Page 10 | First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

Hankunamatata · 17/11/2025 08:05

India87 · 16/11/2025 22:33

I’ve been messaging him tonight and said I don’t want to see him anymore because I don’t feel we are compatible. He has turned a bit nasty and said I’m prudish and have shamed him for his interests, maintaining it was for my ‘pleasure’.

I also said I feel uneasy that I suspect he has used that with other women. He pretty much confirmed this by saying it was ‘obviously’ sterilised and that not even rich people would dispose of toys after every use.

So that’s that, I’ll move on!

Boke

BlueEyedBogWitch · 17/11/2025 08:12

I bet he ran it through the dishwasher.

Hons123 · 17/11/2025 08:26

GameOfJones · 17/11/2025 07:54

You don't understand anything. Forget the sex toys, that's a personal preference on a very broad spectrum and if people are into them that is fine if openly discussed with their partners.

But how is consent a difficult concept for you? Consent has to be established every single time. DH and I have a healthy sex life and I love him very much but I'd still be pissed off to walk out of the bathroom to him lying on the bed fully erect and expecting me to just hop on.

This guy was presuming he was having sex with OP and expecting her to just go along with what he wanted to do with no build up or conversation beforehand. He knows jack shit about how to seduce a woman or turn her on.

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Seduce? Look up the definition.

ProfessionalPirate · 17/11/2025 08:47

Hons123 · 17/11/2025 08:26

Seduce? Look up the definition.

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I just checked - ‘to make someone feel attracted to you and want to have sex with you’. So what’s your point?

Luckyingame · 17/11/2025 08:54

No for me.
Fuck that.

Lastfroginthebox · 17/11/2025 08:57

Hons123 · 17/11/2025 01:03

I see - mainstream perversion vs perversion. Understood.

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This really isn't the thread for you, @Hons123

Grammarnut · 17/11/2025 08:58

You're not prudish. Calling women prudish for not wanting to do unpleasant things as part of sex is just a way of gaslighting them into consenting to what they do not want to do. Good you've dumped this creep.

MayaPinion · 17/11/2025 08:58

SpaceRaccoon · 16/11/2025 23:01

I just googled it. RIP my algorithm.

And with Black Friday coming up too. Guess everyone’s getting a gimp mask for Christmas 😬

MayaPinion · 17/11/2025 08:59

BlueEyedBogWitch · 17/11/2025 07:59

“Mfff mmm mmf mmff mmm.”

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😂😂😂

Lastfroginthebox · 17/11/2025 09:04

Grammarnut · 17/11/2025 08:58

You're not prudish. Calling women prudish for not wanting to do unpleasant things as part of sex is just a way of gaslighting them into consenting to what they do not want to do. Good you've dumped this creep.

They're not necessarily 'unpleasant' things though. Some women might have liked it. But it's not prudish to have boundaries of any sort - it's just personal preference. And he should have established those before springing it on her.

Happyjoe · 17/11/2025 09:17

India87 · 16/11/2025 22:33

I’ve been messaging him tonight and said I don’t want to see him anymore because I don’t feel we are compatible. He has turned a bit nasty and said I’m prudish and have shamed him for his interests, maintaining it was for my ‘pleasure’.

I also said I feel uneasy that I suspect he has used that with other women. He pretty much confirmed this by saying it was ‘obviously’ sterilised and that not even rich people would dispose of toys after every use.

So that’s that, I’ll move on!

I had the nasty once, some guy started seeing told me he was into kink after a couple dates, and also sleeping with men. Fine for him, no problem but I knew that it wasn't for me, I am too vanilla. When I declined another date - he got rather nasty. Tbh, being nasty is confirmation they're not worthy anyway.
Sorry OP, ah well, in time you will laugh about this a lot. Take care!

Mumtobabyhavoc · 17/11/2025 09:20

Lastfroginthebox · 17/11/2025 07:31

I clicked on the photo. It was slightly more horrific than I imagined (I mean, why couldn't it be the face of someone we might fancy?!) - but more shocking was the £152 price tag!

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😳

Mumtobabyhavoc · 17/11/2025 09:21

Luckyingame · 17/11/2025 08:54

No for me.
Fuck that.

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"Fuck that."

