Would you expect/would your family join in with the Tom foolery?

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Had parents and sibling and niece & nephew (late teens) over this weekend
Our Dc is 6 and bouncing all over the place talking to everyone, sibling and DN and DN are quiet people, which I get. Dd asking them if they wanted to play or trying to make conversation, no one really making any effort with her, so it always ends up being Dh and me running around playing with her, doing hide and seek and playing games etc. I totally get that they all probably don’t want to and it’s not much fun, but wouldn’t you give attention..,or at least talk to your little cousin/niece?

Felt a bit sorry for her as she was literally getting nothing back and loves them.

Do you still think we were all drunk?

Talking to her is a reasonable request, playing running around games isn't.

I have a nephew who's parents would believe he is charming, but in reality struggles with not being the centre of family attention at all times.

I think it's a mistake to believe that managing your dc is anyone's responsibility except the parents, particularly if they are the only dc at an adult get together. It might be helpful to have more activities available, I wonder if quiet relatives would be more willing to engage in colouring together or playing a board game.

Though, if they want to sit and chat, that isn't unreasonable.

I was thinking about it this morning and do think in part it’s due to where we live now (not Uk) people love children where we are, children are included in everything and are to be celebrated, as are old people. It’s a lovely attitude to have and we’re very lucky to be around it!

*Just not in your own family, clearly.

If I had accused people of being drunken child hating saddos last night I'd be feeling a bit mortified today. But I suppose it takes all sorts.

*Disclaimer so far today I've had two cups of tea and a diet coke. Not a sniff of 🍷in sight.

Why would they want to play with your six-year-old?

They’re not an age where they’d have their own kids and if they have no younger siblings, it’s likely they don’t have a clue how to interact with small children and probably don’t even know what children that age enjoy.

I wouldn’t expect to be required to entertain someone else’s kid at a social gathering or play games with them etc. I also find some kids much more fun than others and that would be a factor in whether I offered to play with them or not.

I think some were, as do others

I don't think there's any evidence at all that anyone replying was drunk. People are allowed to disagree with you without being subjected to that repeated accusation.

What spefically gave you that impression

They still live in the uk 👍
For example, dad will often say how when he’s in a pub trying to have a drink & meal, shock horror, there will be children around. That is the norm where we are, everyone doesn’t go out to get pissed and be away from their kids. They take their children, parents etc with them, even until late, it’s a beautiful way to be and completely different to the uk, which shocks me when I go back, it really isn’t child friendly

No, am of the exactly the same opinion as last night and really shocked to see some people and their views towards children.

you know the views are towards you and your (lack of) parenting, right? Nothing to do with the child. Who was, in your words, bouncing around trying to talk to the adults. Which is annoying. HTH

If I had slagged off kids and called someone else’s child a brat, i’d be mortified

Wow can't believe they flew to a different country to visit you and only stayed 6 hours.

I think it's quite reasonable not to want to be surrounded by children in a pub later in the evening.

What do you mean 'as do others'? I certainly wasn't drunk and I think it's very rude of you to come on and insult everyone who doesn't agree with you. Nobody has to play with your child if they don't want to. You sound very entitled.

Children have no place in a pub.

If the OP is always like she has been on this thread, I'm not surprised!

This is the thing though, isn’t it? It’s such a miserable attitude’I wouldn’t want to be expected to entertain someone else’s child’ just sounds so awful. It wasn’t about that at all, I entertain my child and surprisingly, I actively enjoy it and spending time with her and other kids. I didn’t want or need people to ‘Entertain’ her (she isn’t a dog) I just wanted her to be able to form a connection with her and maybe actually want to, it’s sad, but it is what it is I suppose.

She means she had numerous messages supporting her.

I think I said it once.

You've repeated it today.

Maybe if she was quieter and more calm around quiet calm people, they'd feel more inclined to interact?

Nope, I wasn’t lacking any parenting, I’m a great parent and actively care about and enjoy kids and other people. I don’t see them as an annoyance that needs to be kept away because i’m not a miserable person. HTH

What? They don’t stay with me when they come over as not enough room, do you understand how that can be possible?

Are you sure you are not just a bit sozzled and seeing double of the OPs posts?!

And therein lies the difference, which is fine, but not the way I see things and many others with families where we are. It’s an amazing thing to
have all the kids around