To consider Only Fans

[Daydreamnotbeliever]

So for background im a single parent of 3. 2 uni age kids, one older but has additional needs. All 3 live with me still. Im supporting all 3 more or less full. Their father is no contact and has been for over a decade.

I work full time and earn a salary of £40k. Which on paper is ok. In reality, more or less funding 4 adults, not so much. The kids contribute what they can. They pay for their own items. My eldest works part time which is about as much as he can manage. But its not enough. My wage doesnt stretch far enough. I run out of money every month. Theres rent bills heating food etc all falls on me and i cant survive. Theres no luxuries. No fun. No anything. When they move out ill manage but at the minute its impossible. And i cant expect them to contribute more. The eldest doesnt have the capacity and the other two need uni to be the priority they are both doing courses that are intense and do a lot of work outside of lectures.

Im single. However. I have a friend who i hook up with. Its safe. Hes safe. But i have no desire to live with someone and share a life. We date, kinda, go out for drinks sometimes or the cinema, hook up, and have fun.

The idea is he manages an account i make. He makes vids, edits, promotes, markets etc. I do the chats, conversations etc in the eve. We split anything earned, more to me. My suggestion not his. All my idea.

i know its not guaranteed money, infact the opposite, it takes a lot of effort to make something. He has the time to market etc. i dont. It would be faceless. I wouldnt put my face out there. But pretty much anything else goes.

I just cant manage at the minute. Earning more in my role is impossible at the moment. Theres no second jobs i can do. No local bar work. I dont drive. I have no “talents” for an etsy side hustle. I dont have the money to buy equipment to start a printing side hustle or something. I dont have the time for much around my job at the moment. Theres just not other way to make money. Im out of idea and i need to make a few hundred a month to keep my head above water now im funding 4 adults alone pretty much.

The concern is obviously my kids, even though they are all adults. We are a pretty liberal open family and discuss anything and everything. Id probably tell them, but its still a worry.

Would you do it? Could you do it? Have you done it? Can you suggest an alternative?

I don’t see why you would involve your fuck buddy. He’d be earning money over your body. Never do that. If you want to try OF, try it, but do it in your own and your own terms.

Why do MNers always suggest this taking in ironing?

Thr op already works 60 hour weeks. And now she’s supposed add more drudgery for pennies.

Op, can you do any tutoring of any kind? Don’t know what your field is.

You aren’t actually trying the other options, ‘unlikely’ to find a weekend job that can work around you isn’t impossible, yet you won’t try it. Letting adult kids know things are too tight at the minute and even giving them a choice to help, you won’t even try it. Other suggestions about surveys etc, won’t even acknowledge it’s been suggested to bother saying you won’t try it. Yet sex work, paying a pimp, that’s likely to cause you huge shame and embarrassment if you get found out, hurt your kids emotionally, possibly yourself physically and professionally, but yet still won’t make money is the only thing you are willing to give a shot?

Agree with most of this but if you need a TV licence it's not a good idea to stop paying it - it's a priority expenditure/ debt and the OP risks a fine on top of the monthly fee if she doesn't pay

I understand your desperation but this is a false solution. In such a crowded market there will not be much interest in a faceless milf. You will not make much so it’s not worth the hassle.

In your situation I would do cleaning and care work. You can do weekend shifts around your current work.

It's very hard to make any money at all on Only fans - unless you already have a following on Instagram etc (which you don't). Faceless you will make next to no money also.

A better option would be video calls/chat lines. I used to do phone only (no images) and made around £400 a month - and it is one of the only ways to ensure it never comes back to bite you. The only risk as far as I could see was being put through to someone you knew - which is arguably more embarrassing for the man on the other end. Never happened to me anyway.

Be prepared for some weirdos though, and it is actually quite hard work. You have to be able to figure out what someone wants pretty quickly and you won't make any money at all unless you can keep them on the phone for a decent amount of time (at least ten minutes per call). But it's better money than any other side work I could find from home - I used to work around 5 hours a week, mostly in the evenings as that's when the lines are busiest.

This may not work for you as you need to be able to take calls and be available once you 'clock in' and I doubt you will want to do it if your kids are in earshot. But if you log on in the daytime you'll find you get very few callers.

Evening work is what i have been looking for. But i have been unable to find anything. I work till 6 and 1/4 weekends. I dont live in a big town and i dont drive.

In ideal world id get a wfh eve job, that i can do for a few hours. I tried to look at the typing up medical or legal transcripts into documents roles but i couldn’t get past the initial stages. But in a perfect world thats what id want to be able to do i just cant figure how to actually get those paid by document not hour jobs

If she’s considering sex work, then watching the BBC isn’t a priority bill anymore.

I can't believe someone actually said take in ironing, I've only see it as a joke before.

Good luck OP whatever you decide.

