DDs phone is off/dead should I worry?

[Clerenty]

DD is 17, we are Scottish so she is already at uni, her birthday is in February. She moved to London for uni.

I messaged her at 5pm, she told me she would call me when she got home at 6/6.30pm. I haven’t heard since and when I message her on WhatsApp it one ticks, when I try to call it goes straight to voicemail.

I know I’m probably panicking unnecessarily but she was pretty clear about not having any plans tonight and it wouldn’t be like her to have her phone off, if her phone dies she usually charges it back pretty quickly and always takes her battery pack with her.

DH thinks I am being dramatic and if we haven’t heard from her by the morning we should worry but she might just be busy with friends.

AIBU to be worried?

Are you OK hun?

I’m perfectly fine , thankyou for asking 😊
Actually sitting here having a dunkin donut & a cappuccino on my phone ..

That is exactly what you said , you were rude !
OP was worried about her daughter, everyone seems to be able to understand why except you & another pp ..

You sound like someone who has issues and you come on these forums to have a go at posters to make yourself feel better.
The op daughter is safe and the poster can now stop worrying. What she doesn’t need is people like you now trying to worry her by giving your take on how her daughter’s life is going to be at uni now.
It really doesn’t cost to be kind, try it maybe that is what will really make you a happier person.

Can you not see the irony of what you have just said?

@Shakeandvacuum think it is time to just leave it now

Are you policing the thread now @BeRoseSeal?

@shakeandvacuum no only you, you are being a bit mean to people

@Clerenty so happy to read that she's safe. No matter what age they are you cant help but worry. Those saying oh she's an adult, stop checking up on her are well....not that caring in my opinion!!!!

Have a stern chat with her though once its all calmed down. I always day to my DS, it doesnt matter whats happened, just tell the truth so we can sort it.

I suspect these days this kind of tracking down is way more ccommon than it used to be and nobody will be taking the mickey out of OP's daughter at all (because their parents have or would do similar!)

Oh bless trying to turn it round onto me.

I get you are far too immature to realise what you are doing here.

Im leaving it there with you because I can’t be doing with little girls like you.

Yes I think you are right there.

That’s rude!

Just drop it @Shakeandvacuum

Everyone’s piling in now! Have you read my posts?

I wish a couple of posters would lose their phone... 🙄😆

🤣

"Ye we can talk at 5" isn't a promise

I agree. The daughter has in fact already moved far away from op having presumably turned down the option of free university in Scotland to move to the most expensive city in the UK with presumably a huge student loan.

Unfair presumption to make pp ..They may not have course she wants to do in Scotland..
Her friend may also be in the same college in London.
She may just want to experience life In London & her parents can afford for her to go so why not ?
Also you are forgetting student loans are not given without parents signing as guarantor for them ? Safe to say if op mother overbearing she wouldn’t have been left go in the first place ..
She’s 17 not 18 , her parents can still decide all these things !

I’ve wondered this for years - is that the case, that Scottish citizens have to pay for tuition elsewhere? I know they get free tuition, but is that just if they study in Scotland?

I thought so but happy to be corrected

I don't think parents are required to be guarantors for student loans - certainly not in England, I don't think Scotland is different.
The students' loan amount is assessed on parental household income, but repayments are down to the student, with money deducted straight from salary once the salary exceeds a certain amount.

In England parents don't have to sign up as guarantors for the student loans, they may have to for accommodation. In addition, parents are expected to contribute to student costs as the loans don't usually cover accommodation, never mind food etc

You do in Ireland 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think anywhere in the UK requires parental guarantors for student loans, although all home nations run slightly different schemes.