Humiliated in restaurant

[Satwife]

Out for a meal last night with family/wider family. Starters all came at different points and a couple of issues with the mains too (forgetting sides). I had a polite word with the waitress who was apologetic. DH felt this was unnecessary.

Bill was brought over by a man and he apologised for the issues and said they were very busy with new staff getting used to things before December. Apology was directed to me.

DH said ‘sorry mate, she’s due on’ and laughed. Man didn’t react and awkwardly said he’d get the card machine.

DH maintains today I was being unreasonable and he attempted to diffuse things with humour!

Has he always been a misogynistic arsehole?
What a dreadful thing to say to a complete stranger. Well, to anyone in fact.

I’m furious for you. It sounds like you had the situation all in hand and had rightly given feedback to the restaurant when he disrespected you and tried to undermine you. He sounds incredibly immature, sexist and behaved like a complete d*ck.

Next time leave him at home to play with his toys.

😅Yes excellent idea 💚🤗

What is wrong with people. There is nothing wrong in pointing out if something is wrong or missing from an order in a restaurant. The management would far rather know if there is a problem and have the opportunity to put it right, rather than have a vicious review left on a website, which could damage their business and staff jobs. Sorry OP - You have married an arse.

Yes completely concur with everything you mentioned - So true 💚

Did nobody in the group say anything or standup for you?

Yes immensely good profound point 💚

OP, what age are you? How long have you been with this person?

He made a situation, not diffused one. I’d be fuming 😡

God this is something my dad would do. Needless to say we have a very limited relationship nowadays! I can't imagine what would possess them to say something like that!

How did the others in your group react ?

This isn’t a child we’re talking about. Is this your “justification” for this behaviour? It’s vile.

Ugh no! That's not funny, appropriate or necessary. I'm guessing he has form for ghastly comments like this? You need to have serious words with him. I sincerely hope that you do not have daughters with this specimen.

I would not take the concern over social embarrassment over my wife’s feelings. I don’t really care what a resturant manager thinks, probably never meet him again ever. I do care about my wife……this thread is touching on deeper issues and the manager is just a metaphor

He humiliated himself, not you.

I agree. Typical man

I'm not easily offended but that's taking the piss.

Personally, I would, next time you are out and are in a situation where he needs to say something to someone, I would publicly apologise for him by saying “sorry he has erectile dysfunction and its making him crabby”

Yes absolutely true 💚

🤗Yes who could blame her for getting even - As the saying goes "Don't get mad get even" 🥰

If it was him speaking and you 'diffused' the situation by saying 'Sorry mate, he couldn't get it up last night' would that have been funny too? Think your husband needs a talking to!!

Jesus Christ, the state of some of the husbands and boyfriends mentioned on here is just abysmal. I almost can’t believe they exist.

Seriously, this can’t be an isolated misjudgement. Is he like that all the time?