To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

Sounds like you just want to do OF to please your pimp, and the money is irrelevant.

There is no way you'd make enough money via OF to change your circumstances but you're still planning to go ahead with it.

Other posters have given you all sorts of advice on how to earn more money, which you've ignored.

Also - not sure why you keep going on about your degree. You've got a well paid job, the work experience you've got is worth far, far more than the degree you did years ago.

Yeah. They are aware. But one of my uni kids does 3 eves a week bar work, the other does coaching on the weekend. Neither brings in a lot of money and i cant ask them to work more, uni needs to be their focus. They help out where they can and they are good kids. But working more would impact their education and I dont want that for them

But they’re NOT ‘kids’. The reality is that they need to work more. You managed a degree with children. They can manage a degree with an extra shift a week.

Do you think they’d want you with your naked body doing grim things on the internet and paying some
random guy a share of it though? They are adults at the end of the day, they’d probably rather pick up an extra shift but be a little more careful with their money than have to look at you that way

I'd rather die than do that. When I was a single mum I got a second job when I was short of cash.

University is usually only three years. Surely at least one of them will be leaving soon so they can work?

Look the only people that make real money off OF is people like Bonnie Blue. Your living in fantasy land, if your faceless you would have even less income off it. You obviously want to do it to please your pimp, so go for it but it is ridiculous.

Sorry but why do you think a woman of your age is going to be profitable on only fans? The women raking in loads of money, are your adult children’s age. Older people refusing to show their face, aren’t really what people on only fans want to see.

@Daydreamnotbelieverjust read your reply to another poster whose obviously being a bit of a dick. Ignore (if you can). By reading your posts I can hear you’re doing everything you can whilst obviously achieving what you have as a single mum - so this demonstrates a huge amount of resilience and grit on your part. Without knowing what you do it’s hard to think of ways you could diversify. Of course you could do only fans, many do. However beyond the logistics of it all, I’m curious about the impact on you emotionally. When I read your OP I also felt your ‘marketing guy’ getting 50% of the profits sounds unfair. It is you that is doing the work, and it’s intimate and exposing work - regardless of being faceless. I was also aware of the power dynamics and my first thought was he sounds like your pimp - there’s always a power dynamic and the man being the behind the scenes guy, means he’s not the one doing the physical/emotional stuff, but encouraging you to do that - on paper it feels he holds the cards. If it’s a few 100 you need, could you do some bar work on an evening? Local pub? Or tutoring if you have a relevant knowledge?

What have i ignored?

weekend work not possible. I dont want to force my kids to work more. My oldest literally ended up in hospital last time we tried that. I dont want my other two to struggle like i did. I finished my degree 4 years ago, its not aged.

Tough times means tough decisions have to be made. You’re not doing them any favours by hiding the reality of life from them.
Insist they have to contribute a set percentage of their wages each week. How do we produce resilient young people? By being honest about life.

Personally I wouldn’t, but I’m not in your position.
My problem with it is that you think this will be a big earner for you, and it’s unlikely to be a big earner. Also getting someone else involved is opening yourself up to a whole host of problems further down the line. If he is recording and editing and marketing, you don’t know how he will use the footage and could basically set up another account or sell it elsewhere show videos to whoever he chooses and you would be none the wiser! You would also need fairly decent equipment if you don’t want it to look like the readers wives section of year goneby porn mags! Go get some advice from some debt crises centres or citizens advice, to see if they can help you with a budget. There are great living on a budget food series on TikTok that might help you and even your uni kids feed themselves on a budget.

Apply again, documenting everything you’ve said in the post. Many people have to apply for pip several times. You can also appeal - many do, and many win.

So you could work a few evenings a week. Basically, the time you would spend on OF could be spent working in hospitality or a call centre or another job.

I don’t believe there is nothing available. I worked five jobs to pay my mortgage as a SP so I get it. You are being disingenuous saying sex work is the only option.

Well, it sounds as if you're very set on it.
All the suggestions on here don't appear to be worth consideration, so you're obviously going to go for it. Good luck, but make sure that you protect yourself, and keep an eye on your partner's role.

For example, someone mentioned financial market betting. It's not great by any stretch of the imagination but I can guarantee has the potential to be more profitable than a faceless mother of adult child doing OF.

It's interesting to note that you haven't engaged with one person who's told you that this will not make you any money

YABU for contemplating something that would earn you next to no money.

Like PPs, I’ve heard it’s pretty hard to make any decent money out of OF these days.

Could you take in ironing? Surely there is still a market for that. Advertise in local shop windows/on FB. Collect laundry from people, iron it in your own home in the evenings/weekends and then deliver back to the customer. Would probably make more £ than OF.

The two employed adults can buy their own food. Surely that's the best solution?

Probably. I agree with you that theres a huge possibility id make nothing. My figure isnt awful, but you completely right chances are id never make enough to actually impact my situation.

I just dont know what else to try. This week i have £97 left. Pay day is 2 weeks away.

Im stressed, sad, angry years of working 60 hour weeks to get to this point has made literally no difference to my situation, desperate to change it without giving up the job i do love.

While I never think OF is a good option, this is also a very unrealistic take on life lol. If only everything was that easy for everyone.

Matched gambling etc you need the upfront money to start. I have no money to do that.

Only fans is trash. Avoid.

Maybe just go through your finances and cut unnecessary expenditure.

Get better deals on energy, broadband, mobile phone providers etc. Stop paying the TV licence etc

95% of Only Fans creators make less than £200 a month. Only the top 1-0.5% make decent enough money to do it full-time and these are creators who already had established social media channels, had a follower base already, were internet models, e-girls, minor celebs or influencers before going on OnlyFans. The average person starting an OnlyFans even if they looked like a supermodel, is never going to make more than peanuts. They’d make more doing online surveys!

The only way most people making money off of it is either if they were an established celeb/e-girl/influencer already with a fan base or if they are catering to really niche, extreme and horrific sexual tastes and fantasies that hardly no other girl wants to touch because it’s too unpleasant.

Don’t do it.