Uhhh, that's what he was hoping for. 🤣

KeepAwayFromChildren · 17/11/2025 09:28

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:26

Yes, he has been clear that he and his ex were very open with things, and he said after this happened that he needs to try to move on from that mindset and start afresh, which he says is hard because they were together a long time.

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Lame af.

I would get the ick too.

SpaceRaccoon · 17/11/2025 09:35

MayaPinion · 17/11/2025 08:58

And with Black Friday coming up too. Guess everyone’s getting a gimp mask for Christmas 😬

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🤣🤣🤣

Ihatetomatoes · 17/11/2025 09:39

India87 · 16/11/2025 22:33

I’ve been messaging him tonight and said I don’t want to see him anymore because I don’t feel we are compatible. He has turned a bit nasty and said I’m prudish and have shamed him for his interests, maintaining it was for my ‘pleasure’.

I also said I feel uneasy that I suspect he has used that with other women. He pretty much confirmed this by saying it was ‘obviously’ sterilised and that not even rich people would dispose of toys after every use.

So that’s that, I’ll move on!

It's not for 'your pleasure ' if it doesn't turn you on. It's for him.

Glad you're moving on. He made assumptions rather than ask what you find pleasurable.

Chichz · 17/11/2025 09:43

ClareBlue · 17/11/2025 00:21

I had no idea what this is so searched it and my search came back with this. Surely it can't have been this.

I really want to open this but dont think I can 🤣🫣

ThatCyanCat · 17/11/2025 09:44

MayaPinion · 17/11/2025 08:58

And with Black Friday coming up too. Guess everyone’s getting a gimp mask for Christmas 😬

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Christmas is already ruined.

First night away with new BF, was he unreasonable

Topjoe19 · 17/11/2025 09:45

nocoolnamesleft · 16/11/2025 20:50

It implies that the filthy toad hadn't even had the courtesy to buy a new toy, but was using one he'd previously used with a different woman.

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"Filthy toad" 🤣

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 17/11/2025 09:50

India87 · 16/11/2025 22:33

I’ve been messaging him tonight and said I don’t want to see him anymore because I don’t feel we are compatible. He has turned a bit nasty and said I’m prudish and have shamed him for his interests, maintaining it was for my ‘pleasure’.

I also said I feel uneasy that I suspect he has used that with other women. He pretty much confirmed this by saying it was ‘obviously’ sterilised and that not even rich people would dispose of toys after every use.

So that’s that, I’ll move on!

How fucking dare he?

Ew Ew EW.

Imbusytodaysorry · 17/11/2025 09:55

MrsTerryPratchett · 16/11/2025 22:53

My message back?

How fucking dare you? You do understand that shaming women for having boundaries makes you sound like a sex offender. My pleasure is up to me and any decent man ASKS what women like. They don’t just assume. I hope you are ashamed. Not for your interests, but for your total lack of understanding of consent.

<shudders> Fucking weirdo.

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Yes I’d reply this !

Pedallleur · 17/11/2025 10:04

Maybe in this situation things need reversing. So he is there with his dildomask and the other person says that's so lovely as I'm into medieval torture. I've got my pincers, hot poker and other dungeon accoutrements in the car so so as you are ready prepare to suffer. All the others liked it, well those who survived or weren't maimed.

Scout2016 · 17/11/2025 10:06

You aren't being unreasonable at all OP. Glad you have dumped him, he's shown his true colours.

JHound · 17/11/2025 10:07

India87 · 16/11/2025 20:02

As above - would you expect your partner to tell you if they were going to be bringing ‘kink’ items? Or is it appropriate to find out by walking into the bedroom after a bath and finding said items being worn?

I am so sorry but this made me laugh out loud!

But to answer your question: I absolutely would expect to be told in advance. And for them not to assume my consent.

PsychoHotSauce · 17/11/2025 10:09

India87 · 16/11/2025 22:33

I’ve been messaging him tonight and said I don’t want to see him anymore because I don’t feel we are compatible. He has turned a bit nasty and said I’m prudish and have shamed him for his interests, maintaining it was for my ‘pleasure’.

I also said I feel uneasy that I suspect he has used that with other women. He pretty much confirmed this by saying it was ‘obviously’ sterilised and that not even rich people would dispose of toys after every use.

So that’s that, I’ll move on!

"Not every use buddy, just every user, surely?"