry through her life. (Not the rabbit obviously?!)

I don't think an indoor rabbit & a strong prey drive dog living in the same house is going to be workable, I'm sorry. Any friends or family who would be willing to home one of them?

I can see why he is your ex. What a f*ing nause.

Yes, she fully understands. We already have guinea pigs. The rabbit would be in a room upstairs, the dog doesn't go up at all. Dog is pretty much glued to me, and I'd be there whenever the rabbit was roaming. Nothing will change for the dog.
If it isn't workable we will look at rehoming the rabbit.

This. Absolutely 100% this.
Please do something about this.
It needs a loving home and lots of space.
Poor thing.
Your Ex is a disgrace.

Best wishes xx

when are you going to pick the bunny up?

You do realise that even though this isn't in the pet section, funnily enough 🤣🤣, a 'tax' is still payable??

(photos!!)

You would probably need to send the rabbit and any potential new companion to a bunny bonder, they help manage all the introductions in a safe way until the rabbits get along although I am aware it can take a while.

Also, even indoor rabbits need their myxo vaccines annually so the rabbit will need to be registered at a vet.

I don't drive and ex lives an hour away,, so it's kind of in his hands. He has said the end of the month, as he won't do any extra trips and only sees her on a Sunday. That gives me a couple of weeks to do some proper research into housing, order and get everything set up. I'm sure plenty of pics will be available once it is settled in 😊

Yes, it will be registered with the same vet as our guinea pigs.

Looking forward to the pics!

Lovely squishy bunny. This is as far as she has been from her cage at the moment, but we are taking it at her pace. She is far more confident than I had imagined.
Booked in for vaccinations, and a check up at the beginning of Jan, when I will book her in for spaying as long as the vets are happy with her. We will be looking at bonding with another rabbit once she has recovered from that. So far I'm not seeing any signs of aggressive temperament, and I wonder if it was more to do with fear due to there being many cats at ex's house.
Thanks for all the advice 💐

Adorable.

She really is.. she's like a mini Michelin man!

Aww what a cutie. Glad she seems to be settling in

What a complete arsehole he is

Oh she is far too cute!! Enjoy your bunny !

What a gorgeous bun - thanks for the update. Any questions I will be happy to help ☺️

Aww, she really is sooo cute!

Adorable. Makes me miss my house bunnies. You’re a good mum & a good person, OP.

Aw, thank you so much!

This

Cute, she has had her paws and nose dipped in black paint. 🙂

Looks as if you have c+c or similar grids, which is great because you can adapt the layout if you need to, or want to try something different. Looks as if bunny feels safe out of the cage too.

Not sure what is under the newspaper- I can see mats, but there maybe something else in between. Might be worth putting something like coroplast underneath- will stop the wet getting through to the mats, and will be easier than the mats to clean.

Hopefully the behaviour was due to the environment she was in or how she was being handled, and in a calmer more caring home she will have a better temperament for a mate. You can get people that do bonding if needed.