Your kids need to work more or get higher earning jobs. You can’t afford to support them to the extent you are, and you seem unwilling to explore any options which might actually better your situation. I guess it’s that or loans, work yourself into debt and hope your children will help you pay it off when they’ve graduated and are in full time employment.

No I wouldn’t do OF even if anyone vaguely wanted to see a middle aged mum’s body w varicose veins!!

Your kids have jobs so they def need to fund themselves more. They live at home so no rent to pay, I know the loan is less but that’s because outgoings are less.

If you can’t earn more in your current job, can you move companies? Look for a higher paid position even if it takes a while. But more importantly your kids need to contribute to their own food/bills etc.

Your uni kids need to support themselves. It’s that simple really. I supported myself through uni. It was tough but it made me an incredibly hard and efficient worker.

I understand you not wanting your kids to struggle like you did but you can’t afford that.

I’m sure they’d rather work more than have their mum on the breadline or on Only Fans!

You don’t need masses to start with matched betting. Borrow £50 off your wannabe pimp partner. If the man doesn’t have a spare £50 don’t trust him with your pornographic content as he will likely be selling them for himself.

Why won’t you ask your children to contribute more?

@Daydreamnotbeliever What is your typing speed OP?

Only Fans is cheap pornography making money for the people running the site, not so much for you. It is prostituting women and telling them it's empowering. It's not, it's degrading; it's prostitution. Do you really want pictures of parts of you used to titilate men who want to masturbate - because that's what they are doing? It's not much different to being physically prostituted - men are using your body to do what they like with no reference to your preferences or wishes. Look for a better job.

If I was one of your children and found out what you’re thinking, I would find a way to contribute more. They’re young and will manage trying to support.

I feel for you OP but as others have said, no one is going to be interested in your OF account.

You can do a TEFL course pretty cheaply/quickly and teach English online. There’s still a decent market for that.

Just a word of warning. If your partner is doing all the videos and editing. He has the videos, how do you know you will remain “ faceless” throughout? Where will they stored. It’s a lot of trust to put in someone.

OP I won’t tell you to get a better paid job as I know it’s not that simple. But I really don’t think OF is the answer, for practical reasons as much as any. The outlay and time involved would probably negate any profit you’d make, and staying anonymous would make things even more difficult.
I’m afraid I don’t have any useful advice really but I wish you the best.

Around 65 words per minute, i had to do that for my current job. Which is why a few months back i thought the typing up transcripts would be perfect but i didnt progress past the first part.

though my phone typing is awful so i apologise for the many typos on this thread, computer is much better.

Yes it's so easy to just 'get a higher paying' job isnt it? People who work low paying jobs are just choosing to be poor 🙄

My gut feeling is that you made it this far without doing this, and well done for that.

They are adults now and you should not be having to support them still, how would you feel if one of your children suggested starting an only fans account? You are someone’s child too and you have done amazingly well to get them to this stage but they need to be earning money now. They at least need to be saving you money, ask them to help you make your bills cheaper. Let them research and arrange that.

Good luck x

@Daydreamnotbeliever Did they give you feedback as to why you didn’t progress? Was it lack of certification or experience?

If you have any medical experience the NHS (used to at least) take typists on bank.

I’ve absolutely barred OF for OP in my mind, but her food bills definitely jump out as one thing that’s susceptible to economic tweaking.
If there really is nothing else she can claim in terms of financial support for the household (and that must be thoroughly checked out of course, especially re the eldest) then there needs to be some dramatic changes in grocery shopping.

Community pantries and food banks might be available near her.
Though I became disenchanted with her career, originally Jack Monroe published umpteen terrific articles in The Guardian about family meals on a tight budget.
As OP works full time, perhaps her eldest could be in charge of attending at this or that supermarket for their daily price slashing, and there’s also that app offering brilliant discounts on perishable goods (cant recall its name, but someone here is bound to know)

A family meeting about this should take place, and the position made very clear. As things stand, OP cannot afford to support four adults in this house on her salary.
Groceries constitute the only expense can be reduced, and there shall be very marked changes to meals now. All three offspring must have a responsibility for some part of the economy drive.
Groceries might include essential personal care items, but anything much beyond soap, shampoo, and toothpaste can be struck off the communal budget.
(It goes without saying that any extras she funds such as Netflix, WiFi + phone/data plans, gym membership, and whatnot are transferred over to whomever requires them.)

What’s the expression, you must cut your clothes according to your cloth? Something like that.

(I’m very sorry she was left in the lurch by her divorce, and don’t understand why her ex husband has had no financial responsibility for his children all this time, but no doubt if there were any way that could happen, it’s been looked into.
Fair play to her for carrying this family on her own.
It must be so disheartening to see that your extreme efforts haven't been enough to lift her household higher than where she’s at right now, and I hope things can work out without the OF nuclear option)