Would you expect/would your family join in with the Tom foolery?

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Had parents and sibling and niece & nephew (late teens) over this weekend
Our Dc is 6 and bouncing all over the place talking to everyone, sibling and DN and DN are quiet people, which I get. Dd asking them if they wanted to play or trying to make conversation, no one really making any effort with her, so it always ends up being Dh and me running around playing with her, doing hide and seek and playing games etc. I totally get that they all probably don’t want to and it’s not much fun, but wouldn’t you give attention..,or at least talk to your little cousin/niece?

Felt a bit sorry for her as she was literally getting nothing back and loves them.

Cool

I think each of them could have given her ten or twenty minutes of their time during their visit. She’s a member of your family and household. You don’t go to someone else’s house and not engage with them.

Very lame of your visitors. Next time go to theirs and don’t bother to engage.

They really don't.

I don’t drink but today and yesterday I believe that 4 adults not wanting to bounce, run, tomfool and play hide and seek with a 6 year old they don’t often see if fairly normal and as the parent of the 6yo AND the host it was your job to steer the conversation and activities towards something more inclusive. You shouldn’t expect people to travel to a different country for a flying visit and have to go outside to bounce and hide with a kid. You should have got out a pack of cards or a pad and pencil but you would rather bitch and whine about a 20yo not wanting to take a 6 yo they have little contact with away from the rest of the group and take responsibility for hiding, but not losing her, in a foreign country.

In response to others asking me about it

on the contrary.
You let your 6 year old child bounce round and annoy quieter, older, visitors.
Then you are rude enough to leave the room with your DH and play with child and ... leave visitors to their own devices?

you are not a great parent by that metric. HTH

In other respects, you might be fantastic, but we are all talking about what you wrote.

I don’t mind interacting with children a bit but find it annoying when they are allowed to dominate a gathering, unless it is a children’s party.

And some of don't think it's a marvellous thing to be surrounded by kids in an adult environment in the evenings. It doesn't mean that you're a child hater if that's your preference. Children don't have to be included in everything.

I don't mind children in pubs that serve food, at age-appropriate times. If they are in a pub, especially one that doesn't serve food, at a non age-appropriate time they have to put up with fruity language and drunk adults. And if they get in the way they can expect to be told off directly, then asked where their parents are so they can be returned and the parents told to... parent.

At other child-appropriate places? i still don't expect them to be uncontrolled little hoydens either. But with more leeway from me because it's expected.

I see that the OP still hasn't got the message that people who disagree with her aren't child haters. Some people are so entrenched in their point of view that there's no reasoning with them. 🙄

Bit of an odd choice for a username then 🤔

OPs last post is a bit - meh. And not in the spirit and all that...

I see it's been deleted. MNHQ evidently agreed with you.

Actually it's a shit idea.

What’s the problem with getting people to interact with each other?! Sometimes helping a younger child helps people gain confidence, I’ve seen it with my autistic relative and shy teens too.

obviously you’re not forcing them at gunpoint and can just say no

Forcing a guest to perform active play against thier wishes by presenting it as a fait accompli is the height of bad manners and doesn't do the kid any favours either.

The thread is so weird to me I started to wonder if I had missed something in the OP. But no:

Our Dc is 6 and bouncing all over the place talking to everyone, sibling and DN and DN are quiet people, which I get. Dd asking them if they wanted to play or trying to make conversation

That’s all OP said about her DD’s behaviour. How did people get “brat” from that? I honestly don’t understand?

Even if you think OP is wrong why did some of you put the boot in right away? There’s a kind way to tell someone you disagree with them so why do you go on the attack from the beginning? Are you angry people generally? Or is there stuff going on in your own lives and taking it out on an anonymous stranger is therapeutic? Honestly, why? I genuinely would love to know?

Of course, not surprisingly after a page or so of this OP lashed out (wouldn’t have done it myself but I can certainly see why somebody might). Which everybody clearly loved because they can feel justified in piling on even more. But you were piling on before OP ever bit back. Why?

Yeah, somehow I don't believe that.

It is shit. Rude and entitled.

So for you, and presumably OP and her supporters, it is ok to have a room full of adults (let's guess at OP and partner, 2 relatives and the 2 older DC of the relatives who are 18 and 20)

And a 6 year old bouncing around and talking at them and trying to make herself the centre of attention. (later "reason" for this is ADHD)

Is this how people let their children (ADHD or not) behave now? I get they are at home but even so. I wouldn't make a repeat visit to a family like this. If i really wanted to see them, i would suggest meeting up at a pub or café with an outside play area.

Because it is kind of bratty to keep trying to yap at people who don't want it.

I read but didn't even post last night.

I have posted today to say that I disagree with the OP as she's doubled down on her accusations against child hating drunk posters. I don't think that was warranted.

Not all your visitors are going to center your bouncing child.

What I’m finding interesting is, a LOT of people on here have said along the lines of… they’d happily chat to your daughter and play a card game with her or admire her drawings etc, but they wouldn’t fancy her bouncing around or wanting to play hide and seek.

Is there no part of you that can see this POV and think that’s actually fair enough and quite reasonable, or do you genuinely think all of us from the UK were wine drunk last night and despise children?