To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

Are you in a union? You could see if your Union has any financial support schemes (they often do). Or the particular sector you work in might have a 'benevolence fund' which you can apply to. Might not be a long term solution but could still be useful

Is there a supermarket within reach? Can you cycle? I'd target a couple of hours of evening picking packing or replenishment work at a supermarket. It'll get you the staff discount which will help you bring down your food bills alongside earning a bit extra. supermarkets are very flexible on when you work and what you do and there's more jobs this time of year as they ramp up for Christmas.
You should also look into food banks in your area. And I assume you've got the too good to go and olio apps?

When your face and your fanny are out on the Internet they're there for life......which is fine if things work out and you make millions. But most don't.

And all they're left with is a few quid and their fanny online which can be unearthed any day. It isn't worth it.

Also make sure your eldest is getting g everything he's entitled to.....he can contribute too.

Think about it op. There may not be anything coming up in your field of work now. But there might be in the future. So when you’re too old for only fans and you find another job, which could even be completely unrelated to what your current line of work is and what your qualified for, if a company finds out you do or have been doing only fans in the past, then the company is likely to not employ you. I’ve also seen people lose their jobs doing something similar to only fans because it was decided they were bringing the company into disrepute. Something that is so short term as only fans can ruin your future prospects- because with advanced technology and AI, it’s extremely easy to find someone on the internet now, even if they go by another alias.
I have heard of so many cases of people losing their jobs for similar reasons.

My ex dodged cms for their entire childhoods. The owed figure is at around £17k. I would do the claim to deduct straight from his pay and he would change jobs, start the process again and just as it was approved he would change jobs, never saw a single penny from him. After 6 months of every other weekend contact he stopped and vanished. The kids never heard from him again either.

What about enabling work at the weekends you can work? Often disabled adults need someone to facilitate their day care needs and it could be 2 out of 4 weekends. The money can be good especially if you could do one overnight in that weekend? Local agencies or individuals often advertise on Facebook groups. Just enough to get through over next year? Or a rugby club that needs bar staff or grounds for matches or event work? Medical staff for events if you can get first aid training all flexi pick up shifts stuff.

Not the site i used. Another wanted the certification which i dont have. Im not sure bank would work as i want evenings? But ill look into it

I’m a content creator. Making money on content is brutal and it takes years to get there. So many work without getting there.

But by all means do not, do not, let a man run your project for you. Either you do it and it’s totally your project or don’t do it. The fact that you’re not willing to run the project and are ready to offload it to this pump (forgive me) tells me you’re not really ready to do content. This is before the sexual bit, on which I have no experience.

I’d suck it up and be poor for a few more years until your older adult children have moved out, or are fairly contributing financially to the household, rather than degrade myself by being pimped out on the internet. It’s incredibly seedy and unlikely to make you much money.

OP, ignore the dumbass replies telling you to “just get a higher paying job”, as if it’s that simple or those jobs are just falling on your lap.

I really feel for you, I’m in a similar situation with one DD and if I had any additional children it would definitely break me. Everything is expensive, there’s no money left for any fun, thinking about Christmas is already stressing me out. I live semi-rural and haven’t been able to find anything either, all care work demands committed shifts and/or a driving license. I just need an evening job.

Saying that, OF is not the solution, especially giving that much power to a FWB. He will fuck you over. Are your children contributing anything to the household? How long is left on their degrees?

What job do you do? If it was so easy to get a higher paying job, everyone would 🙄

Haven’t RTFT so apologies if this is stating the obvious but are the DCs claiming everything they are entitled to? The eldest at the very least sounds eligible for some PIP.
Get help with the forms as it’s a really difficult benefit to claim but less difficult than maintaining an OF account I imagine.

I get it OP. My finances and circs were almost identical last year and it was miserable. Without sounding glib, I stopped feeding them all, and got them to sort their own meals out. I slashed my grocery bill by £400 a month. They’ve sorted out their benefits and we’re all much more comfortable.

Definitely look at what you can cut from your budget, subscriptions, expensive phone contracts etc. Look at your food spends in detail and see what you can swap for lower cost choices. Can you take a mortgage 'holiday' to give you a bit of breathing space? Food banks, take in a short term lodger if any of the kids are away at uni. Remortgage or look at a loan or Cc with a 0% deal (and keep switching it), £1-200 a month for a couple of years until the kids finish uni and then clear it as soon as you can.

You would be better of doing webcaming / phone chat on one of the main adult sites
Friends of mine do this. A few are faceless and easily make 200-300 a week for working a few hours mainly on weekends

all you need is decent WiFi and either a laptop with webcam or a phone / iPad

a few of my friends cam of there iPhone - iPads using a selfie stick / ring light

The uni kids live at home.

One is first year one is final year. Its so hard. I know the solution is probably they work more. But i want them to enjoy uni and their free time, make friendships and mistakes, and get the best grades they can. I want uni to be easy for them. Not worry about food and topping up the electric and rent being paid.

I believe you can make money selling used shoes to people with foot kinks. A male friend used to do it. He would pretend to be a woman and buy the shoes at charity shops to sell on.

Why not explain the situation to your kids and see if they would be willing to take on the Only Fans role instead. After all you are already working full time so are already doing your bit to keep the family afloat financially.

I don’t think your kids need to work more. But they surely have student loans? They need to use some of that to contribute to their living costs. As they both do part time work, their earned money is their fun money? Surely that’s the most logical thing? Rather than mum turning to sex work.

Is there any regular weekend or evening babysitting work available locally? It won’t earn a huge amount, but it would definitely be a preferable option compared to OF!

But if there are financial woes in the home, they're not going to have much fun? I'm sure that they could both contribute more, even just for the food bills. For most of us, uni wasn't just about having a great social life, most of us had to work, and it's really not a problem.
Even if they just gave you £25 per week, that would be £50 off the food bill.

I'd rather my mum not be able to provide for me than do only fans. Or is rather her tell me she can't afford things and if see how I could contribute.

I get that. My uni experience was so hard though as i did it as a parent whilst working 30 hours a week. I just dont want that for them.

How fucking rude.
40k is a good salary, ignore this ⬆️ person.

Anyway, to answer your question, very few people make decent money on OF-those that do post loads of content and are happy to push boundaries to deliver to requests.
It's a full time job in essence, how can you fulfil that and your current job?